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Story page 2: Early weaning Story page 3: Obsession
I LOVE MAMA'S BREAST!
DON'T TAKE IT AWAY FROM ME!
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I'm a fifteen year old - Girl? Woman? Thing. I am pretty self-conscious about my breasts. They are quite a bit bigger than I'd like them to be. But now, after reading this, whenever I catch myself thinking about it I try and convince myself to think about them as they were meant to be. I always used to be torn between thinking I was weird for having breast-fed until I was somewhere into my twos (I vaguely remember deciding myself not to breastfeed, and then being slightly surprised the next time I tried it, when nothing came out), and thinking it was good and natural. While I'm certain it helped me a lot, my friends thought it was kind of odd. Now I think that if (hopefully when) I have a use for my breasts, I will do what's best for myself and the baby. This is a wonderful, very reassuring site. :D
Joy
Thank you for this website! I have been contemplating implants after I finish having kids (because I breastfeed). I've always felt self-conscious about my "saggy breasts" but now I feel that even breasts that sag can be beautiful.
I'm still not sure if I want implants, but my main quest is for totall self-acceptance and this sure helps!
Monique,
Houston, TX
Wow. I am a teenager and I'm gonna admit I have really been aroused by breasts all my life. I've always thought about how interesting it is how cultures view nudity. This site has really opened my eyes to how wrong breasts are portrayed. If breasts are shown in a movie it gets an r rating! I stumbled upon this site because I was curious about breasts and how glad I am that I ended up here. I guess all I can say is thanks, now I know....
chris
I'm an Australian woman, and breast feeding here isn't anywhere near as unusual as it is in America. Most of my friends who've recently had children have breast fed - it's definitely seen as the preference by nearly all women. Keep up the good work - every person you convince is one more on the right side!
Sarah
Many years ago I was stationed in Morocco North Africa and on several occasions was on the beach where topless was the norm. Years later during Vietnam at Utapo AFB Thailand the girls that took care of our hooches would shower and sit on the pot in an open facility right next to me. These two experiences really opened my eyes and mind to non sexual admiration of the human body, ya I was startled at first but it soon became no big deal.
John
Hi, I'm a 22-year-old male and I love your site! Because I have grown up in the United States with its cultures and traditions, I think of the breasts as a sexual object. That's just what they have always been to me, and it may take a while to change that. However I also think of myself as a very logical person and support equality for all people, regardless of gender, race, sexual orientation, etc. When I first found your site it was for entirely the wrong reasons, which you can probably guess. But when I read the content of the site it made so much sense. Culture has such a huge impact on our lives, and it is definitely true that breasts are only sexual because our society dictates it; this is easy to prove simply by observing other cultures that don't objectify the female breasts in such a way. And what can be a better definition for gender equality than allowing a woman to do what a man can do in the same place and time he can? If a man can be topless, why can't a woman? The answer is obvious: It's because all of us here in the US grew up that way. And that way of life has had so many obvious negative side-effects, which you outline very well on your site. Losing the breasts as an object of sexual interest is not a real loss for anybody, they will remain just as beautiful to those that appreciate the real female form, and the benefits of removing the sexual object tag breasts currently have are tremendous.
So there, I know it was ranting a little and I haven't said much that hasn't already been said by you or your fans, but I just wanted to let you know that I appreciate the effort to do something useful with our intelligence.
- Daniel
The media is not helping at all with their peep show mentality which is only titillating (no pun intended). It needs to go one way or the other. The in between where they are now is not healthy. And most of us needs to change our attitudes not just about breasts but nudity in general - If God had meant for us to go naked, we would have been born that way.
Rick
THANK YOU SO MUCH for this website. I am 21 and have a 3 month old. I got online to see how to wean my baby and I am so glad I came across this website. Now I am almost ashamed of the fact that I was going to stop. I am going to make my husband read it and refer my friends to this website.
Samantha
wow....i see what boobs are actually for. My mother nursed me wen I was little but now I feel ;ike I'm free. Free from the brain washing. I DONT NEED BIG BOOBS!!!! YAY!!
X~Lil-Miss-Positive+++
Thank God that you are out here making progress with America's "breast-hang up." My wife comes from French stock and thinks that the American culture is "sick and deranged." I agree completely. My wife has been critized by her family for breast feeding our daughter until she was two and for her stance that women should be free to go bare-chested, just like men. She is constantly complaining about the state of affairs in this country and, when I ask her why she isn't more comfortable going topless, she tells me that she doesn't want to get arrested for indecency or googled at by the local perverts. All this trouble for something the rest of the INDUSTRIALIZED world (to say nothing of everyone else) thinks absolutely NOTHING about, whatsoever. America's women AND men need to be told the truth about a woman's breasts and cut loose from what I see as simply another example of the Media's efforts to abuse us for their own profit. They think nothing of parading "Playboy-perfect" fallacies made of silicon and air-brushing, but shame real women into being ashamed of their bodies and neglecting their children in the name of "decency".
Sincerely,
Joe Teshuwah
Your commentary on the short length of breastfeeding is right on. Most people think that babies need to be breastfed for 1 yr max, not 1 yr minimum, preferably at least 2 yrs or longer. In fact my pediatrician acts surprised that I was still breastfeeding at 1yr! I worked so hard to breastfeed (have low supply problems, believe its from IGT) that I'm not weaning until the baby wants to and am shooting to breastfeed until the 2 - 2 1/2 year mark.
Your website is right on.
Maria
am a 56 year old man with a few simple thoughts.
My wife and I have been happily married for 31 years. As far as I am concerned, my wife's breasts are the best. Over the years, they have changed, as we have changed. I realize that there is always the possibility that she might lose one or both of them. If that happens, it will be a loss for BOTH of us but I am certain that I will go on loving her and she will accept my love.
I am a "breast man" and my wife knows it. Your site has had the same effect on me that it appears to have had on many women. As a man, I have never understood why both men AND women are so obsessed with perfect breasts or large breasts. The more interesting they are, the more character they have, as far as I am concerned. And the more character they have, the more appealing they are to me.
Sometimes I wonder if other men just pretend to like larger "perfect" breasts. And I have always puzzled over why women think that all men like them big and round, etc. That is simply not true.
Breasts do not make the woman, the woman makes the breasts. Women who are comfortable with their bodies are far more appealing to me than those who are ashamed of them or obsess about them. I think most men would agree with me on that. What sane man would marry a woman for her breasts? And what deluded woman would assume that the right breasts would attract the right man -- or keep him?
I hope your site will make more women happier with their breasts because that will make more men happier, too!
Sam
I know that some women may see an email here from a man degrading and perverted. My gf showed me this side, to see what I thought. I have always seen the female breasts for what they are; a nurturing station for a woman's young. Of course, it also further defines a woman's body as that of a female, but I have never really seen breasts as a sexual thing (I'm more of an " eye guy" anyway). I think that the natural function of the female breast is absolutely terrific!!! It's beautiful that some women continue to use them for their designed purpose. I won't lie, I do love to touch them during an intimate time with my gf. But I cannot stress enough in this message, that I see them for what they are, to nurture the young that her and I will hopefully, one day, create.
Jerry
Wow! This is a great web site for mothers-to-be. I had nursed my baby girl until she was 15 months old, and every minute was beautiful. The bond that we formed was one in a million.
hetal desai
This is a very informative site about breastfeeding. My wife breastfed our first daughter who is 7 now. She was obsessed with mommy's boobs from day one! Now we have a 3 week old who loves them so much that she can't go too long without them! My wife has to go back to work after 6 weeks without a choice. She will pump because we don't believe in formula, but our first girl wasn't a problem using the bottle with mommy's milk. But we're a little worried about our newborn. She loves mommy so much that she spends 90% of her sleep time on mommy. Our first spent most of her time with me and I loved every minute of it. But this will be a challenge.
As far as culture and "breasts" go, it is sad not only how so many people can be ashamed and so dumb about breastfeeding, but how corporations that affect so many lives can be so unethical as to contribute to the problems of society just to make money. I can only see that American culture is on a downward spiral unless more people take a stand. I think ALL breastfeeding moms should do it in public. If anything just for the opportunity to tell close-minded people where to go.
Joe M
I was so excited to see this article regarding breast. Hats off to the writers. Men need to wake up and view breast a little differently the sex objects. I truly agree. 100%
Carmen
I have four children. I have been breastfeeding everyday for the past six years. All through each pregnancy and tandum nursed both babies. I just weaned my four year old and will continue nursing my two year old son, who has never had a stomach virus or bad cold. It is the most precious gift you can give your child, and I would love to encourage women to do the same.
annie
I too have installed a new safesearch on my computer and typed ''breasts'' and stumbled upon this site. I was breastfed alot in my early days and I am prone to the ''Breast Affect''. I do not find breasts appealing. I see breasts alot in my household therefor I am used to seeing them. I think that men should be exposed to breasts in thier everyday lives so that they can have the chance to get used to seeing them alot. Even if it has to be at work. I agree with all that this site states.
Jared
Hello. I am a 31 year old female that has grown up with the idea of "perfect" breasts - like on tv and magazines. After I had my baby and breastfed, I thought...when I am done having children and breastfeeding I will have a "boob job."
Today, I came across your site while looking for a bra sizing site. Your site is refreshing and helpful. I didn't realize how "normal" non - 18 yr old breasts were! Sounds crazy, but I guess media has just trained me to think that way! I will try to "educate" my children differently and will share your site with other woman.
Thanks for your site!
Alicia
I'm an Italian artist from Milano. I think your web site is a real precious source for women subdued and mortified by mediatic images of what and who they should be... In my country any woman beyond size 12 is considere fat...and body spcificity is considered some shame... even in the art system, even for me being a fairly well known professional artist appearence and adaptatation to mediatic models is some must... I hope we will one day move onto some higher state of conscence of human dignity.
bye and thank you
Lorenza
I was breastfed, as were my siblings. My sister and I both breastfed our babies. I weaned both of mine at 7 months. We don't make a big deal of breasts, never have. My parents weren't naked all the time but didn't hide naked bodies in shame either. I have never thought of my breasts as saggy or unattractive. So it came as a rather rude shock when my friends began to tease me in my late 20's about my breasts being saggy. It was of great concern for me for years and had a rather negative effect on my self esteem. I have seen many real womens breast, including the many pictures on this site and so you know my breasts are not only fine but very pretty. I have no idea why my friends were so negatively concerned with my breasts. I am what most people would consider an ideal body type. I just imagine it was their own self image issues that would compel them to put me down. For a time, I let the opinions of others about my body effect the way I felt about myself. I know now that a self confident person is an attractive person regardless of what nature gave them. I want every women and man to accept their own body the way it is and grow attractive from the inside out! Lets face it, while some of us are fortunate enough to be "attractive" in our younger years, and for some even on into our older years, youth and beauty eventually give way to gravity. If you rely completely on your youthful pretty body for self respect, where then will you be when the cruelty of time inevitably takes it away! For those who never had "physical beauty" may you find your inner beauty and the contentment that follows years before your pretty counterparts. And may you age with true grace and dignity. And for those blessed with physical beauty, may your vanity be only a small part of who you are so that when youth and beauty have faded, you don't find yourself ugly.
Sara Paylor
Hippie Healing
hippiehealing.com
I am 21 and found this website because I sat down at the computer determined to get breast implants since I thought I was too small (not even an A cup), but after reading about the natural beauty of breasts and seeing the photo gallery, I realized that I have it pretty good!
I also realized that probably the only reason I would want to get a boob job is because we (girls) are taught that this is what guys like and we need perfect bodies in order to get men. I am so glad I found this site, I think my breasts are beautiful, and sometimes I forget the real purpose of breasts.
And I know that there are guys out there who don't really care and will love us girls no matter what our imperfections are, but it is hard to remember this with so many pictures everywhere of "perfect" women. (And the fact that our guys still look at these pictures and still like them makes it harder for us to feel beautiful about ourselves!)
Jubilee
i think your website is really good, I came across as I was upset about the way mine look and the pressure from the media. I just want men to see this esp. my boyfriend, of course he likes big ones, and I think breasts should'nt be sexual and out there in the media for all to see, because it really effects real women, and men's expectations of women go up. What happened to natural beauty? I liked the gallery; it's true you never see natural breasts. They should put that in men's magazines.
laura king
I have observed that the myth of the "Perfect Breast" had started back around the late 30's/ early 40's with the Blond Bombshell movie stars. The corsets that they wore often gave them a Torpedo look (torpedo = bombshell) and really started a erronous idea on how the breast looked. The visual of erect breasts such as those was dangerous due to misshapen breasts due to unnatural forming by corset and blindness in short men with wide open eyes (... pause for comedic effect...) The Mantle was then taken up by Marilyn Monroe, the films of Russ Meyer in the 60's- 70's, plastic models of the 80's (not Barbie), Barbie Dolls ( yes, I went there), and the various very nefarious machinations of beauty that most feel are necessary in order to function in today's social gatherings of intermediate groups.
Why women would put themselves through such sadistic tortures to be beautiful to themselves is beyond me. I happen to find (to use a book allegory) the cover amusing, the title intriguing, and the story engrossing.
Why men find breasts interesting is simple: We're infantile and we like to be nurtured.
Kenneth
Hi, I found your site by accident looking for some bras for my wife. She's 27 and flat chested. I think it is WONDERFUL and she is much less self-concious than she used to be (we've been together since we were 16). There are plenty of guys that either like small / no breasts or realize that beauty is not found only in big breasts!
Paul
I came across this site looking for the name of a syndrome that is related to asymetrical breasts. As a former La Leche League leader, and a nursing advocate and former nursing mother, I am thrilled to find this site. I have shown it to my 18 and 16 year old daughters and will make sure to show it to my 13 year old daughter. My 18 year old now feels better about her A cup breasts. I have DDD cups and she ofter wonders why her breasts are so small. She has even talked about implants. I hope this site has changed her mind.
Wendy
I like that this site is kind of a vaccine against the sexualisation of breasts. The fact that all types of breasts are shown is also a help for men not to wander about in illusions about them, and to overemphasize their importance. Keep the milk coming.
Sean Whale
Wow! This site should be mandatory for everyone!! I too, cursed my breasts and my mother (she has small breasts too). When that didn't help, I cursed myself. Then I let men curse me, as I have no breasts, I can hardly be worthy of love. I began to think of my breasts (and me) as the consolation prize. If you can't get the hot woman you want, then make do with me!!! I punched my chest, I tried to hang myself, I decided to hate men; the only thing that worked was breastfeeding my daughter. Yes, I have amazing breasts, very useful, very beautiful and all mine (no gross plastic bits for me). I want to beg all small breasted women "Don't sell out, please, don't sell out on our daughters, real breasts are ALWAYS better. Masectomy is the only valid reason for implants. Don't be a traitor, love us women, let's stick together and make the world a more normal, responsible and happier place. Long live breasts, all sorts!!
amanda
I've found that the breast coin is truly a sad aspect of American life. One side is the truly elegant action of feeding in public, and the beauty of such a natural thing. I've also been witness to people walking into doors seeing a woman nursing in public. The Problem is that the "boobs" (pun intended) who tell us the this is wrong are those who cannot do such a thing, nor would want to.
Our society views nudity of any kind as taboo. Yet, not too long ago, women's rights were taboo. Or even interracial marriages. It just takes time, and a lot of patience to get people to realize that this is not a bad thing.
However, like women in revealing clothing, people will have a tendency to look but mean no disrespect. This will probably be new to them and be curious about it. Like I said, time and patience.
I love this site, as it has helped me understand my own fascination with breasts. Big and small, perky and droopy, They're all beautiful beyond what people see them as. Just don't be angry if your significant other wants to use them as that. :)
Kenneth
Thank you for this wonderful site. This is an educational site that everyone should read to understand the nature purpose of women's breasts.
Tina
Thank you for this site!!! Ever since I can remember I have been offended bu how America views our breasts. I have had boys stare at mine and it makes me uncomfortable, and when I was in middle school I hunched over to try and hide them.
I see men without shirts with "man-boobs" bigger than my own and it disgusts me. What is different from my nipples and theirs? Why can men go topless but women can't? It doesn't seem right or fair, ours don't look any different except they pop out. I agree with you that if men were exposed to breasts at an earlier age then they wouldn't objectify them. I don't think it is fair for women to feel ashamed for exposing their breasts, apparently sexism still exists as our bodies are still considered "unclean" for the general public.Thanks again for this website, it is honorable to educate the world about breats. Perhaps this will help show men that breats are nothing special.
Allie
As a man I always felt that the way women and men view breasts are very wrong. I see that women especially always relate their breast in comparison to a mans genitals. If a womens breast are exposed some people relate it to a man flashing his genitals. This to me never has made any sense. How can breasts be compared to genitals? Shouldn't genitals be compared to genitals, and leave the breast to themselves. The two are very different. Women should be able to feed their child in public when ever it is necessary, without it being a problem. It is a very natural thing. We can, and should appreciate breasts without making them overly sexual or erotic. I think women complain about men being the problem, but I think it is women themselves including the media who make breast more than they should be. Most women I know don't think women should breast feed in public. I think many of them like the attention that breasts bring in a taboo sexual way......James
James
I can honestly say that the Breast is NOT a turn on for me. My turn on for me is Eyes & Lips even though my mother did breast feed me in my youth I have never found them attrackive. As a male I just simply see the as nurishment for the babes or babys if you preffer. Of the world. That what they are there for to me they also are just muscle & fatty tissue & food for the offspring. Why can't other guys see it that way?
S.W
On the issue of breasts being sexualised - I'd say the nudity thing is right - I was raised as a child as a nudist and we had nudist friends - I saw a lot of people naked when I was a child and don't think anything of it - in the south of France, women go topless on the beach and men and women change their clothes on the beach - after awhile, it becomes totally normal and you hardly notice.
Here in the UK, I know women who have breastfed their children until they go to school - women breastfeed in playgroups, in church, on parkbenches, in restaurants and in public places all the time - I once stood next to a woman in the checkout line at the supermarket who had a new baby only a few days old - it was very busy, 6pm in the evening and the baby was obviously very hungry and she couldn't stand it anymore - she sat down on the chairs opposite the checkout, whipped out her breast and gave her baby what it needed. Her mother took care of her shopping - no-one batted an eyelid.
I can't remember ever feeling overly self-conscious about breast-feeding. I just did it whenever I needed to.
My favourite breast-feeding picture is of the woman who was a director of a large NGO who had to visit a famine area in the Sudan right after she herself had had a baby and was breastfeeding.
She said she was nervous about what she would feel, knowing she had milk to give and she could only visit the area for a few hours - and when she got there, she just felt she had to do what she could.
She asked them to find her someone who really needed help and they brought her a woman who had twins that she could not feed. So she sat down outside on an oil drum and fed both of them. Someone snapped a picture of her which appeared in the papers here. She was kind of embarassed but said she was glad she was able to help in the only way she could. To me, that picture is worth a thousand words.
Cara
I love this webstie!! I am a member of La Leche League and a 23 year-old first time breastfeeding mother of a 9 month old. I have definately experienced the awkward looks that move around a room when I take my son to my breast.
I too think that our society is in a vicious cycle. I cringe when I hear mothers say that they tried breastfeeding and "it just didn't work out." I want to tell them that babies don't come out of the womb knowing exactly how to suck at the breast and it is a learning process for both mother and child.
Although our society and government claims that breast is best, there is still a huge lack of support for it. In Norwegian culture 99% of moms breastfeed and in public! There, it is abnormal to NOT breastfeed, while in the United States breastfeeding is viewed as something that is above average and bottle-feeding is viewed as normal.
We have to start to change our language about breasts/breastfeeding in this culture. Breastfeeding should be viewed as normal/natural, while bottle feeding should be viewed as below average or as depriving our children from proper nutrients.
I live in Kansas where a law was passed in March 2006 stating that women have the right to breastfeed in public whereever they have a right to be. I was thrilled when this law got passed (my son was 1 month old), but then realized how sad it was that our government even needed to pass a law such as this. I have even had DOCTORS that are misinformed about breastfeeding and have encouraged me to switch to the bottle!!!!!! No wonder our breastfeeding rates are so low in this country.
However, when I am filled with all of these negative feelings about the attitude of breastfeeding in our culture, I remind myself of one of the first times I breastfed in public while waiting to get my oil changed. An elderly man shared the waiting room with my son and I. When my son started to fuss I almost panicked thinking "Oh my, I don't want to breastfeed here." It was virtually my first public feeding experience.
As I fumbled with a blanket to cover my son and breast, I glanced over at the man to see that he was certainly paying attention. Minutes later he spoke up and told me that he commended me on giving my baby the breast. He praised my efforts and said he wished more women would do it. I felt so grateful for this man making my first public breastfeeding experience an encouraging one. You never know how people are going to react.
This experience reminds me that all hope is not lost. We have to continue educating people and showing them the true reason that women have breasts!!!! If an elderly man in the middle of western Kansas "gets it" I know that the rest of our country can too!!!
Katelin
I find it funny American culture and the whole breast thing - its not like this where I come from. I mean alot of women feed their babies on the bus, some don't even make an effort to cover up. Some men will stare but most like me have seen boobs already and its not like this taboo thing - I got caught looking once and the lady smiled and I was kinda embarrased about staring but it wasn't a sexual thing. I think most people here are ok with it - my mother told me why spend all that money on Formula when it comes out of a breast for free...
Jaycen
This is a very good website. It is good to get over your horrible tendency of looking at breasts in a sexual manner because most teens read useless magazines like playboy which show women in a very bad way. They must be banned. These mags have a severe permanent bad effect on the mind which is very subtle and hence most teens dont even come to know of how badly they have been affected. ... Youll must keep up the good work so that people stop looking at women in a dirty wayand keep the women of the world in a pure way.
karan
Your web site is utterly excellent. I meet so many women who are unhappy about their breasts. Bigger, smaller, different. Please be happy with your breasts - just the way they are. Men do NOT all prefer big breasts or Hollywood breasts. Men love their women to love themselves. How ever you are shaped - someone will adore you. Many thanks to all the women who volunteered their photos for this site. We need to love who we are - the way we are.
Alex
I am a 34 y.o. male and I never realized that women had such issues about their breasts. After reading this site, it makes perfect sense. I have had my own body issues and it is difficult to get past those feelings even when people tell you you're normal, etc. Of course women would go through the same issues with their bodies. I've done a lot of dating and having looked at the normal breast photos, I can tell you that they really are normal. They're not on the odd side of normal or kind of normal, they're normal. I can't speak for other men, but I find the essence of a woman attractive, not specific body items. It's difficult to explain, but I guess it's the personality that is attractive and even that doesn't have to be a copy of a media template. Everything else is attractive when the personality is attractive. Flat chest, large chest, whatever. For me, when women are friendly and nice, everything about them becomes attractive.
One thing I still don't understand is why some women hide their breasts and only talk about how disgusting breasts. It sounds like they were molested when they were young, or they have a female hater in their family that messed them up. Whatever the cause, it's really sad to see women do that.
Michael
I'm so grateful to have found this site. I've measured and confirmed my bra size. It's changed since I've had children. I'm going to through out all my 36's and keep the 38's. I'm an A cup.
I've seriously thought about surgery but after looking at "normal" photos of natural breasts, I've decided the risks are not worth the surgery and I'm just as natural as the next natural gal!
Thanks for a wonderful site.
ps I've breastfeed both children. The 2nd one for almost 2 years -- ever so proudly :D
Rosalyn
I read the question and answers.And I'm a guy.My question is wont girls be obsessed with penises if guys are obsessed with breasts?
TomNot to my knowledge. I have not heard such a thing happening, but maybe someone somewhere is. Girls are obsessed with worrying about their own breasts.
It has to do with what sort of images are portrayed in the media. Just think about it: breasts are almost totally revealed (just not the nipple), prominently displayed, the idea is conveyed that they are somehow very important for sexual life, the women have provocative poses, etc. You do not see men's private parts displayed to the same extent or the same manner all around us.
I love this site. I happened upon it again in search of articles relating to why babies like to twiddle and fondle breasts. I have more than 6 years experience breastfeeding. My youngest is 2.5 and nurses about 3 times a day and through the night. He constantly fondles and twiddles (I love that expression!) my breasts while nursing. What is the biological/physiological purpose for this action? I don't think it is just beacause it is there, either. My other two did the same thing, but this little guy has more time as he has the breasts all to himself. Any help would be appreciated on this subject.
By the way, everything on this site is right on the mark. I breastfed my first two exclusively and the last one supplemented my own pumped milk when I had to work. The reaction from family and friends was always so ridiculous. My first husband even went on to say women breastfeed out of laziness. Our culture is supposed to be enlightened, but alas, the breast taboo along with circumcision points to a lack of understanding the basics of being a human being. I ramble on, but it is just in appreciation for coming to this place where I know I won't be looked at as anything but a good mother for nursing my kids. Thank you and keep up the good work!
LieganI personally just tend to think it's a plaything for babies. You know, you're laying down there, sucking, and if mom's breasts are pendulous, right next to you is another one of those milk bottles hanging there handy, and not much else in sight... so obviously the little hands kind of start wandering over there. Maybe it happens less with small-breasted ladies? You can try a nursing necklace to distract baby away from that, if needed.
Oh my! It's like the ding went off in my head. It makes so much sense. No wonder men are obcessed with breasts. You know, I never liked the word "tit," to me whenever a man said that word it made them sound disgusting and they're not.
traci smith
I stumbled across this site while doing some research for a project and I must say that it is great to see somewhere that promotes brestfeeding like this. I has no idea that formula feeding was the norm in the US (I live in New Zealand) but I do know that my mum (she's a midwife) has had some difficulty in the past convincing some women that brestfeeding is the best thing for their babies. After seeing her breastfeed my brother (when I was 7) until he was two, I decided that when I had kids I would definately be brestfeeding mine.
Stephanie
All babies should be breastfed. Its best for them and good for mother too. All 3 of my children were breastfed for a year. My youngest is 8 weeks old and so very healthy!
annette
I think man or husband that love big breast should try wearing a bra, like H OR j CUPS AND feel whats its like wearing one all day,or buying one and paying $23.00 or over for one. My husband love me not my breast.
rocco
Thank you for your website!! There needs to be more out there like it. I started to develop at age 8 and I haven't seemed to change size since about 13. My shape however slightly changed around 19 they took thier "woman shape" as my boyfriend calls it, instead of the perky teenage breasts I was used to. I have always been somewhat worried about sagging but when this happened it became an obsession. I would often wear two bras at once because I thought it would prevent future sagging. Now after a lot of exposure to normal breasts, months of telling myslef that I am beautiful the way I am, and your website, I am finally able to believe what I tell myslef. And now I hardly ever even wear a bra. And I feel great! I have always known that I wanted to breastfeed my children but now I plan to do it for over a year. And in public! To expose people to the fact that breasts don;t have to be sexual, and i'm actually doing one of the best things I can for my baby. I am prepared for the fact that people may give me dirty looks or even say something because they may feel it's inappropriate to breastfeed in public. But I know exaclty what I will say. "I'm sorry if I make you uncomfortable with following what God intended for my breasts, but I love my baby and I'm not ashamed for showing it!" The more women who do it, the less harder it will be for more women to breastfeed whenever and where ever their little ones may get hungry. Again, thank you for your website. I have shared with my mom, freinds, and family in hopes to make more women realize that their breasts are great just the way they are. Natural!
Laura
let children be breastfed.Don't make it a taboo, a forbidden no-no.
saima
This comment is some kind of confession that I made in hope of trying to find some help, some answer or maybe just only to feel a little better. I am a 27 year old man who considers itself obssesed with big breasts. I don't know why I feel sexual attraccion for them, they 'turn me on' as you say. This was not a problem for me about a year ago, but now is different. I have a girlfriend, a lovely bigfriend, very beautiful, that loves me the most I could neve imagine someone could love me, because I consider myself very ugly and I have always had too many "complexes", one of them is my small penis size. When I first saw her nude, It surprised me the different size of her breast and I told her and she was too much surprised of my ignorance. I for sure I have accepted this, and if she have been flat chested I loved her as I love her now. But the problem is that I don't want that other's breasts 'turn me on'. I feel like I am betraying her. I don't know if there is a way of achieve this, like hipnotysm or self meditation, but I would really like to end with this shit and remove it from my brain because I feel too much guilty everytime I have this ashaming feeling. Anyway, thanks for hosting the comment, and sorry for not showing myself. It is a little contradiction that I found this site precisaly by searching for big breasts sites. I think this site is very good and that will help me to open my eyes wide as I read it.
Ashamed GuyThe way to 'remove' this association from the brain is to habitually see breasts in non-sexual contexts - this can remove the automatic association and de-sensitize the mind. So watching/seeing, say, lots of normal women on a topless beach, or seeing breastfeeding moms should help. And note: normal breasts don't look like those on the magazine pages.
I am so frustrated hearing friends and family who have infants say that they "tried" to breast feed and that they had to supplement and then they just quit trying. I had a completely successful breastfeeding experience. My daughter is a happy, well adjusted, highly intelligent toddler. She nursed an entire year and weaned herself 2 weeks after her first birthday. I try giving "them" support and advice but they just think I'm some free minded Hippy because "their doctor said it was ok to supplement / stop nursing at 3 mnths" They just take the word of their doctor over all the information and support I provide them with.. The real reason there are so many formula fed babies - Doctors and hopitals. They take the money given them from the formula companies and say what they're told. My doctor does not get reimbursed for promoting breastfeeding but despite that he still encourages it!
"Breast feeding is Best" -Fact not opinion!
-Frustrated-
Kerri
I think that you bring up a lot of good points here, but the fact is, that the media will not suddenly be showing real breasts. It doesn't sell, and they certaintly aren't going to do the 'right thing' so that women won't be insecure. I do agree that if women were able to go around without a shirt on, then men would be desensitized, and breasts wouldn't be seen as sexual objects (which I would like, because even though my husband is interested in my breasts, when I see what is portrayed as 'sexy', I sometimes become insecure). Because the media makes a big deal out of what a 'good' set of breasts looks like, children will still be tempted to believe that even with breast feeding, 'perky breasts' will still be more wanted than saggy breasts used to feed a child. Michelle S.
I just read your text on Obsession towards breasts and how the breast is viewed as a bad thing by Americans. Where can I go to learn more about reducing the stigma that's been planted in my mind about breasts as sexual objects rather than as child nourishment? I'd like to have some resources to capture the taboo and hold it hostage to truth that I may not be seeing breasts as an unnatural thing.
Israel-ShannonThe CURE to this is to see/watch bare breasts in totally non-sexual settings. One of the best things to do would be to visit topless beaches. Or, naturist resorts and places (if you're ready for nudity). You could also try look at breastfeeding images, we have some plus lots of links to more sites.
I think the main reason more women don't breastfeed has nothing to do with taboos, or the sexualization of the breast. I think it is economic. I think it would be great if moms could stay home and breastfeed their babies, but the way the economy is in the US, most women can't afford to take a year off work. The situation is even worse for single moms on welfare. Under TANF legislation, a woman is required to participate in work-related activities for 35 hours a week, beginning when their baby is just three months old. I fear that for breastfeeding to become the norm for ALL women, not just for affluent women, would require a restructuring of our entire economy.
Nanette
Hooray! A website that tells the truth about breasts! THANK YOU!
Kimberly M
I came across this site when I was looking for advice on weaning my 7 month old. I was having a hard time getting him to accept formula. We are taking a trip soon and I was afraid of having to duck in the bathroom to nurse constantly (not to mention the discomfort of nursing a baby on the toilet!). But now I don't feel the need to wean just because other people may be uncomfortable with me FEEDING my son!! If I opened a jar of baby food on a plane or in a mall no one would notice, so why should anyone care if I give him some milk. Thank you for making me realize that I am doing this for my child and myself and if someone has a problem with it, they need to get educated!! I wish every person out there was given this information. People really need to be more educated about nursing and it's benefits. It should also be more accepted in the public. Thank you for this site and it's information. You saved one baby. I do not plan to wean him until he is ready now.
Davina
i would just like to thank whomever made this site available. I have always been self-conscious of my breasts and when I did a site search on normal looking breats I found this site and realized I am normal. It's the fakeness we see on TV and in magazines that is not. It's helped give me a better outlook and I appreciate the woman who took the time to tell their stories and pictures. Thanks again.
michelle
This is a very good website. It gives the truth about the use of a woman's breast. Few websites like this give positive messages. Keep it up. :)
Jill
I love to see sites like this that support the breastfeeding mother....like you said, nursing your child has become an antiquated ritual. I'm currently successfully breastfeeding my second child, and it is going great. I tried with my first child, but she had a tongue-tie and wouldn't latch properly. Believe me, I did make a go of it, she almost chewed my nipples clear off before I quit and put her on formula. My son is now 6 months and I am so proud to have been able to nurse him this far...and you know what? I probably NEVER would have even considered taking on breastfeeding again if it wasn't for the support of sites like this and other sources like the public health nurse, lactition consultants at the hospital, etc. I read on your site that it may be a good idea to let young children and teenagers see you breastfeed as it raises conciousness about the issue and relays a message that breasts don't have to be "taboo". All I have to say is keep up the good work, I was so pleased to come across this site. I don't care if you post my comments or not, but I just wanted to drop a line and express my appreciation about my discoveries in your site....so thank you very much, 007 breast!!
Marian
I think breastfeeding is a great thing and think all mothers should do and not teach their kids that the breasts are a nono after they are weaned.
bradley willis
excellent article, well written, great emphasis on the logic and integrity in breastfeeding. breastfeeding 5 month old mother, under 30, considering weaning as my mother raises its attention to me.
I breastfeed covered in public malls restaurants, dept stores changerooms, but never ever a washroom, would you eat in there!? thanks for reminding not to wean quite yet.
tasha
Good job, I am one of those such afflicted americans. I will clear my issues. thanks for the good presentation.
I don't think breast obsession in males can be traced back to just individual factors like lack of breast feeding or individual curiosity. It's cultural. And it's very silly. I think it has a lot to do with the much greater taboo on real genitals: breasts are the next best thing, and a little less taboo. I have spoken to lots of people with a positive revulsion of pubic hair and genitals. So, their libido finds another way of projecting itself upon. I count myself lucky that as a liberal continental West European I don't seem to suffer from these aberrations. I also resent the notion that breast obsession would be something "western". Am I an oriental?
Toine W.
...Your site is quite interesting in regards to breast taboo because I can also relate to some of what has been taught about breasts. I know that breast obsession could seem abstractly awkward coming from a female. I, like the males in the "obsessed" category was not breastfed because I had never seen a woman breastfeed until I was 13 years old. I first saw a breastfeeding session when I was sitting near a woman in a room while she was supervising other children. I was sceptical and curious of what she was doing because breastfeeding seemed unususal to me. One-year later, I learned in a grade 9 science class that breastfeeding was as natural as breathing.
I know this seems like a red herring, but when I was born, my mother only had a six-week maternity leave and she was in pain the whole time resulting from a cesarian birth. In Hong Kong, parents had short maternity leaves because they were expected back at work and as a result, bottle-feeding is also their status quo. I have lived in Etobicoke since I was two and I have been dominated by North American culture. Interestingly, my mother was secretive about breasts and as a result, I never saw them bare unless they were my own. She told me that it was natural to develop breasts and soothed the pain associated with breast development but she never educated me of their initial purpose. I was never obsessed with size to extensive degrees. She also forbade me from touching my own breasts because it was deemed as "inappropriate" eventhough it is normal for adolescent girls to explore their sexuality. I have come to realize that girls can also develop a curious obsession with breasts as much as boys.
The funny thing is, I never found myself traumatized because starting at age 14, I was researching the female figure through paid advertisements and at 16, I saw nude bodies via pronographies after hours and I remember taking it well. My grade 11 teacher also showed films where full female nudity was prevalent and he said that the class "took it well." This goes to show that if teens are more exposed to female breasts, the more mundane they will seem to be.
I am twenty now and though I do not choose to breastfeed if I were to ever have children, I concur that older children, adolescents, and teenagers (male and female) should be given the opportunity to witness the initial functions of breasts. They should also not be taught that breasts are neither evil nor "dirty pillows" and parents should not be ashamed to show children bare breasts. In this sense, the sensorship in the media does more harm than good (shading breasts and other private parts if exposed to the minor demographic). ...
No person shall ever have the right to impose guilt upon those to chose to bottle-feed based on personal choice. ... Therefore, we should do things as we see fit and not be held back by the stigma and the negative paradigms associated with any course of action (whether it be breastfeeding or bottlefeeding).
Nin
I'm a gamemaster involved in running various face-to-face roleplaying games. A few years ago, one of my regular players had her first child. She brought him to our regular monthly game and nursed him there for two years, after I verified with my players that having an infant in attendance wouldn't be too disruptive for them (not so much the breastfeeding but the overall distraction). It was never a problem. But I've been amazed since then at the number of other roleplayers how can't imagine that anyone would ever permit such a thing, or expect players to tolerate a fellow player exposing her breast enough to give an infant access to it.
William H. Stoddard
I see allot of insecure young girls posting on this website and let me say (im a 15 year old guy) that not all guys are totaly obessed with breasts, in fact this huge breast craze that is going about atm actually repulsis some men as it looks franckly silly. All I can say is that no matter what you are like be it red hair glasses flat chested fat thin etc there is allways a type of guy out tehre that will find that attractive it doesnt bother me personaly if I girl is flat chested what bothers me is if she has a mind and a opion of her own, quite allot of men out there really like the type of girl msot people would class as "geeks" and it is often not the man you would think. to conclude dont feel bad about yourself and dont wallow insecurity can be found attractive so juse accept yourself and let these guys come floking to you :)
Aaron
I'm a 16 year old girl and I think that it is disgusting how society today is obsessed over effing women's boobs!!! I get so angry. And oh, don't get me started on the porn industry.. but yeah, I'm a 34DD and I used to hate my boobs no end, but after looking at this site I feel a bit better about them. My boyfriend 'loves them' apparently.. although I really can't believe him on that one, but we've been together just over a year and a half now so I guess he wouldn't be lying about it <3 (I love my boyfriend yay) but I still have the image of the 'perfect' figure. I know it's fake but still I want it. It is ridiculous.. I hate feeling like this. But this site has really helped me. Thanks!
<3 No name <3
I am a younger adult male obsessed with breasts. Have been almost as long as I remember having sexual thoughts (not as long as some... I was a late bloomer). I just got to the breaking point about how long I could not try to figure out the why of this obsession and try to stop my bad habits when I searched and found this website. Thank you for presenting all of this information so well--possibly that's the root of my obsession. I think dealing with my own urges might be easier once I become more aware of possible causes and have a better outlook on the entire area. Thanks. :)
Truman
i just wanted to say thank you so much for this page- lots of people tell me that I am a beautiful girl, and I wear a 34 DD, but my self esteem was really low. I thought there was something wrong with my breasts, but I see now that there is not! thank you so much!!!!!
Lauren
We should not criticize any woman who breast feed in the public. If every women breast feed her baby in public, it will become normal and mothers would feel more comfortable too.
rasan
hey i'm 15 and I am self concious bout my breasts I was actually lookin up stuff on the internet for ways I could make my breasts bigger but after readin ur sight I changed my mind and decided that mine are good enough. its stupid coz there is so much pressure for us teenage girls because guys our age hav looked up porn sites and kinda expect most girls to look like that not realisin those pornstars have had boob jobs, touch ups and liposuction.
Kati
Im a medical doctor, pediatrician to be exact, from Guatemala central america. I have found that many new moms have the idea that their breast will be saggier after breast feeding, what are your thougths about this and how can we help yung wemen to breast feed more
marcoWoman's breasts change a lot during pregnancy and grow in size, and it is those changes that can make the breast sag more. In other words, those who are worried about sagging should never get pregnant.
About helping young women to breastfeed: there are many ideas and ways to do this, and it depends on your culture and circumstances. Some things that might help are:
- Hospital should not give out free formula
- Seeing other women breastfeed while the woman is pregnant (for example some kind of women's meeting or baby care class)
- talking with other women about breastfeeding after having the baby - again some kind of groups where women could meet together and they could breastfeed together and talk.
These websites have more resources about how to encourage women to breastfeed:
World Alliance for Breastfeeding Action and La Leche League.
I'm a 30 year old mother with 3 daughters. My youngest daughter is just over a year old and is still being breastfed. I just wanted to make a comment about my current situation and the view on breastfeeding in the courts (I live in Canada) with concerns to custody and access disputes. Despite the issues in the breakup of the relationship with the babies father he was easily able to go into a court and have access determined to be out of town for 3 days every other weekend. While he does work and live in the same town that the child and I reside. Our daughter has always been offered a bottle and does occasionally drink from one but her main preferrence is still the breast especially at night time. As she has always slept in the bed beside me and has always had access to the breast when she wants it. His insistance that she drinks from a bottle and due to her age my decision to breastfeed my daughter has been taken from me. I can only imagine what it is doing emotionally to our daughter to be seperated with no contact and no breast to feed from. As a last note I have found out that they are feeding her whole milk during her visits as opposed to formula yet the courts and the laws make no distinctions when making their dicisions pretaining to access of young breastfed children. I think this is an outright tragity on the part of the legal system. Even after being offered more frequent visits with his daughter in place of the 3 day visits her father simply refused as he had a court order allowing him to remove her from town. I fear that the complications from expressing enough milk while she is away on these visits will cause me to dry up production forcing my child to wean on the courts terms and not her own. I feel the rights of breastfeeding mothers are not respected and I feel outrage over such a decision being made in the life of such a young child without her having the ability to speak or express her wants and needs. I'm not sure how often this occurs or how many children have been forced away from breastfeeding by unjust court systems, bias lawyers and uncaring judges. I can only hope that one day this view will change and the courts will begin to speak up for and protect the special bond that is formed between mother and child through the breastfeeding process.
Nicole
All of our closest relatives, the great apes, breastfeed, but none of them have prominent breasts. Usually, in nature, if a feature is exaggerated or prominent in a non-functional way, it is because it also serves a communication function.... peacock's tails, etc. I submit that the purpose of prominent human breasts is twofold: for feeding babies, and as a signal of sexuality and health.
Baz
Well written and (I feel) necessary reading for most young parents (and most older ones too). My wife breast fed our children as much as she was able, but had physical problems. She had a mother who was influenced by the formula companies to believe that breast feeding was a nasty, dirty thing, and was shocked that her daughter would do such a thing. SAD
Ken
The other day, a co-worker who had a baby about a month ago came by the office to a meeting for about an hour. She had her baby in a car-carrier. The baby started to fuss. She gave him a pacifier. She tried to rock him. The meeting continued, the baby wailed.
What I wanted to say was, "he's hungry, nurse him." Of course I couldn't do that--it's not my business to. Yet I know that's what my wife would have done. She nursed everywhere. If you don't wear that contraption called a bra, it is very easy to nurse. In fact nobody even sees!
So, when I have my own company, I will make a policy:
"In addition to family leave etc, we support breastfeeding. Not only is breastfeeding supported at this Company, but Public Breastfeeding is encouraged. We formally acknowledge top-freedom in this place of business. Do not hesitate from feeding your child while in your office, at a meeting, or in the lunchroom. Those who are uncomfortable with this policy may seek counseling at Company expense."
Well, perhaps the wording is rather cooky, but it is in my opinion so unfortunate that just as breastfeeding starts to make progress, women go into the workforce in droves, essentially nullifying the nursing advances. As we cannot seem to convince anyone on the value of home-making any longer, perhaps we can move our workplaces in the direction of supporting a working mother in her most vital role (we know she only works here for the cash--she has her baby for her very own, so I am not being chauvanistic here. Heck, I see my fatherhood as far more vital than my career).
There really is no reason a woman cannot nurse, and at the same time carry on an intelligent conversation with mixed company. My wife did it all the time, for 2.5 years with each child. (BTW, she is still just as beautiful and I mean it!)
Keep up the good work with this website.
Bill
I have breast fed my 2 children for 4 years. They are both weaned now, but I never hid my feeding in public , and was discrete when they nursed- I have been asked to leave a restaurnt , a grocery store , a carwash and a church service for this reason. I find it ridiculous that a child be taught that a nursing mom is doing something secret or "bad" My kids know that breasts feed babies and that is the way they will teach they're kids someday- THAT is how you change peoples attitudes.
susie
Thank you so much for your wonderful site - it is inspiring !
I am a 38yo guy, I have been involved with a new love now (age 34) for several months, and she is totally precious to me. I adore her, and she can do no wrong in my eyes :) She is a very petite girl, and considers herself flat chested. .. she has never shared that part of herself with me.
We have spoken about her issues of course, and she knows that whatever she has hidden away there is not something that I would not worship as much as the rest of her. I love her personality, I love her values, her intelligence, her neck, her imperfect teeth, her shoulders, her bad spelling, her gorgeous eyes, her lack of maths skills, her beautiful hair, her kids, her irrational temper tantrums .. even her little toe would give me goosebumps. She knows she is complete in my eyes.
I dont make a big drama about 'her little secret assets' - she is sensitive about that, and I respect that.
I have read all the comments in the hope of finding some magic bullet to help her with these issues .. but really the answer has to be in your head. There are no potions or instant fixes to change who we are.
All I can do is to pass a word of encouragement on to all other readers - girls, if you are PERFECT in our eyes, then you are 100% perfect in every way. Your confidence and your trust in those that really do love you is worth much more to US GUYS than any physical asset you can bring to the table. Its really true.
Leave your issues at the door, and come to us with confidence in yourself, affection, and understanding, and we will do the same for you.
Steve
I am fortunate to have stumbled upon your website when I conducted a search for breast size and breastfeeding. I was concerned that after I am done having children and breastfeeding, my breasts would be really saggy. After reading a few of the articles on this site I realize that my concern about the size and shape of my post-nursing breasts is simply silly. I have always felt that I should use my body the way it was naturally intended to be used. I love walking and running, I had a completely natural pregnancy and labor-absolutely no drugs, and I knew I would nurse my children (right now I just have one child). I am very proud to have the strenght to stick to my beliefs despite the norm regarding breastfeeding-I only know one person who breastfed her child out of the many friends who have babies. My son just turned one last week and I felt pressure to completely wean him from my breasts. HOWEVER, after I soon realized that he should nurse as often and as long as he wants to since the sole purpose of my breasts are to nourish him. People continue to ask me how long I plan to nurse and I tell them that I will nurse until my son stops nursing, whenever that is. And I feel absolutely comfortable with that!
Madeline
Breasts are beautiful, feel good, are arousing and sexual. They are also nuturing for our children. Breastfeading in public is a natural act but use some discretion because breasts are sexual too. Why does it have to be an extreme one way or the other?
Virtually all breasts are beautiful and part of that beauty is in the woman they are attached to. Large, small, medium are all good. Yes, there are deformities just like any other body part. Implants look good only in extreme cases. When I see the before and after photos of breast implantation, I nearly always prefer the before, and if I don't, the difference is usually insignificant. I usually think a sweet pair of breasts have been damaged. The appearance of a breast is only part of it's appeal. The feel is very important too as is the sexual stimulation the nipple provides for the woman. This in turn adds to the pleasure for the man. See, it's all about us! It is a mistake to risk the complications and likely loss for a size increase.
Anon.
I think this is a great article. There are a lot of people around me in my life that think it is disquisting that I nursed my first son to his first birthday, and am now breastfeeding my second son and I plan to nurse him longer!!! My mother in law always pulls my nieces and nephews away from me when they stare curiously at me while I nurse. They ask questions like "what are you doing?" and why? and how does he get the milk? and I just answer them all honestly, and I dont make a big deal about anything. well, my mother in law really flipped out when my niece comes out of her bedroom with her dolly drinking her "special" milk....I thought it was the sweetest thing! I wish you would see more play like this, it would mean that children are understanding what its all about, but, they dont. Thanks for the article!
I have breastfed all three of my children, infact my 13 month old is still nursing. My daughter weaned when she was 2 1/2, after I was pregnant with my second. I would have let her continue nursing, but my breasts became so tender I just couldn't take it. I still cuddled her and let her cuddle my breasts for comfort. I nursed my second child until he was about 1 1/2, he started to bite down, and just wouldn't give it up. He was also still allowed to cuddle when needed. Mostly he was so busy being a rowdy little boy, he really didn't have as much need as my daughter did. As I said, I am still nursing my 13 month old, I will nurse him as long as he likes.
I have never had a problem nursing in public. It took a little practice, but as this point I'm an "old hand" at it. Luckily I have never had anything more than a couple of dirty looks, which I returned without comment. I have made a couple of entries about breastfeeding on my blog.
There are still women that get ticketed for indecent exposure while breastfeeding, even though there are law protecting the right of women to nurse anyplace they are allowed to be. Great site and good info. Thanks
By the way, I love my breasts, and usually go without a bra, and my milk production has always been more than enough. I've always felt that strapping them into a contraption of elastic and cotton was un-natural. I'm a D cup. And I'm very happy with my big, floppy baby feeders.
Wendy
Great site. I think people are too wound up in appearances and wanting to be perfect in the eyes of others. I happen to be a man who really loves breasts and when I date, more often than not, I end up in a conversation with women who don't like their breasts for one reason or another (too small, too saggy, nipples shaped funny, etc.). Not surprisingly, women with smaller breasts seem to be more self-conscious than those with larger breasts and I think it's all because of the way our modern society views breasts. Anyway, great site. It's good to see someone giving good advice in an open forum where people can ask the tough questions. Keep up the good work!
Karl
I am so happy to have finally found a website that not only supports breastfeeding, but clearly explains why I feel so alone nursing my 2 1/2 year old daughter in this society. I nursed my son until he was 19 months, and worked in a hospital at the time. Would you believe the hospital couldn't provide me with a quiet/private place to pump when I returned to work? By the way, they did have a maternity ward. They told me to use the bathroom or nurse's lounge. I said sure, why don't you bring your lunch into the bathroom and join me while I prepare my son's? Who would eat their lunch in the bathroom? It's disgusting!!! I fought with the personnel department, but they just kept saying space was an issue! My supervisor allowed me the use of her office, but it was difficult as my son got older to keep defending to other people ie., medical personnel, why I was still nursing. Now with my 2 1/2 year old I feel I would like her to stop, but I will be there as long as she needs my breasts for her use. That is what they are there for! Besides, she's a wonderful child because of our nursing relationship. I wish with my son I had been stronger and not felt pressured to stop, due all of the comments from people. Our society is so backwards. Oh, and by the way, my husband is from Britain, and his sister was certain to point out how "people don't really nurse that long here" as if there was something psychologically wrong with me for continuing to breastfeed. She's a nurse, by the way. So many of our medical personnel are not trained to support breastfeeding, here or there. It is very sad.
Kris
You know, I have two awesome sons. Both nursed till just about a year. I am divorced now but even before that we all slept in the same bed and are very open with nudity. My oldest son is 9 and my youngest is 4.5. They love my breasts. There is quite an admiration for me naked. You know it is okay. It is natural. They like their own bodies. They like my body. They are also somehow still really private. The boundaries are there. Life is really simple and open. I think, natural is natural. Being comfortable is being comfortable. I think the love of breasts is just a feeling that they mean nourishment and FEMININITY. Beyond sexuality, I think they are soft and they symbolize mother and just the female energy.
On the sexual note, I know from my meridian theory studies, the chinese feel the chi flows right out the nipples and so I do think when one is making love touching the nipples helps energy flow and feelings of happiness expand. But this is the case for males as well as females.
To me, I think a man's chest and nipples can be just as erotic as a woman's. So you know, I think it is that all things are true. Breasts and nipples, male and female, mean many things. ALL ARE GOOD if one is kind of relaxed and natural and balanced.
Cool site. Thanks
bess
unless we have a MAJOR CHANGE in the usa breastfeeding will always be seen as nothing but pornorgraphic (but I know otherwise) because of those old ultra conservitave farts in congress and if you dont believe me should I remind you of what happined when janet jackson bared her breast. as long as we are teaching our children that breasts are a sexual organ things will NEVER EVER change
mike
Hello,
I'm a 54 year old male who has recently lost his fascination with breasts. Some might say it's my advancing years. I say, "no way", It was my recent trip to the Dominican Republic.
The beaches there are clothing optional and many women chose to go topless. It was a wonderful opportunity to observe and compare breasts. What I discovered was that there are no 2 alike, even on the same woman. Also very few fit the so-called ideal of perky with front-facing nipples the size of silver dollars.
I concluded that the North American view of female breasts is way off the mark and is to be blamed on women themselves for creating the stigma. In Ontario Canada it is perfectly legal for women to appear in public topless. How many women exercise this right. The answer is, none.
Why do no women go topless when they can? I'm presuming they're embarassed to show their breasts because they believe they don't measure up. Why don't they measure up? It's because they perpetuate it by not going topless.
My suggestion is for women to universally remove their tops and let it all hang out. Within weeks breast augmentation surgeons will be out of business and young girls will lose their suicidal tenedencies. Aything else and very little will change.
Ron
I agree totally with what you have to say. I really believe that human breasts are there to provide for the nutrition of our children. I breastfeed my twins until they were 15 months old. I would have kept going but they simply became uninterested. Right now I am nursing their 9 month old brother and I make sure they know that "mama's breasts are so I can feed Christopher." It is no big deal to feed in front of them. In fact, like you, I believe it is healthy. I don't know how much they will remember of this time as they grow older, but the attitude is what I really hope will stick with them.
Belinda
Showing breasts is shamefull and showing violence to children is normal? Children plays games with main idea of killing other people. I dont uderstand amerikans. Love and sexual act is normal human activity. Violence is not.
richard
I visit your website to look for information that could reasure my wife on the issues of breast feeding and its effect on the breast. Thanks I found a lot even thouth its mostly on western cultural believe I think it will be useful here in Nigeria.
Mohammed Alimu
I think breastfeeding is a natural and healthy way to feed my baby. Since a woman ususally doesn't produce milk until she has a baby, then what other way is there to feed your baby. I breast fed by daughter for the first 9.5 months of her life. I even pumped my milk when she started eating cereal. I would not mix he food with nothing other then my milk. I agree that western society is very sickening with their closed minds about breast feeding in public. It's probably because western society associate a woman's breast with sex and pornography. I am a breastfeeding advocate and I would recommend it to anyone. And yes, if you baby is hungry go ahead and nurse him/her in public. If someone is looking or staring that means there "IN YOU AND YOUR BABY'S BUSINESS".
adeva
Finally! Someone has explained my fanatic curiousity about breasts, and why they turned into sexual objects! But I still don't understand why americans think that "bigger is better?" As an adolescent I heard "Any more than a handful is a waste!" then I heard "mouthful". I agree (personally) but what a warped society to have such shallow definitions of worth and beauty.
Madeira
education and awareness is what those people need to understand but I guess it would take them a lifetime to understand such basic and very elementary issue. I suggest these people be brought to a zoo and have a guided tour on different kinds of animals that feeds their youngs with the use of their mammary organ....eg. pigs, cows, carabaos, monkeys and many many other more after all we all belong to the same category... the mammals. am sure they will enjoy it and would know that these animal mothers dont see their mammary organs a sexual object.......
rica dasal
Thank you for this website. I'm thirty, and I have nursed two children. I was convinced that there was something terribly wrong with my breasts, but after reading your information and seeing pictures, I realize I am pretty normal. My husband loves me just as I am, I was the one with the hang-up. Thank you for helping me see the light! Hopefully more women will visit and get it.
allie
Hey people out there!
I am a 15 year old nudist, and a bloke, and I have a few comments to make about breasts and whathaveyou from a textile (non nudist) male person.
Right, as it clearly states on the site and throughtout it regualy, many men are obsessed with breasts because they very rarely see them, and as correctly started if women had to cover up their ankles or whatever men would be obsessed with them. Ok this is where it comes to, porn is easy to get hold of, very easy to get hold of and the reason a lot of men want to see it is NOT because they want to feed their sexual desires it is to actualy see what breasts look like, as a nudist myself, I don't really have any worries with that. Obviosly some men to go on porn for sexual reasons.
Child pornography, most of it is girls, and a lot of it is teenage girls who are underage. Why? Because a lot of men and boys have never seen a girls breasts during puberty, sure adult breasts again everyone has seen. But developing breasts not many people have seen, and therefore want to know what they look like, so they start searching for child porn. Again, as a nudist I have lots of friends who are girls with developing breasts.
The guys who look down girls tops and stuff are one of 2 things: simply wrong perverts with nothing better to do. Or guys who have this desire to see what adolesant breasts look like.
Any girls who want to "let everything out" and don't want to be stuck in a bikini or bra or whatever should visit a nudist beach, you don't have to go nude at all, but you can go topless without the worry of perverts and leerers. Very very few men and boys there are there to stare at other people in the nude, they are there because they enjoy been free, and as a result there are virtualy no erections or sexual feelings at all. For this reason there are no worrys about it and you can just enjoy yourself been free! Nudist clubs and beaches are great place for making friends of both sexes!
Thanks guys for the amazing site. (BTW I got to it via a nudist website).
Sam.
P.S - Remember a lot of guys have never seen a pair of adolesent breasts, which is why they are desperate to see them.
What a great web page, bless you all. I will first admit that I have always been fasinated with womens breasts, small, large, soft, firm. And tho this will be difficult for most women to believe, when I have seen women breast feeding in public ( and I have freinds and family who have ) even someone like myself will see that as totally natural and acceptable, not dirty or sexual or unappropriate. I'm very well aware of the purpose of breasts, but in our society, I have long ago fallin into the "arousual" aspect of breasts, and I fear that will never change. But I can divide to two effects they have. Just a straight foward response from a man who adores breasts.
Mike T
I think this web page is wonderful. I was breastfed for the first two years of my life. I have one older brother and one younger brother who were both weaned from before they were one year. I know that I was breastfed until I was two because as a child, I remember my mother sitting around with other mothers discussing how 'abnormally' long I clung to her breast and refused to consume anything else. I always felt very strange, like there was something wrong with me for nursing for two years when everyone else seemed to stop before their first year, and because my mother told it in a whisper while the other mothers eyebrows perked and jaws dropped. It wasn't until an Anthropology class I took that I learned that the average age, worldwide, children stop is four years old. I fully intend on breast feeding for over two years when I procreate, and I fully intend on doing this in public and at my future profession, wherever my offspring so desires to be fed.
Brandi
American men have an obsession with breats. You may ask why - the reason is simple - violence is allowed on TV - nudity is not - the human form is more natural unclothed than than in unrealistic and animated violence
Wyn
I'm 16 and used to be very self-concious about my breats as they're very small. However after reading your site I've realised that they arn't there for men to gawp at or use as objects! Women object to sexism but I've realised that the Breast Obesession is most sexist- and its made worse by the fact that women are taking in and beleiving all the bullsh*t about boobs the media lets out.
Katy
I'm a 28-year old afroamerican from the US. I work for a major american publishing company. I meet and see literaly "thousands" of women a year. About 80% I find attractive. They have small breasts, large breasts, some have enormous breasts, some saggy. Some have fake ones(beleive me men can tell)But I personaly find natural breasts very attractive, even if they sag a little. A lot of women that are comfortable talking to me about there breasts tell how much they don't like them, And I never could understand why. But I figured because of the unrealistic constant images shown on tv and in magazines, brain wash many women into thinking that silicone is what men want? I'm man in every sense of the word and I'll tell you natural woman out there that I love "natural sagging breasts". I really do. I love the european mentality of bigger natural busts. In America they promote big breasts but there filled with plastic. Breast feeding in public should not be frowned upon either, if the babys' hungry? Feed em on the spot.
I think that natural breasts are very fem. Women, Ladies, Girls, be proud of what you have. Your breasts don't make YOU. They are only a part of what makes you, YOU. If they sag a little, and your husband or boyfriend doesn't like your breasts, he doesn't truely love you. He shallow like a puddle on the side walk. He's no good if you've had 3 of his children and tells you to get a boob job he's lost his marbles. He's supposed to make you feel good about being a woman, let alone being a mother. If it gets to that point, ladies no matter how much you love him it might be time to take a seprate vacation...
I think all women black, aisan, indian, hispanic, white, irish, scotish, portugese, islandic, french, canadian, caribean, simoen, spanish are all natural and sexy.
Ron E Keyz
I m 29 and from India. I m going to bcom a father next month, and the information provided here can be very helpful for me and my wife I guess, but anywhere there is no mention of places like India and its neighbouring countries (except for comments from Zarena) where breastfeeding is a normal practice never a case like "women and culture" course cud happen here, and even it is done in public. so I guess mentioning indian culture and practices might be more helpful for future readers. But the sad part is, here too people are catchig up with the fast life and in the cities the bottle culture is catching up. Hope by reading articles like these they understand the consequences and start using the breasts for the purpose they are meant for. Keep up the good work.
junaid
I wish to become pregnant soon and I considered breastfeeding but my boyfriend (soon to be hubby) doesn't like the idea. He believes that I could possibly become sore and that he will not have any chance with my breasts because, as he puts it, "the baby will hog them." Why do men get so jealous of a baby getting attention from mommy and the breasts?
Cassie S.You're not the only one with this problem. I guess he might change his mind if he got more educated on the breastfeeding process. For example the soreness, you might be sore for a little while in the beginning, but after that it should go away - and if it doesn't, it's likely caused by improper latch and a lactation consultant can help.
Tell him how much MONEY you can save (and that's based on 2001 prices), tell him the Risks of Formula Feeding. And, he can't fondle your breasts while you're holding a bottle in baby's mouth anyway...
I had this boyfriend a couple of years ago who said he liked everything about me except my breasts. He hated my breasts so much that he dumped me. I've looked at these pictures of natural breasts, and I've come to realize that they aren't any worse, or any better than these other women. I'm a size 40DD, and yes my breasts sag, and he found that completely repulsive. I don't speak to him any longer. I am okay with the way my breasts look and feel now, but he threw my self esteem a curveball, because I never saw my natural breasts as ugly before.
Amber
I've been an instructor in the modeling industry with a well renowned agency and my #1 concern was to instill self esteem in the youth...That we are all different and beautiful and those differences should be celebrated and not let anyone tell them differently. In my youth, all of the things that I hated about myself for, were the very things that made me successful as a model later on.
I breastfed both of my sons for about three years each (they naturally gradually weaned themselves). It was one of the sweetest times of my life. I would like to comment, however, that although I appreciate that this was rightfully my choice to do so in public if needed (if you are nursing, it just can't be avoided at times), I always covered myself or found a private place whenever possible, to respect the feelings of others, just in case it might make anyone uncomfortable. I believe the key is for all of us to make an effort to respect each others feelings without judgement or malice and the world will be a better place... It begins with us, the individual.
Deborah
I'm still breastfeeding my 19 month old and want to wean to take supplements and fat burners...i feel bad wanting to and planning on weaning her, I don't know what to do...15 minutes ago I was telling my husband I want to do it tonight...she only feeds at night...but now I read this and don't know what to do...
TiffBreastfeeding moms CAN take many kinds of supplements and medications, and on her pages you will find more info on those. Maybe your supplements and fat burners are just fine with breastfeeding (that is my guess anyway). Check Is this safe while breastfeeding?.
Thank you so much for this information. I was looking around the web thinking of getting a "sleep bra" to keep my breasts from sagging after my husband commented about needing a "firm up". I'm a 24 year old mother to two and they just haven't looked the same since...but looking at the photos of what NORMAL breats are to look like I feel 100% better about myself, my breatfeeding and everything! I thought it was all my fault for not being better about bra-wearing and/or tending to engorgement issues (which I never could seem to get the hang of getting rid of!)
Thanks so much. I finally feel normal.
Charlene
thank you so much for this website. I have always struggled with my breast size. I have felt so inadequate my whole life. I am very petite (5'4", 105 lbs) and wear a size 0 or 2. my breasts match my size- small. I have always been a 32A or B my whole life. my husband has always said he didn't care, but I never believed it. I always fantasized about implants, but thought that they were too fake and superficial. I have 3 kids, and nursed all of them. I have come to realize as I am older that it doesn't matter- while I still wish that I had a bigger cup size (c maybe), I know that there are all sorts of men out there. some like boobs, some like legs, some asses, etc. there is not one-size-fits all when it comes to what men like (just like women). my epiphany came when a friend of mine just got implants (D cup) and when I went to visit her, a guy friend that she knows was there. when I came in with my baby (9mos) and my little boobs, instead of drooling over my friend (which I though he would), he complimented me on how great I looked for someone with 3 kids. I realized then that while everyone (men and women) will notice a woman with big breasts, it isn't necessary to have them to be considered beautiful (just take a look at any supermodel or clothing ad). I only hope that someday americans stop being so shallow and superficial, and women and girls can finally be happy with who they are. thanks again for you site- I am going to make sure that I show it to my sons and daughter when they are a little older.
36yroldmamma
I am 28 years of age and before I had children I had round, perky size 12c breasts. I was very happy with my breasts at this time. I then had children and breastfed all three of them. After my first child I didn't notice much of a change to my breasts. After my second I did. I became aware that my breasts were a bit sagging after I finished breastfeeding him. It didn't bother me as much back then, but after I had finished breastfeeding my third child it did. I realised that I had gone down one cup size to a b. I would look at my breasts in the mirror and be so depressed at how they looked. It got to a point where I would be contemplating plastic surgery. But it would be too expensive and unnatural. Recently, it got to a point where I cried myself to sleep one night because I thought that I was unattractive to my husband. That physically he was not attracted to me. I cried that night and tried to go to sleep but couldn't because it consumed me so much. I knew that I would not get plastic surgery done, but I just wished that there was something natural out there that would help me get the breasts that I once had. The next day I logged onto the internet and found this website. After reading the information and looking at the gallery pictures. I feel like a load has been lifted of my shoulders. I'm not alone and compared to some of the breasts I've seen, my breasts don't seem to look to bad at all. I was obsessed with what people would think if they had seen my breasts and how unattractive I thought I was, but not anymore. I love my breasts. They have nourished my three children and they are natural. Sure they sag a little but now I know that it is ok, and that I'm not alone. This website has given me confidence on how I look and that I should not be loved on my breasts alone but on the whole package. To women out there who like me felt unattractive with sagging breasts. Lift your head up high and know that you are all natural and that there is more to you than just beautiful natural breasts.
judy
May I help you, ladies? Just give me a minute of your precious time to read my message:
I am a young man, 28 years old. This website speaks about breasts, so here's my opinion:
I really love breasts: small, big, tiny, heavy, "square", nicely round, falling down, with or without marks, with big or small areoles, dark or not, whatever!
The most important is them being NATURAL! So, ladies, learn to love your breasts! They are part of you, be proud!
I am a man, but admit: Most men are just too worthless for you to feel bad in your body!
Too big breasts? Take advantage of wearing beautiful necklines! Never be ashamed - think of it as having something more than other women. Men will look at you - take this as a compliment (this means you are attractive! who'd look otherwise?).
Too small breasts? Take advantage of wearing clothes showing your back (if you don't use a bra). Necklines with small tits is SO feminine too....
The important for me, as a man, is a woman being feminine. Breasts are only a part of feminity. What about legs? Arms? Face? Hair?
Don't want to show any skin? There are other ways of being feminine. It's all in the attitude! Wearing skirts, or even some nice pants, with a pretty top or shirt, and that's it. Of course, sport shoes and large floating clothes are very practical, but not really feminine. The attitude is also in the way of acting, walking, speaking.
I only agree on plastic surgery when it's really needed: after breast cancer (a surgery is important for a woman's state-of-mind, while giving her back her femininity).
In some cases, when having really excessive breasts, too heavy, hurting you or creating physical problems... surgery helps.
However, I'm not speaking of beauty or attractivness here. Only that when needed, it can be a solution.
But remember, I'm sure most women are more beautiful than what they think, and the breast size is not the problem. An unhappy women, with a bad face, gives a worse picture.....
A smiling lady, with beautiful hair (natural color is better, believe me!), feminine shoes and clothes, feeling well in her skin, is so pretty to look at that no body even thinks of focusing on her breasts (apart from perverts, but, well, nevermind on these).
I know many girls with tiny tits, or larger ones falling down, but the general picture is so beautiful... what a pitty some of them create problems thinking men want more than that.
To finish: if you are married or have a boyfriend, please, NEVER decide to make a surgery "just to please him". In that case, he's not worth it. Leave him. A man that loves you will love you exactly as you are. You will turn him on, because you are so natural...
King
PS:If you wish to contact me: email me: ep1409ep-tbm @ yahoo . com (without the spaces)
I was very excited to discover this web site. I think it's wonderful and informative. I am 25 and I have three very beautiful children all of whom have been breastfed. I get so angry when people think of breastfeeding as a shameful thing of disgust. I feel so strongly about breastfeeding that I would not want to have a child if I couldn't nurse him or her. It is the most priceless gift you can give your child. My children are five, four, and eighteen months. They have never been given formula and they are never sick, they have a very close bond with me, and they are all so smart. I nursed my first daughter for twelve months, my second daughter for eighteen months, and my son for sixteen months. I loved nursing my children and I will always have precious memories of nourishing their precious little bodies. I am so glad that I have finally found a site that describes breasts as exactly what they are: wonderful, GOD-given gifts that nourish your baby in a way that nothing else could. Thanks and GOD bless.
skarlette caputo
Thank you for this wonderful article! I'm breastfeeding my 4 month old daughter and wish to continue to do so until her first birthday, at least. Unfortunately, in our society, breastfeeding sometimes takes on a shameful tone. When I first began breastfeeding, I felt as though I had to hide out. But, when those thoughts entered my head, I did not follow through. I'm comfortable with breastfeeding my child and I will not hide out in a bathroom to do so while out in public or go to another room at a friend's house. Breastfeeding is a natural and the most beautiful thing a mother could give to her child!
Cammie
The picture captions seem a little 'Off' but I liked this site. People always used to be shocked that my mom breastfeed myself and my 3 siblings (my sister until age 2). My background is Pakistani, and our mothers have always believed it to be the most natural and healthy way. Even in parties women will step aside into a room to feed with no problem--it is only in America, land of 'freedom', where my mom was chastised for feeding all of us and making us 'dependent'!
Zareena
A friend sent me the link to this site to be funny; however, I found it quite informative. If I had not been informed about the how important breastfeeding is, I may have been a parent and seen my child trying to play with his or her mother's breasts and thought there was something wrong with it. However, I am glad to know that I have been adequately informed on the subject and that I will be able to do things right when I'm a parent. Thanks.
Jeffrey
I think that a mother breastfeeding a baby is the most beautifull sight to behold.
im a 20 yr old from the uk who today was considering surgery. after seeing your website I have decided not to have it done as my breast are normal and exactly like the ones in the 'have u ever seen normal boobs?' picture. now I know anytime I feel a bit down or self conscious I can tell myself I am normal!!!! your are an inspirational website thankyou ever so much xx
cassie
About time! I live in Happy Conservative Valley, Utah, and this is the FIRST time I've heard someone voice my opinions the way this website has done. There's something shameful in the fact that I'm the only one in my class who can look at a Botticelli nude and feel peace instead of arousal or shame.
Danny
I think you are right on the mark. the ignorance of people sometimes upsets me to the point of frustration and then I give up. So much of what we call sick or perverted is created in the minds of the sick and perverted. to me making something as natural as brestfeeding a no no, is twisted human behavior. Sure I see them as sexual too, I am a victum of my rearing a 60yr old male thet was taught they were mostly sexual and served as a side line to feed babies. Which by the way was not necessary when formula is available. But formula does not provide all the nurishment and health benifits as mothers milk. Todays mothers care about themselve first and there babies second. Don't ask them to go through the inconvience and embarisment of being human.
Gerald Sewell
I breastfed my daughter for 16 months. I would have gone longer but she was trying to wean for many months before that and so I let it go. Still, though, she sees my breasts when we bathe together, when I dress in front of her and I believe that if/when she asks about them, that I should answer her questions. She sees them just as a normal part of the human body and I am so proud of that! They are natural, they are what gave her nutrition for the first year of her life, why should anyone be ashamed of that? She knows mommy has them and she's even asked about them in public. If more children felt the same way about breasts, maybe the taboo of them would disappear healthfully.
Kiera
Thank you for the good information. I've always wondered why female breasts were so appealing to look at and why we seem to have a culture that is obsessed with breasts. Thanks to your article I know have some understanding why this problem has occurred.
Jon
I think our attitudes to the nude human body is an attitude passed on to us by our great-grandfathers and is totally wrong. Clothes are to keep us warm as we do not have enough body hair to keep us warm.
When the weather is warm we should be able to be in public as we please - this is supposed to be an enlightened civilisation! Feeding a baby in public is to be commended as being nude in public should be. When will we have this freedom? What other form of life hides its nudity? Why do we criticise so-called 3rd nations for their nudity which is so natural? We have a lot to learn. I think seeing a woman breast feeding her baby is a most beautiful sight.
Dennis. H
Hello,
First, I like to say that you have a very interesting site about breasts. I been obessed with breasts for 3 years now due to curiousity from looking at a brief sight of porn (I am 19 now). I wondered to myself why I look at this stuff, why I am obessed at looking at it, and why breasts are so interestng to see in general. Thanks to your site, majority of my questions have been answered and made me lesser of a "pervert" than I was. If breasts, topless women, and breastfeeding were a common sight then society wouldn't sexualized it like they did to the porn industry.
Thank you, 007b, for making me realized what breasts are from a different light.
Brandon
i live in australia, and have a 2 year old son. I stopped bf when he was six months, mainly because he was an absolute gannet and was bordering on obese. this was from advice from my midwife.
what I find wierd is that people in america have such a backward attitude (not all, but the "like a cow?" comment made me go.. huh?) when I decided to stop bf, people were like.. "oh, why would you stop? it's so good for you blah blah.."
maybe if you would tell the younguns that bf gets you back into shape quicker, they would line up and get 'em out...
hope everyone finds this site.. it rules
Sarah
Wow, I (18yo male) have never seen breasts presented like this before (figuratively speaking). Thank you for this information, it was enlightening : )
A.
I'm so grateful to have found this website. Your explanations have helped me to better understand my interest in breast feeding and nursing. My mother did not breast feed me as a child and rarely allowed a glipse of her except in a bra, or once when I hid in her closet. Thanks to your website I now see things very differently and respectfully.
Dennis
I like your web page. You are right the sexual obsession with breasts has gone crazy!! People think it odd to breastfeed a baby in public.. yet, that is their natural function. If you go to a resort with both europeans and americans, the american men go crazy do to bare breast sightings, and u know it is embarrasing to our international reputation!
nathan
i don't see why breast feeding should be done in public. I think it should be a private thing. yes, it is a natural process, but so is urinating, and I don't think that should be done in public either.
samPeople often use this argument, saying that breastfeeding is supposedly comparable to urinating or defecating or vomiting etc., and therefore should not be done in public - but it is not a just comparison. How is getting rid of body's unhygienic waste products comparable to feeding someone? Breast milk is food, and has many antibacterial and antiviral substances. Coming from a healthy person it is STERILE. It all boils down to the sexualization of breasts (again) being the reason that breastfeeding is seen as 'gross' or unacceptable in public.
let them see it is a normal function, noone thinks anything abiout watching animals suckle , what is the difference?
Hi! I live in Ireland. I'm a 17 year old male. I was breastfed as a baby. I have seen bare breasts before; I've seen my mothers and I've been to the Mediterranean and seen many other women's bare breasts on the beach too. I've also seen countless bare-breasts in pornographic material.
That said though I've never been intimate with a girl with her breasts bare. Do I like breasts? Well just like any other bodypart, some girls have nice legs, others don't, some have nice stomachs, others don't... but... I think the pornographic industry has monopolized on a certain little feature of our species: men don't have breasts.
So for the likes of myself, who would very much like to be sexually intimate with a naked girl, it's almost as if pornographic images of bare breasts are flouted in front of us as a body part we've never touched or kissed, and so we sort-of get this inner frustration of what we want but just can't have.
The pornographic industry wouldn't have been able to achieve this if it wasn't for our culture. Here's an example: Here in Ireland, if an attractive woman were to expose here breasts to me, I would become physically aroused; but after just a few hours on a Mediterranean beach, I just got used to seeing naked breasts, and there was no reason they should get me any more sexually aro
