Where does the breast
obsession stem from?

Story page 3: Obsession

I LOVE MAMA'S BREAST!

DON'T TAKE IT AWAY FROM ME!

Nursing a newborn.

Breast obsession

So what is it about the breasts that makes North Americans so obsessed with them as sexual objects? In the course of history many different parts of the female body have been fetishes for men, for example ankles, necks, and tiny feet (in China), so why breast obsession in our age?

It seems to be linked to the fact breasts are viewed so strongly as sexual body parts, and not seen as baby feeders. In fact, Americans are about to forget the natural function of the breasts.

In the fall of 1993, one of the undergraduate students in my 'Women and Culture' course was totally flabbergasted to discover that the biological function of women's breasts was for feeding children. With obvious shock and disgust evident in her voice she asked, 'You mean women's breasts are like a cow's udder?' That a young woman could reach college without ever having even heard of women using their breasts to feed their children is a sad commentary on American culture.
Katherine Dettwyler as quoted in The Breastfeeding Action Committee of Edmonton (BACE) report about Breastfeeding at Municipal Pools in Canada

If we can see breasts as the wonderful means God created to feed and comfort babies, then the obsessions men have about them can disappear; and importantly, women don't have to obsessively worry about the size and shape of their breasts.

This obsession HURTS women and men in various ways that are not always obvious. For example, a woman may need to go braless because of her breast health's sake, which results in men ogling over her, making comments, and considering her only on a sexual level (see comment by Chris below).

"It is inappropriate to take the very Western cultural idea that breasts are sexual organs and turn it into a "Law of Nature," applicable to all people, at all times. It is inappropriate to let the very Western cultural idea that breasts are for men overshadow their primary biological function for feeding children, just as it was inappropriate for people in Chinese society to let the cultural idea that deformed feet were sexually stimulating overshadow their primary biological function for walking. Women and children are harmed by Western beliefs about breasts, both directly and indirectly, both physically and emotionally."
Katherine Dettwyler in The Cultural Context of Breastfeeding in the United States

But why does the American society view breasts primarily as sexual objects and not as baby feeders? Carolyn Latteier voiced it out this way in Berman & Berman's TV program "All about breasts":

"Well, I think it is partly to do with the fact that we don't breastfeed very much. I mean, breastfeeding rates have improved, but most women don't breastfeed very much or very long or in public. So when we see a breast, we don't say, "Oh there are those magical milk-making things."
(see transcript)

Let's see how that might come about.

Bottle feeding story

Baby is fed from the bottle, so he doesn't get to know Mom's breast as a food source and as the best pacifier. Also, if Mom never undresses or uncovers her bosom in front of her child, the child never gets to see breasts. Parents, society, TV, and media show breasts to be something forbidden, something to be covered, yet exciting and sexual, preferably large and upright, and the child easily ends up believing that way, as well.

But what if the baby is breastfed?, you might say. After all, most women do breastfeed their babies at least in the hospital. But they don't do it for very long! Let's imagine what happens in the weaning process.

Weaning story

Baby is breast fed in the beginning. But, maybe Mom has problems with breastfeeding, can't find help, and has to start a supplemental bottle. This reduces her milk supply, and soon the baby is weaned. Or maybe Mom goes to work at six weeks and weans the baby completely at this point (she could, however, continue nursing in the evening and morning).

So, for whatever reason, Mom weans the baby early on. But just because Mom quits nursing doesn't mean the baby wants to. The attachment and love for Mommy's breasts doesn't go away just like that. The baby loses its best source of food, yes, but it also loses one of its sources of comfort and security.

The babe is probably feeling along the lines, "Hey, don't take those away from me! Those soft sponges belong to me! You can't do that! Hey, nobody here cares about my feelings! Please Mommy....."

This kind of early and forced weaning can hurt the baby emotionally. Deep inside he retains this feeling of wanting the breast. The baby still likes Mommy's breasts. He/she is still interested in Mommy's bosom and wants to touch it, cuddle the breast, feel close — and get the yummy milk (remember breast milk tastes a lot sweeter than formula).

You can see this when weaned toddlers and babies are still interested in breasts and want to touch them. Unfortunately, many times the mother feels uneasy about it and maybe thinks it is indecent or perverted behavior. The father may feel the same and fear that his child (especially his son) is going to grow up to be some kind of pervert. But that is not true! Little children don't think sexual things!

Then the mother tries to get her child to stop this "nipple twiddling" and breast cuddling. The child is probably taught that touching naked breasts is BAD, it is a "NO-NO". Now, if the mother never lets her children see bare breasts, it is no wonder that the child develops a curiosity towards breasts. The child stars thinking, "What is it about them? Wonder what they look like? Why do they keep them hidden?"

While the child is growing up, everything around her touts that breasts are forbidden, a taboo. We know that taboos just encourage curiosity. On top of that, the media presents breasts not only as forbidden but something exciting and sexual, which starts arousing sexual feelings especially in boys. Girls at least get to see their own breasts and often times Mom's too, which lessens this curiosity/excitement factor.

So, what started as innocent curiosity and love towards Mommy's breasts can be turned into sexual feelings in boys, whereas young girls start (often obsessively) worrying about the sexual attractiveness of their breasts. They worry about their breast size and shape, nipple size and shape, stretch marks, sagginess — about every aspect of their breasts, and quite often start wishing for breast implants, assuming that breasts need to be big to be attractive.

It all starts when you take the breast away from the child AND then make seeing breasts a forbidden no-no for the rest of the child's growing period. The end result is a distorted view of female breasts.

So what should you do if your already weaned child wants to touch mom's breasts and is very curious about them? Here's what to do: explain in the child's level of understanding what those pieces of flesh are for. Explain to him/her: "These are the milk bottles you drank from as a tiny baby. They are called breasts." Or, "These are like milk bottles. Milk comes out of them when babies suckle and they're called breasts." Show the child a few photos of nursing (from the Internet, for example). Give him/her a biology lesson (on her terms)!

The WORST thing to do is to make a big fuss, to declare breasts a no-no and something totally forbidden (taboo). It's simple enough to tell the child what they are, and do so in a no-nonsense style, just sort of "no big deal", normal type of thing. That should satisfy the child's curiosity.

After a while, such curiosity will probably pass and something else will take its place... just don't make it any big deal. But IF the child keeps wanting to touch and cuddle for a long time, you can explain that "These are the milk bottles but they are my body parts and you don't have to touch me here all the time." You can offer a reason such as "...the nipple is so sensitive." But first make sure you've given the explanations.

Vicious cycle

The less women breastfeed, the less people get to see the real purpose of breasts. At the same time media everywhere touts the view of female breasts as sexual. That in turn makes it harder for women to breastfeed, since many of the reasons for not breastfeeding are linked to the sexualization of breasts.

So the less women breastfeed, the harder it becomes for women to breastfeed. We have a cycle that self-promotes the view that the main purpose of female breasts is for something else than feeding babies!

The cure?

First, let children be breastfed.

Then, let older children and teenagers see breastfeeding moms and their babies.

Let them learn about breasts and breastfeeding. Let them see breasts used for their purpose.

Don't make it a taboo, a forbidden no-no.

Visitor questions/comments

After looking through your website I was in ecstasy! I feel like I am finally escaping the great American breast brainwashing. Since age 13 when I first was exposed to pornography I have been totally obsessed with breasts, the bigger, the better. My mother never nursed me even once as her doctor advised her to give me formula. Your website helped me as a male viewer to see the female breast as a natural part of the female body and not as some mystical sex object. My whole attitude toward women has changed as a result. All humans are naturally beautiful, created in the image of God. But the greatest beauty is the beauty inside. If two people can love each other then the externals are not nearly as important as what is in our souls and how we relate in love to each other.

Steve

I came across your site by accident because I just implemented a new safe search engine on my web site and typed breasts in it to see what results I would get. I was very interested in the comments and views here. As a man I have fallen prey to the media and have become obsessed with women's breasts. I was never breast fed and believe the first time I ever saw a breast was in pornographic magazine. I believe these experience rewired my brain and the media has only increased this faulty thinking. When having my son I was very involved in helping his mom breastfeed, from actually holding him to her breasts after his birth because she was too tired to helping pump with our manual breast pump. Unfortunately as a divorced single dad I am still struggling with this obssession. I utilize my bounce technique as often as possible in which my eyes will start to look at a women and then I imediately catch myself and look in the opposite direction. But it is still a battle. Do have any other suggestions on how to wean a 32 year old man from the breast? Thank you for your work.

The problem you experience is unfortunate, and unfortunately has been caused by the way this society teaches us to view breasts. To rectify it is not easy but IS certainly possible.

The one main solution has to do with rewiring the brain and getting rid of the association "breasts = sex" that has become so automatic.

Remember Pavlov's dogs? They trained the dogs to expect food whenever a bell rang. The media and pornography trains men's brains to start arousal at the sight of a female breast.

Consider breasts being on the same "level" as other female body parts such as hands, lips, hair, face, legs etc., and so then seeing breasts alone won't be especially sexually exciting. In other words, female breasts should just be "part of the package" of the female form, but not a special sexual object alone and in themselves.

One of the best ways to do this is to visit a topless beach where all people - men and women - are at ease, where the atmosphere is totally non-sexual, and yet where breasts are all around you. When you see them a lot, it becomes very usual, normal, nothing special, even boring.

And yes, we have gotten reports on how this truly works.

So if economics allow, consider vacationing in the Caribbean.

Still pictures can help some too; however the live situation is so much better because you will see how the women are just going about their things without sexually provocative postures or anything.

I feel strongly that this breast obsession is a problem in the country I live in, the U.S. Please note that I am not talking about all men in what I'm saying below.

I am tired of the over-the-top responses I get from some men towards my breasts. I mean, it just gets ridiculous. Women are more than a pair of breasts, aren't they? What about my mind, my spirit? The breast obession that some men have make relationships between men and women very difficult.

Also, the idea of going brafree, a very healthy choice in many cases, is mentioned on this website and made all the more difficult because of this breast obession. I personally don't like to wear bras. I find them constricting and uncomfortable, even "properly fitting" ones. Also, my severe breast pain stopped when I stopped wearing bras. So, I choose not to wear them, and I have every right not to wear them. But, in the culture I live in, women are expected to wear them. And if I don't, then it's "my fault" if I'm ogled, stared down, commented upon, all because of this breast obsession. I'm suddenly, "fair game" for this type of treatment. These types of attitudes are insenstive to women and completely unfair. It turns men into an enemy in public, who won't allow me my right to live my life in peace, without having my boundaries violated as I go about my business. Yes, I can speak up and tell them to leave me alone, stop staring, all of which I have done. But why should I have to do this repeatedly? Why should women have to constantly deal with these intrusions from men? This breast taboo translates into breast disrespect and disrespect of women.

I don't feel like having men I don't know relate to me only on a sexual level, just because I have breasts and just because I don't want to wear a bra. My not wearing a bra is not intended to be sexually inticing to men. Like I said, it's about comfort and health for me. But the way many men interpret it sexually, without regard to any of my feelings or reasons, makes me very uncomfortable.

So, this is just one example of how Western attitudes towards breasts hurt women emotionally and also negatively affects relationships between men and women, thereby hurting men also. I'm convinced that if this obsession with breasts didn't exist, things would be so much easier for most women and men and women would have better relationships with each other.

Chris

PLEASE MOMMY...

GIVE ME SOME MILK!

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I think this site was amazing! I am planning on breast feeing my next child! I took the easy way out and formula fed my first! I'm going to make my fiance read this beacause he is against extended breastfeeding! I'm hoping by having him read this site it will make him change his mind on what breasts really are! I feel so much more comfortable with my self now! More than I ever have!

Dani

First off I'd love to commend this website and all who have posted their stories, fears, and triumphs. I'm 21 years old and my son just turned 2. I've struggled with my body image since elementary school. I've never been gifted with large breasts. The only time they were large (about a D cup) was during my pregnancy. Now, 2 years later my breasts have returned to a smaller cup, about a B cup. I'm pretty much happy with my body now but do struggle with the fact of having stretch marks on my breasts, hips, thighs, and butt. I'm of German and Irish descent so I'm naturally pale which makes my stretch marks more noticeable. I try to view them as marks of love, in that I'd NEVER trade them because they are a result of having my beautiful son. My fiance says he loves my body and I find comfort in that. But he is a man nonetheless and prefers women with large breasts and butts. I'm 5'3 and about 110 lbs. I am curvier now and like having curves but when he watches porn and I see his arousal from it, it does affect me. He's even suggested now that I work out some to "tone" up my body, that a more toned body is more appealing. I've never been heavy. The most i ever weighed was 151 lbs, which was at the end of my pregnancy. After having my son I developed gallbladder problems and lost a lot of weight. At one point I was only 95 lbs. Now I've had my gallbladder removed and am finally slowly gaining weight back. I like having a lil more weight on me and at first so did my fiance, since he likes thicker, curvier, bustier women when he watches porn. Now that he's suggesting I work out to make my body more attractive hurts a lot. It makes me wonder if he's losing interest in me and by suggesting I work out, it's to keep him interested. Yes, I would like somewhat bigger boobs, but I've tried working my pectorals hoping that the muscle stimulation would push my breasts out just a lil, but it is painful and makes me very sore. I wish men and society could accept people, not just women, for who they are. Life would be less stressful and people would appreciate the small things in life more if our minds weren't always focused on outer perfection.

Kaden's Mommy

I think the literature was very true & informative. I'm breastfeeding my soon to be 10 month old son & been thinking of begining the weaning process in a month or so it saddens me very much but at the same time I feel the need for a bit of freedom. This article made me feel like I should give him the chance to continue for some time longer on his terms without me putting a stop to it. I'm not sure yet I guess just like we got to this point by us finding our way together we will figure it out together also. I really enjoyed the reading material & pictures it brought a tear to my eye. I love breastfeeding & I'm very proud of myself for coming this far & have never been ashamed of it. I would like to empower more women with the confondence to feel proud & breastfeed!!!

desiree

Thank you for enlighting us about the Western brainwash. I would invite all my friends to this wonderful and helpful website

Hassan

Hello, my name is D I'm an A cup. I have always been very slim and small chested all my life. When in elementary school I analyzed how other girls were growing and was so curious as to why I wouldn't grow that quickely and be as curvy as them at such a young age. In high school, I hated the way I looked. My breasts were still very small and I started to become heavy bottomed curving into a pear shape. My results resulted into me stuffing my bra constantly and still being made fun of in high school. Im now in college, hate my breasts and often stuff my bra. I go in and out of depression hating them and then loving them. I fear plastic surgery for the sake of insensitivity of the breasts, plans of breast feeding and looking fake. I'm at a state of confusion and don't know what to do. I want to have the ability to nurture my children but strive for the appearance that men crave for. I feel I'm not nearly attractive as women with bigger busts.

D

Your breasts are just perfect, and I believe there will be someone who will love your body as it is, and you YOURSELF, most importantly.

Just read other peoples letters on this page. They can help you do better, and you WILL be doing just fine!

I really feel that the problem with western society is that parents don't talk to their children about sex. I think breasts are very sexual. That is, if we were having sex (other body parts such as feet can be sexual too depending on context right?). Children and adolescents need to be educated about sex rather than kept in the dark about it. With ignorance, comes discomfort; with education, comes open-mindedness. In the example where a father asked the nursing mother to leave because his son was exposed to an indecent act clearly shows the lack of education here (and probably a lack of father-son talks).

I don't feel that the media is solely responsible for making men obsessed with breasts. It bores down to the poor education children and adolescents receive on sex. Afterall, I was exposed to the same media messaging. From where do I summon this respect for women and their bodies? Education and good communication between parents, friends, mentors and a whole lot of other people is a good start.

I recall the stories my mother told me as I was growing up. Some of them of how she breast-fed me. I'm not sure if she ever nursed me in public, but knowing I wasn't always fed from a bottle really makes me glad.

nate

First and foremost I must say that this is a wonderful and educational site.

It's shocking how breastfeeding is looked upon in the U.S.A. (people getting arrested is just sad). I'm from Norway, where things are a bit different (obviously). Unlike in the U.S.A., new mothers in Norway are actively being encouraged to breastfeed. I looked up some numbers about it too: 80% are breastfeeding after 6 months. One third is doing it after 1 year. Public breastfeeding is of course legal, and is more or less socially accepted, even though most women feel uncomfortable doing it in public.

The sexualization of the breasts here in Norway isn't as bad as in the U.S.A, but still they are a bit "no-no" and should be covered up. But there is an exception: topless sunbathing on public beaches is very common here. In recent years, girls have become more self-conscious about their breasts: size, shape, etc (based my observations). Must be because of the increasing pressure to have the perfect body and all that. According to Dagbladet (Norwegian newspaper) 70,000 women have opted for breast implants during the last 20 years (Norway's population is under 5 million people).

Personally I don't find breasts all that exciting, except for a period in my teens, but they do represent something feminine. Always known that breasts are for feeding babies so I wouldn't be disturbed if a woman suddenly started breastfeeding in my vicinity. Since I'm a guy, I can only say that I would expect a woman to breastfeed her infant. After all, that's the most natural thing to do. I guess I could also say that me and my big brother were breastfed by our mother when we were babies. Around 6-7 months each I think it was.

Oh, maybe I should mention something about this movement (if one could call it that) in our neigbouring country, Sweden. It's called "Bara brst" ("Bare breasts"). This is a group of women in the city of Malm who have a goal to "create debate around the unwritten social and culture rules that sexualize and discriminate the female body".

Arne

As a male with large breasts (due to hormones) for many years I have experienced first hand this taboo. I enjoy swimming, but have been told numerous times that I must put on a top. When a shirt becomes wet it is very uncomfortable and just as revealing as going topless. So I now no longer go swimming. This results in people who don't know insisting that I get in the water. In fact I just avoid going near the water altogether.

Frank Poynter

Thank you for your wonderful website. As a teenager in middle and high school, I was uncomfortable with my developing breasts and often refused to wear any kind of shirt that I thought made them more noticeable. Hence, I often ended up in baggier or unflattering clothing, I didn't see myself or my body as being as beautiful as it is, and was faced with a lot of insecurity because of it. I'm 22 now, 5'6" and not particularly skinny, and wear a B cup. Up until now, I don't think I'd ever seen a real breast other than my mother's, and even though I've been learning over the years to appreciate my breasts, I admit I always felt slightly uncomfortable with them. I still see them as a bit of a sexual object simply because at this point in my life, as a young woman with out children, that is what they're mainly used for---good or bad. however, as much as I want a man to enjoy my breasts, I don't want them to take away from the whole me, and I've been lucky enough to have so far found wonderful men who accept me and make me feel absolutely beautiful no matter what size I come in... and I realized that a lot of my more recent insecurities were really based in unfounded beliefs that I was unlovable unless I was stick thin with huge breasts, a fact that was I now have assurance is not true. Knowing that I am beautiful and unique, and that good men will find me as such regardless of whether I look like a supermodel, has been a huge boost to my self-confidence and self-worth.

Michelle

This website is wonderful! I am a proud, breastfeeding mommy of an 11 month old boy. For the first several months, I never nursed in front of people (except family members & close friends). I found myself staying home more than normal and would arrange my entire schedule on my son's nursing schedule (ie "he just ate--quick lets go out to dinner before he needs to eat again). What a tiresome way to live! Through sites such as yours and talking with other nursing moms, I have become liberated and empowered. I am no longer afraid to nurse in public and I no longer need to contort my schedule and be a homebody just so I can feed my son in privacy! Why America considers formula "normal" and breastfeeding socially unacceptable angers & confuses me. There is nothing natural or normal about a foul smelling can of formula. I'm not sure how something so proven to be inferior through extensive research can still be triumphant in our culture. Maybe one day we will live in an America where the bottle feeders will get the dirty looks. This is my prayer for my future grandchildren!

Thanks 007b!!!!!

Tara

Well, the obsession fact about breast is also simple, as the government say, it's illegal to be topless..... let the woman be topless like men everywhere and eventually the taboo will drop and it's gonna be almost normal to see the woman's breast.

Kalikta

In response to the gentleman above who turns away when he catches himself looking at a women - Instead of turning away, look up at her face and smile! Women love to be appreciated, just not ogled for their 'tits and ass' (Can I say that here?) I even subtly point out good looking women to my husband, as we both appreciate well taken care of human bodies. Ones does not have to go as far as the Caribbean to get naked. Visit the American Association for Nude Recreation (www.aanr.com) to find a place in your own state. Thank you for your sane approach to this subject. I will be sharing this site to many, many young people. jeanette

I was just searching the web and came upon your site by chance... but it was a blessing in disguise. In the past I have had very bad experiences wit my breasts. I love them but both my ex-s thought they were not perfect... as usual brainwashed by the media and porn pictures. With their rude comments and their ideas about perfect breast and how imperfect mine were I started developing a deep seated inferior complex within myself and started regretting my breasts, but after seeing the pictures of normal breats I feel so happy and have reaized the fact that the problem does not lie with how my figures look but the problem lies in the fact how the men percieve and makes it as an object of sexual fulfillment.... Thanks a lot

Mini

This website is amazing. I feel completely comfortable with my breasts now. And I feel more at peace walking around my house with a t shirt and no bra, knowing that bras dont prevent sagging. Everything in this website has helped me appreciate my breasts more and love what I have. And when I have children I will breastfeed them and they will grow up knowing that breasts arnt for sexual perposes they are "milk bottles" for babys. And if I have daughters I will educate them so they wont have to suffer like I did, and grow up believing that they need "perky breasts" to feel and be sexy.

Noemi

I definitely think it's sad that that person got to college not knowing what breasts are for. I also believe that if women were allowed a top freedom choice, breasts in general would not be looked at as strictly a "sexual" object all of the time. However you still would have your share of people who are still obsessed like they are with other things we do see all the time, like arms, feet, etc.

Aryana

I happen to have precisely the type of breasts the pornographic world would ask of me: large, round, and sexually-sensitive. I love them and love how important they are to my sex life. I'm in my mid-twenties and they've changed some as I've aged - they've gotten bigger, and a few little stretch marks have appeared, and they're not as buoyant as they used to be - I'm planning on getting pregnant in a couple of years, so I don't know what to expect when it comes to how that will impact my feelings about my breasts. I've always wanted to nurse, and plan on doing so as much as possible, provided that I get to and through pregnancy.

MsAnderson

I had a discussion with my wife tonight about breasts, hers, specifically. It seems that she was and is uncomfortable with my natural interest in them, not sexual per se, but natural.

I felt I was ignorant of what her insecurities are in this regard. While there were many objectionable websites that I checked and then avoided, I found this one helpful. I could read what torments the minds of, frankly, very beautiful women of all ages, in regard to their breasts.

That American men are hooked on a fictional, airbrushed breast is not surprising, given the Hollywood tripe about sex and breasts.

But what I found interesting is that women are sooooo fixated on their breast size, shape, conformity, stretch marks, whatever. I looked at all the pictures, and granted, there were some breasts that were less appealing to me. Life has some deformations, and it causes some too. But, really, truly, I found that many of these wonderful and brave women have lovely, pleasantly shaped, and marvelously unique breasts. The variety, the shapes, the contours, the sizes, areolas... are simply breath taking. To men, universally, a woman's breasts will ALWAYS be a wonderous and wonderful sight. (How men respond to that wonderous sight demonstrates the character of the man.)

Over all, I can say as a man past forty, that you women, all of you, have diverse, beautiful breasts, gifts from a loving God, for YOU to enjoy, and feel good beautiful about. You husband (not a no- commitment 'boyfriend' who will just use you and get bored with you later and dump you) wants to see you, to see your breasts in the LIGHT, and to enjoy giving you pleasure, while experiencing that as well.

My point is, if you will not accept your breasts for your OWN unique shape, like you accept your eye color, your natural inclinations, your personality, then you will struggle to enjoy true intimacy with your husband. He will miss out, too.

Men's deepest desires include first of all, sex; this will never change. Followed by that is a desire for intimacy. Your husband will be interested in YOU! Yes, he wants YOUR breasts, not some other woman's. But if you are so self-focused that you cannot let him love you for you physically too, then you run the real risk (in this sex saturated society Hollywood has created) that he will pursue pornography, and fantasies of the mind, that may ultimately lead to adultery, deviancy, and all manner of pervese actions.

I think what I'd like to say is, thank you brave women for posting your photos, and more importantly for sharing your heart. I now know that as a husband and a father, I can and should encourage the woman and the little girl who will soon enter this phase of life, that I accept them and that God made them beautiful just as they are. Everyone is different!

Ladies, I have seen you, and you are beautiful, different, unique, and appealing. Embrace your uniqueness and turn off the lie of the media! Thanks for this wonderful site!

Scott

There are guys who are stuck on the plasticized, porn-star image of what a woman 'should' look like. I don't think most guys are like that.

"Attractiveness" IS NOT the same as looking like a porn star!

Gals, do yourselves a favor and don't have sex with a guy too soon, even if it's 'expected'. The longer the pre-sex time you can spend time with each other, the more likely it is that (a) he'll come to appreciate you for the person you are, and the more likely it is that when he does see your body, the more he'll associate it (regardless of its type/shape) with the 'wonderful' person you are. Also, (b), if he really is a jerk, you'll have a better chance of figuring that out and dumping him, without the painful regrets of "I can't believe I had sex with that guy!"

Best of luck, y'all!

Dave

For years I have hated my body for not looking the way I thought...or have been brainwashed to think it should look. During puberty I was the fat girl (at 184 lbs at only 5'3'') and when I lost weight my breasts were the FIRST thing to go. Ever since then and about 55 lbs lighter I still struggle with loving my body inspite of how healthy I have become. It has all been because I don't have breasts. I see men around me obsessed and I am in turn obsessed I am constantly finding myself looking at other women with horrible envy and eventually I cry because I know Ill never have that. Thank you for this web site. My thoughts about my body are going to take a while to change but having support like this really counts. It's a shame that I can't even think of myself as beautiful because my breasts don't stand out to get attention and thinking no one will love me for what I do have is heart breaking. And to all the 13-16 yr old girls out there, please please please understand you aren't finished growing so chill out! I think my negative thoughts about my body were an aid into preventing them from growing into what they should be. Love your body, don't obsess over your breasts, leave them to their own devices, otherwise you will scare them and what happened to me might happen to you. Positive thinking is the key and... you've got time! For everyone else, thank you for commenting. It helps to know there are older ladies that still have trouble accepting their bodies due to this social patriarchal constraint! Breasts are about feeding and seeing to the health of children. Let's break the taboo!!

Andrea

Hi, I'm about to go on an excersize and weightloss plan and I know my breats will shrink, so i did a search for "is it okay to have small breasts if your skinny" because I to have been brainwashed into thinking that I will be unattractive if my breats shrink and sag! It makes me so sad to KNOW thats how I will be perceived by men and women.

This society is out of control!

guest

I appreciate the contents of this site. Media, Grown-up folks, to an extent the doctors and intellectuals too should be blamed for the perversion they create in the young minds on breasts. The only job of this female organ is to provide nutritious milk to the offspring - Period. Nothing more. The current generation should be educated on this in a more better manner. Congratulations, you have taken the right step.

Manjunath

I was actually searching for a website that had normal non sexual breast pictures to compare my own to. The only breast I have ever seen are pornstar and moviestar boobs, which not only made me feel like I had ugly breasts, but also lowered my self-esteem. Thank you so much for this site =)

Aj

Just read the many comments posted on your site. Bravo to all the men who realize that breast size is a non issue, if you truly love and adore your lady.
I feel unless the result of a mastectomy, please don't alter the size of your breasts with plastic surgery. No one needs to fill their breasts with plastic bags to feel beautiful.. It is truly a sign of your insecurity showing. Love yourself, be proud of yourself.

corrine

Thanks for this website. This really helps... Keep up the good work please, thanks alot. I agree with Tom's comments... Thanks again. :)

Cheers to every obsessed who came to this site! :)

Zain

Agreeably breasts are foremost for the little tots, BUT how many REAL men can avoid admiring really lovely breasts?
mike

Admittedly real men surely are attracted when they see a pretty woman, and breasts as part of that. What we're trying to get across is that the mere sight of a breast (without a woman for example) should not be so connected with sex... because that is what makes breastfeeding in public so awkward for women to do.

Why couldn't we have the appreciation for breasts by men to be on the same level as their appreciation for pretty hair? Nobody is bothered to see hair in public, or automatically become sexually minded just by seeing a glimpse of hair. And hair sure can be just as pretty, if not prettier than breasts.

Something to think about.

I think this article is fascinating!
I'm 16 years old, so I've had to grow up with the "breast obsession" in this day and age. It annoys me how the media thinks that only women with large breasts are attractive. I am a 32AA and I'm proud of it. I wouldn't want them any other way. When I have a child in later life, I'm going to do what's best for it and breast-feed it for as long as I can. =]

Thank you for posting this article, it's helped me alot

Katie

I'm a fifteen year old - Girl? Woman? Thing. I am pretty self-conscious about my breasts. They are quite a bit bigger than I'd like them to be. But now, after reading this, whenever I catch myself thinking about it I try and convince myself to think about them as they were meant to be. I always used to be torn between thinking I was weird for having breast-fed until I was somewhere into my twos (I vaguely remember deciding myself not to breastfeed, and then being slightly surprised the next time I tried it, when nothing came out), and thinking it was good and natural. While I'm certain it helped me a lot, my friends thought it was kind of odd. Now I think that if (hopefully when) I have a use for my breasts, I will do what's best for myself and the baby. This is a wonderful, very reassuring site. :D

Joy

Thank you for this website! I have been contemplating implants after I finish having kids (because I breastfeed). I've always felt self-conscious about my "saggy breasts" but now I feel that even breasts that sag can be beautiful.

I'm still not sure if I want implants, but my main quest is for total self-acceptance and this sure helps!

Monique,
Houston, TX

Wow. I am a teenager and I'm gonna admit I have really been aroused by breasts all my life. I've always thought about how interesting it is how cultures view nudity. This site has really opened my eyes to how wrong breasts are portrayed. If breasts are shown in a movie it gets an r rating! I stumbled upon this site because I was curious about breasts and how glad I am that I ended up here. I guess all I can say is thanks, now I know....

chris

I'm an Australian woman, and breast feeding here isn't anywhere near as unusual as it is in America. Most of my friends who've recently had children have breast fed - it's definitely seen as the preference by nearly all women. Keep up the good work - every person you convince is one more on the right side!

Sarah

Many years ago I was stationed in Morocco North Africa and on several occasions was on the beach where topless was the norm. Years later during Vietnam at Utapo AFB Thailand the girls that took care of our hooches would shower and sit on the pot in an open facility right next to me. These two experiences really opened my eyes and mind to non sexual admiration of the human body, ya I was startled at first but it soon became no big deal.

John

Hi, I'm a 22-year-old male and I love your site! Because I have grown up in the United States with its cultures and traditions, I think of the breasts as a sexual object. That's just what they have always been to me, and it may take a while to change that. However I also think of myself as a very logical person and support equality for all people, regardless of gender, race, sexual orientation, etc. When I first found your site it was for entirely the wrong reasons, which you can probably guess. But when I read the content of the site it made so much sense. Culture has such a huge impact on our lives, and it is definitely true that breasts are only sexual because our society dictates it; this is easy to prove simply by observing other cultures that don't objectify the female breasts in such a way. And what can be a better definition for gender equality than allowing a woman to do what a man can do in the same place and time he can? If a man can be topless, why can't a woman? The answer is obvious: It's because all of us here in the US grew up that way. And that way of life has had so many obvious negative side-effects, which you outline very well on your site. Losing the breasts as an object of sexual interest is not a real loss for anybody, they will remain just as beautiful to those that appreciate the real female form, and the benefits of removing the sexual object tag breasts currently have are tremendous.

So there, I know it was ranting a little and I haven't said much that hasn't already been said by you or your fans, but I just wanted to let you know that I appreciate the effort to do something useful with our intelligence.

- Daniel

The media is not helping at all with their peep show mentality which is only titillating (no pun intended). It needs to go one way or the other. The in between where they are now is not healthy. And most of us needs to change our attitudes not just about breasts but nudity in general - If God had meant for us to go naked, we would have been born that way.

Rick

THANK YOU SO MUCH for this website. I am 21 and have a 3 month old. I got online to see how to wean my baby and I am so glad I came across this website. Now I am almost ashamed of the fact that I was going to stop. I am going to make my husband read it and refer my friends to this website.

Samantha

wow....i see what boobs are actually for. My mother nursed me wen I was little but now I feel ;ike I'm free. Free from the brain washing. I DONT NEED BIG BOOBS!!!! YAY!!

X~Lil-Miss-Positive+++

Thank God that you are out here making progress with America's "breast-hang up." My wife comes from French stock and thinks that the American culture is "sick and deranged." I agree completely. My wife has been critized by her family for breast feeding our daughter until she was two and for her stance that women should be free to go bare-chested, just like men. She is constantly complaining about the state of affairs in this country and, when I ask her why she isn't more comfortable going topless, she tells me that she doesn't want to get arrested for indecency or googled at by the local perverts. All this trouble for something the rest of the INDUSTRIALIZED world (to say nothing of everyone else) thinks absolutely NOTHING about, whatsoever. America's women AND men need to be told the truth about a woman's breasts and cut loose from what I see as simply another example of the Media's efforts to abuse us for their own profit. They think nothing of parading "Playboy-perfect" fallacies made of silicon and air-brushing, but shame real women into being ashamed of their bodies and neglecting their children in the name of "decency".

Sincerely,

Joe Teshuwah

Your commentary on the short length of breastfeeding is right on. Most people think that babies need to be breastfed for 1 yr max, not 1 yr minimum, preferably at least 2 yrs or longer. In fact my pediatrician acts surprised that I was still breastfeeding at 1yr! I worked so hard to breastfeed (have low supply problems, believe its from IGT) that I'm not weaning until the baby wants to and am shooting to breastfeed until the 2 - 2 1/2 year mark.

Your website is right on.

Maria

am a 56 year old man with a few simple thoughts.
My wife and I have been happily married for 31 years. As far as I am concerned, my wife's breasts are the best. Over the years, they have changed, as we have changed. I realize that there is always the possibility that she might lose one or both of them. If that happens, it will be a loss for BOTH of us but I am certain that I will go on loving her and she will accept my love.
I am a "breast man" and my wife knows it. Your site has had the same effect on me that it appears to have had on many women. As a man, I have never understood why both men AND women are so obsessed with perfect breasts or large breasts. The more interesting they are, the more character they have, as far as I am concerned. And the more character they have, the more appealing they are to me.

Sometimes I wonder if other men just pretend to like larger "perfect" breasts. And I have always puzzled over why women think that all men like them big and round, etc. That is simply not true.

Breasts do not make the woman, the woman makes the breasts. Women who are comfortable with their bodies are far more appealing to me than those who are ashamed of them or obsess about them. I think most men would agree with me on that. What sane man would marry a woman for her breasts? And what deluded woman would assume that the right breasts would attract the right man -- or keep him?

I hope your site will make more women happier with their breasts because that will make more men happier, too!

Sam

I know that some women may see an email here from a man degrading and perverted. My gf showed me this side, to see what I thought. I have always seen the female breasts for what they are; a nurturing station for a woman's young. Of course, it also further defines a woman's body as that of a female, but I have never really seen breasts as a sexual thing (I'm more of an " eye guy" anyway). I think that the natural function of the female breast is absolutely terrific!!! It's beautiful that some women continue to use them for their designed purpose. I won't lie, I do love to touch them during an intimate time with my gf. But I cannot stress enough in this message, that I see them for what they are, to nurture the young that her and I will hopefully, one day, create.

Jerry

Wow! This is a great web site for mothers-to-be. I had nursed my baby girl until she was 15 months old, and every minute was beautiful. The bond that we formed was one in a million.

hetal desai

This is a very informative site about breastfeeding. My wife breastfed our first daughter who is 7 now. She was obsessed with mommy's boobs from day one! Now we have a 3 week old who loves them so much that she can't go too long without them! My wife has to go back to work after 6 weeks without a choice. She will pump because we don't believe in formula, but our first girl wasn't a problem using the bottle with mommy's milk. But we're a little worried about our newborn. She loves mommy so much that she spends 90% of her sleep time on mommy. Our first spent most of her time with me and I loved every minute of it. But this will be a challenge.

As far as culture and "breasts" go, it is sad not only how so many people can be ashamed and so dumb about breastfeeding, but how corporations that affect so many lives can be so unethical as to contribute to the problems of society just to make money. I can only see that American culture is on a downward spiral unless more people take a stand. I think ALL breastfeeding moms should do it in public. If anything just for the opportunity to tell close-minded people where to go.

Joe M

I was so excited to see this article regarding breast. Hats off to the writers. Men need to wake up and view breast a little differently the sex objects. I truly agree. 100%

Carmen

I have four children. I have been breastfeeding everyday for the past six years. All through each pregnancy and tandum nursed both babies. I just weaned my four year old and will continue nursing my two year old son, who has never had a stomach virus or bad cold. It is the most precious gift you can give your child, and I would love to encourage women to do the same.

annie

I too have installed a new safesearch on my computer and typed ''breasts'' and stumbled upon this site. I was breastfed alot in my early days and I am prone to the ''Breast Affect''. I do not find breasts appealing. I see breasts alot in my household therefor I am used to seeing them. I think that men should be exposed to breasts in thier everyday lives so that they can have the chance to get used to seeing them alot. Even if it has to be at work. I agree with all that this site states.

Jared

Hello. I am a 31 year old female that has grown up with the idea of "perfect" breasts - like on tv and magazines. After I had my baby and breastfed, I thought...when I am done having children and breastfeeding I will have a "boob job."
Today, I came across your site while looking for a bra sizing site. Your site is refreshing and helpful. I didn't realize how "normal" non - 18 yr old breasts were! Sounds crazy, but I guess media has just trained me to think that way! I will try to "educate" my children differently and will share your site with other woman.
Thanks for your site!
Alicia

I'm an Italian artist from Milano. I think your web site is a real precious source for women subdued and mortified by mediatic images of what and who they should be... In my country any woman beyond size 12 is considere fat...and body spcificity is considered some shame... even in the art system, even for me being a fairly well known professional artist appearence and adaptatation to mediatic models is some must... I hope we will one day move onto some higher state of conscence of human dignity.
bye and thank you
Lorenza

I was breastfed, as were my siblings. My sister and I both breastfed our babies. I weaned both of mine at 7 months. We don't make a big deal of breasts, never have. My parents weren't naked all the time but didn't hide naked bodies in shame either. I have never thought of my breasts as saggy or unattractive. So it came as a rather rude shock when my friends began to tease me in my late 20's about my breasts being saggy. It was of great concern for me for years and had a rather negative effect on my self esteem. I have seen many real womens breast, including the many pictures on this site and so you know my breasts are not only fine but very pretty. I have no idea why my friends were so negatively concerned with my breasts. I am what most people would consider an ideal body type. I just imagine it was their own self image issues that would compel them to put me down. For a time, I let the opinions of others about my body effect the way I felt about myself. I know now that a self confident person is an attractive person regardless of what nature gave them. I want every women and man to accept their own body the way it is and grow attractive from the inside out! Lets face it, while some of us are fortunate enough to be "attractive" in our younger years, and for some even on into our older years, youth and beauty eventually give way to gravity. If you rely completely on your youthful pretty body for self respect, where then will you be when the cruelty of time inevitably takes it away! For those who never had "physical beauty" may you find your inner beauty and the contentment that follows years before your pretty counterparts. And may you age with true grace and dignity. And for those blessed with physical beauty, may your vanity be only a small part of who you are so that when youth and beauty have faded, you don't find yourself ugly.

Sara Paylor
Hippie Healing
hippiehealing.com

I am 21 and found this website because I sat down at the computer determined to get breast implants since I thought I was too small (not even an A cup), but after reading about the natural beauty of breasts and seeing the photo gallery, I realized that I have it pretty good!

I also realized that probably the only reason I would want to get a boob job is because we (girls) are taught that this is what guys like and we need perfect bodies in order to get men. I am so glad I found this site, I think my breasts are beautiful, and sometimes I forget the real purpose of breasts.

And I know that there are guys out there who don't really care and will love us girls no matter what our imperfections are, but it is hard to remember this with so many pictures everywhere of "perfect" women. (And the fact that our guys still look at these pictures and still like them makes it harder for us to feel beautiful about ourselves!)

Jubilee

i think your website is really good, I came across as I was upset about the way mine look and the pressure from the media. I just want men to see this esp. my boyfriend, of course he likes big ones, and I think breasts should'nt be sexual and out there in the media for all to see, because it really effects real women, and men's expectations of women go up. What happened to natural beauty? I liked the gallery; it's true you never see natural breasts. They should put that in men's magazines.

laura king

I have observed that the myth of the "Perfect Breast" had started back around the late 30's/ early 40's with the Blond Bombshell movie stars. The corsets that they wore often gave them a Torpedo look (torpedo = bombshell) and really started a erronous idea on how the breast looked. The visual of erect breasts such as those was dangerous due to misshapen breasts due to unnatural forming by corset and blindness in short men with wide open eyes (... pause for comedic effect...) The Mantle was then taken up by Marilyn Monroe, the films of Russ Meyer in the 60's- 70's, plastic models of the 80's (not Barbie), Barbie Dolls ( yes, I went there), and the various very nefarious machinations of beauty that most feel are necessary in order to function in today's social gatherings of intermediate groups.

Why women would put themselves through such sadistic tortures to be beautiful to themselves is beyond me. I happen to find (to use a book allegory) the cover amusing, the title intriguing, and the story engrossing.

Why men find breasts interesting is simple: We're infantile and we like to be nurtured.

Kenneth

Hi, I found your site by accident looking for some bras for my wife. She's 27 and flat chested. I think it is WONDERFUL and she is much less self-concious than she used to be (we've been together since we were 16). There are plenty of guys that either like small / no breasts or realize that beauty is not found only in big breasts!

Paul

I came across this site looking for the name of a syndrome that is related to asymetrical breasts. As a former La Leche League leader, and a nursing advocate and former nursing mother, I am thrilled to find this site. I have shown it to my 18 and 16 year old daughters and will make sure to show it to my 13 year old daughter. My 18 year old now feels better about her A cup breasts. I have DDD cups and she ofter wonders why her breasts are so small. She has even talked about implants. I hope this site has changed her mind.

Wendy

I like that this site is kind of a vaccine against the sexualisation of breasts. The fact that all types of breasts are shown is also a help for men not to wander about in illusions about them, and to overemphasize their importance. Keep the milk coming.

Sean Whale

Wow! This site should be mandatory for everyone!! I too, cursed my breasts and my mother (she has small breasts too). When that didn't help, I cursed myself. Then I let men curse me, as I have no breasts, I can hardly be worthy of love. I began to think of my breasts (and me) as the consolation prize. If you can't get the hot woman you want, then make do with me!!! I punched my chest, I tried to hang myself, I decided to hate men; the only thing that worked was breastfeeding my daughter. Yes, I have amazing breasts, very useful, very beautiful and all mine (no gross plastic bits for me). I want to beg all small breasted women "Don't sell out, please, don't sell out on our daughters, real breasts are ALWAYS better. Masectomy is the only valid reason for implants. Don't be a traitor, love us women, let's stick together and make the world a more normal, responsible and happier place. Long live breasts, all sorts!!

amanda

I've found that the breast coin is truly a sad aspect of American life. One side is the truly elegant action of feeding in public, and the beauty of such a natural thing. I've also been witness to people walking into doors seeing a woman nursing in public. The Problem is that the "boobs" (pun intended) who tell us the this is wrong are those who cannot do such a thing, nor would want to.

Our society views nudity of any kind as taboo. Yet, not too long ago, women's rights were taboo. Or even interracial marriages. It just takes time, and a lot of patience to get people to realize that this is not a bad thing.

However, like women in revealing clothing, people will have a tendency to look but mean no disrespect. This will probably be new to them and be curious about it. Like I said, time and patience.

I love this site, as it has helped me understand my own fascination with breasts. Big and small, perky and droopy, They're all beautiful beyond what people see them as. Just don't be angry if your significant other wants to use them as that. :)

Kenneth

Thank you for this wonderful site. This is an educational site that everyone should read to understand the nature purpose of women's breasts.

Tina

Thank you for this site!!! Ever since I can remember I have been offended bu how America views our breasts. I have had boys stare at mine and it makes me uncomfortable, and when I was in middle school I hunched over to try and hide them.
I see men without shirts with "man-boobs" bigger than my own and it disgusts me. What is different from my nipples and theirs? Why can men go topless but women can't? It doesn't seem right or fair, ours don't look any different except they pop out. I agree with you that if men were exposed to breasts at an earlier age then they wouldn't objectify them. I don't think it is fair for women to feel ashamed for exposing their breasts, apparently sexism still exists as our bodies are still considered "unclean" for the general public.

Thanks again for this website, it is honorable to educate the world about breats. Perhaps this will help show men that breats are nothing special.
Allie

As a man I always felt that the way women and men view breasts are very wrong. I see that women especially always relate their breast in comparison to a mans genitals. If a womens breast are exposed some people relate it to a man flashing his genitals. This to me never has made any sense. How can breasts be compared to genitals? Shouldn't genitals be compared to genitals, and leave the breast to themselves. The two are very different. Women should be able to feed their child in public when ever it is necessary, without it being a problem. It is a very natural thing. We can, and should appreciate breasts without making them overly sexual or erotic. I think women complain about men being the problem, but I think it is women themselves including the media who make breast more than they should be. Most women I know don't think women should breast feed in public. I think many of them like the attention that breasts bring in a taboo sexual way......James

James

I can honestly say that the Breast is NOT a turn on for me. My turn on for me is Eyes & Lips even though my mother did breast feed me in my youth I have never found them attrackive. As a male I just simply see the as nurishment for the babes or babys if you preffer. Of the world. That what they are there for to me they also are just muscle & fatty tissue & food for the offspring. Why can't other guys see it that way?

S.W

On the issue of breasts being sexualised - I'd say the nudity thing is right - I was raised as a child as a nudist and we had nudist friends - I saw a lot of people naked when I was a child and don't think anything of it - in the south of France, women go topless on the beach and men and women change their clothes on the beach - after awhile, it becomes totally normal and you hardly notice.

Here in the UK, I know women who have breastfed their children until they go to school - women breastfeed in playgroups, in church, on parkbenches, in restaurants and in public places all the time - I once stood next to a woman in the checkout line at the supermarket who had a new baby only a few days old - it was very busy, 6pm in the evening and the baby was obviously very hungry and she couldn't stand it anymore - she sat down on the chairs opposite the checkout, whipped out her breast and gave her baby what it needed. Her mother took care of her shopping - no-one batted an eyelid.

I can't remember ever feeling overly self-conscious about breast-feeding. I just did it whenever I needed to.

My favourite breast-feeding picture is of the woman who was a director of a large NGO who had to visit a famine area in the Sudan right after she herself had had a baby and was breastfeeding.

She said she was nervous about what she would feel, knowing she had milk to give and she could only visit the area for a few hours - and when she got there, she just felt she had to do what she could.

She asked them to find her someone who really needed help and they brought her a woman who had twins that she could not feed. So she sat down outside on an oil drum and fed both of them. Someone snapped a picture of her which appeared in the papers here. She was kind of embarassed but said she was glad she was able to help in the only way she could. To me, that picture is worth a thousand words.

Cara

I love this webstie!! I am a member of La Leche League and a 23 year-old first time breastfeeding mother of a 9 month old. I have definately experienced the awkward looks that move around a room when I take my son to my breast.

I too think that our society is in a vicious cycle. I cringe when I hear mothers say that they tried breastfeeding and "it just didn't work out." I want to tell them that babies don't come out of the womb knowing exactly how to suck at the breast and it is a learning process for both mother and child.

Although our society and government claims that breast is best, there is still a huge lack of support for it. In Norwegian culture 99% of moms breastfeed and in public! There, it is abnormal to NOT breastfeed, while in the United States breastfeeding is viewed as something that is above average and bottle-feeding is viewed as normal.

We have to start to change our language about breasts/breastfeeding in this culture. Breastfeeding should be viewed as normal/natural, while bottle feeding should be viewed as below average or as depriving our children from proper nutrients.

I live in Kansas where a law was passed in March 2006 stating that women have the right to breastfeed in public whereever they have a right to be. I was thrilled when this law got passed (my son was 1 month old), but then realized how sad it was that our government even needed to pass a law such as this. I have even had DOCTORS that are misinformed about breastfeeding and have encouraged me to switch to the bottle!!!!!! No wonder our breastfeeding rates are so low in this country.

However, when I am filled with all of these negative feelings about the attitude of breastfeeding in our culture, I remind myself of one of the first times I breastfed in public while waiting to get my oil changed. An elderly man shared the waiting room with my son and I. When my son started to fuss I almost panicked thinking "Oh my, I don't want to breastfeed here." It was virtually my first public feeding experience.

As I fumbled with a blanket to cover my son and breast, I glanced over at the man to see that he was certainly paying attention. Minutes later he spoke up and told me that he commended me on giving my baby the breast. He praised my efforts and said he wished more women would do it. I felt so grateful for this man making my first public breastfeeding experience an encouraging one. You never know how people are going to react.

This experience reminds me that all hope is not lost. We have to continue educating people and showing them the true reason that women have breasts!!!! If an elderly man in the middle of western Kansas "gets it" I know that the rest of our country can too!!!

Katelin

I find it funny American culture and the whole breast thing - its not like this where I come from. I mean alot of women feed their babies on the bus, some don't even make an effort to cover up. Some men will stare but most like me have seen boobs already and its not like this taboo thing - I got caught looking once and the lady smiled and I was kinda embarrased about staring but it wasn't a sexual thing. I think most people here are ok with it - my mother told me why spend all that money on Formula when it comes out of a breast for free...

Jaycen

This is a very good website. It is good to get over your horrible tendency of looking at breasts in a sexual manner because most teens read useless magazines like playboy which show women in a very bad way. They must be banned. These mags have a severe permanent bad effect on the mind which is very subtle and hence most teens dont even come to know of how badly they have been affected. ... Youll must keep up the good work so that people stop looking at women in a dirty wayand keep the women of the world in a pure way.

karan

Your web site is utterly excellent. I meet so many women who are unhappy about their breasts. Bigger, smaller, different. Please be happy with your breasts - just the way they are. Men do NOT all prefer big breasts or Hollywood breasts. Men love their women to love themselves. How ever you are shaped - someone will adore you. Many thanks to all the women who volunteered their photos for this site. We need to love who we are - the way we are.

Alex

I am a 34 y.o. male and I never realized that women had such issues about their breasts. After reading this site, it makes perfect sense. I have had my own body issues and it is difficult to get past those feelings even when people tell you you're normal, etc. Of course women would go through the same issues with their bodies. I've done a lot of dating and having looked at the normal breast photos, I can tell you that they really are normal. They're not on the odd side of normal or kind of normal, they're normal. I can't speak for other men, but I find the essence of a woman attractive, not specific body items. It's difficult to explain, but I guess it's the personality that is attractive and even that doesn't have to be a copy of a media template. Everything else is attractive when the personality is attractive. Flat chest, large chest, whatever. For me, when women are friendly and nice, everything about them becomes attractive.

One thing I still don't understand is why some women hide their breasts and only talk about how disgusting breasts. It sounds like they were molested when they were young, or they have a female hater in their family that messed them up. Whatever the cause, it's really sad to see women do that.

Michael

I'm so grateful to have found this site. I've measured and confirmed my bra size. It's changed since I've had children. I'm going to through out all my 36's and keep the 38's. I'm an A cup.

I've seriously thought about surgery but after looking at "normal" photos of natural breasts, I've decided the risks are not worth the surgery and I'm just as natural as the next natural gal!

Thanks for a wonderful site.

ps I've breastfeed both children. The 2nd one for almost 2 years -- ever so proudly :D

Rosalyn

I read the question and answers. And I'm a guy. My question is won't girls be obsessed with penises if guys are obsessed with breasts?

Tom

Not to my knowledge. I have not heard such a thing happening, but maybe someone somewhere is. Girls are obsessed with worrying about their own breasts.

It has to do with what sort of images are portrayed in the media. Just think about it: breasts are almost totally revealed (just not the nipple), prominently displayed, the idea is conveyed that they are somehow very important for sexual life, the women have provocative poses, etc. You do not see men's private parts displayed to the same extent or the same manner all around us.

I love this site. I happened upon it again in search of articles relating to why babies like to twiddle and fondle breasts. I have more than 6 years experience breastfeeding. My youngest is 2.5 and nurses about 3 times a day and through the night. He constantly fondles and twiddles (I love that expression!) my breasts while nursing. What is the biological/physiological purpose for this action? I don't think it is just beacause it is there, either. My other two did the same thing, but this little guy has more time as he has the breasts all to himself. Any help would be appreciated on this subject.
By the way, everything on this site is right on the mark. I breastfed my first two exclusively and the last one supplemented my own pumped milk when I had to work. The reaction from family and friends was always so ridiculous. My first husband even went on to say women breastfeed out of laziness. Our culture is supposed to be enlightened, but alas, the breast taboo along with circumcision points to a lack of understanding the basics of being a human being. I ramble on, but it is just in appreciation for coming to this place where I know I won't be looked at as anything but a good mother for nursing my kids. Thank you and keep up the good work!

Liegan

I personally just tend to think it's a plaything for babies. You know, you're laying down there, sucking, and if mom's breasts are pendulous, right next to you is another one of those milk bottles hanging there handy, and not much else in sight... so obviously the little hands kind of start wandering over there. Maybe it happens less with small-breasted ladies? You can try a nursing necklace to distract baby away from that, if needed.

Oh my! It's like the ding went off in my head. It makes so much sense. No wonder men are obcessed with breasts. You know, I never liked the word "tit," to me whenever a man said that word it made them sound disgusting and they're not.

traci smith

I stumbled across this site while doing some research for a project and I must say that it is great to see somewhere that promotes brestfeeding like this. I has no idea that formula feeding was the norm in the US (I live in New Zealand) but I do know that my mum (she's a midwife) has had some difficulty in the past convincing some women that brestfeeding is the best thing for their babies. After seeing her breastfeed my brother (when I was 7) until he was two, I decided that when I had kids I would definately be brestfeeding mine.

Stephanie

All babies should be breastfed. Its best for them and good for mother too. All 3 of my children were breastfed for a year. My youngest is 8 weeks old and so very healthy!

annette

I think man or husband that love big breast should try wearing a bra, like H OR j CUPS AND feel whats its like wearing one all day,or buying one and paying $23.00 or over for one. My husband love me not my breast.

rocco

Thank you for your website!! There needs to be more out there like it. I started to develop at age 8 and I haven't seemed to change size since about 13. My shape however slightly changed around 19 they took thier "woman shape" as my boyfriend calls it, instead of the perky teenage breasts I was used to. I have always been somewhat worried about sagging but when this happened it became an obsession. I would often wear two bras at once because I thought it would prevent future sagging. Now after a lot of exposure to normal breasts, months of telling myslef that I am beautiful the way I am, and your website, I am finally able to believe what I tell myslef. And now I hardly ever even wear a bra. And I feel great! I have always known that I wanted to breastfeed my children but now I plan to do it for over a year. And in public! To expose people to the fact that breasts don;t have to be sexual, and i'm actually doing one of the best things I can for my baby. I am prepared for the fact that people may give me dirty looks or even say something because they may feel it's inappropriate to breastfeed in public. But I know exaclty what I will say. "I'm sorry if I make you uncomfortable with following what God intended for my breasts, but I love my baby and I'm not ashamed for showing it!" The more women who do it, the less harder it will be for more women to breastfeed whenever and where ever their little ones may get hungry. Again, thank you for your website. I have shared with my mom, freinds, and family in hopes to make more women realize that their breasts are great just the way they are. Natural!

Laura

let children be breastfed.Don't make it a taboo, a forbidden no-no.

saima

This comment is some kind of confession that I made in hope of trying to find some help, some answer or maybe just only to feel a little better. I am a 27 year old man who considers itself obssesed with big breasts. I don't know why I feel sexual attraccion for them, they 'turn me on' as you say. This was not a problem for me about a year ago, but now is different. I have a girlfriend, a lovely bigfriend, very beautiful, that loves me the most I could neve imagine someone could love me, because I consider myself very ugly and I have always had too many "complexes", one of them is my small penis size. When I first saw her nude, It surprised me the different size of her breast and I told her and she was too much surprised of my ignorance. I for sure I have accepted this, and if she have been flat chested I loved her as I love her now. But the problem is that I don't want that other's breasts 'turn me on'. I feel like I am betraying her. I don't know if there is a way of achieve this, like hipnotysm or self meditation, but I would really like to end with this shit and remove it from my brain because I feel too much guilty everytime I have this ashaming feeling. Anyway, thanks for hosting the comment, and sorry for not showing myself. It is a little contradiction that I found this site precisaly by searching for big breasts sites. I think this site is very good and that will help me to open my eyes wide as I read it.

Ashamed Guy

The way to 'remove' this association from the brain is to habitually see breasts in non-sexual contexts - this can remove the automatic association and de-sensitize the mind. So watching/seeing, say, lots of normal women on a topless beach, or seeing breastfeeding moms should help. And note: normal breasts don't look like those on the magazine pages.

I am so frustrated hearing friends and family who have infants say that they "tried" to breast feed and that they had to supplement and then they just quit trying. I had a completely successful breastfeeding experience. My daughter is a happy, well adjusted, highly intelligent toddler. She nursed an entire year and weaned herself 2 weeks after her first birthday. I try giving "them" support and advice but they just think I'm some free minded Hippy because "their doctor said it was ok to supplement / stop nursing at 3 mnths" They just take the word of their doctor over all the information and support I provide them with.. The real reason there are so many formula fed babies - Doctors and hopitals. They take the money given them from the formula companies and say what they're told. My doctor does not get reimbursed for promoting breastfeeding but despite that he still encourages it!
"Breast feeding is Best" -Fact not opinion!
-Frustrated-
Kerri

I think that you bring up a lot of good points here, but the fact is, that the media will not suddenly be showing real breasts. It doesn't sell, and they certaintly aren't going to do the 'right thing' so that women won't be insecure. I do agree that if women were able to go around without a shirt on, then men would be desensitized, and breasts wouldn't be seen as sexual objects (which I would like, because even though my husband is interested in my breasts, when I see what is portrayed as 'sexy', I sometimes become insecure). Because the media makes a big deal out of what a 'good' set of breasts looks like, children will still be tempted to believe that even with breast feeding, 'perky breasts' will still be more wanted than saggy breasts used to feed a child. Michelle S.

I just read your text on Obsession towards breasts and how the breast is viewed as a bad thing by Americans. Where can I go to learn more about reducing the stigma that's been planted in my mind about breasts as sexual objects rather than as child nourishment? I'd like to have some resources to capture the taboo and hold it hostage to truth that I may not be seeing breasts as an unnatural thing.

Israel-Shannon

The CURE to this is to see/watch bare breasts in totally non-sexual settings. One of the best things to do would be to visit topless beaches. Or, naturist resorts and places (if you're ready for nudity). You could also try look at breastfeeding images, we have some plus lots of links to more sites.

I think the main reason more women don't breastfeed has nothing to do with taboos, or the sexualization of the breast. I think it is economic. I think it would be great if moms could stay home and breastfeed their babies, but the way the economy is in the US, most women can't afford to take a year off work. The situation is even worse for single moms on welfare. Under TANF legislation, a woman is required to participate in work-related activities for 35 hours a week, beginning when their baby is just three months old. I fear that for breastfeeding to become the norm for ALL women, not just for affluent women, would require a restructuring of our entire economy.

Nanette

Hooray! A website that tells the truth about breasts! THANK YOU!

Kimberly M

I came across this site when I was looking for advice on weaning my 7 month old. I was having a hard time getting him to accept formula. We are taking a trip soon and I was afraid of having to duck in the bathroom to nurse constantly (not to mention the discomfort of nursing a baby on the toilet!). But now I don't feel the need to wean just because other people may be uncomfortable with me FEEDING my son!! If I opened a jar of baby food on a plane or in a mall no one would notice, so why should anyone care if I give him some milk. Thank you for making me realize that I am doing this for my child and myself and if someone has a problem with it, they need to get educated!! I wish every person out there was given this information. People really need to be more educated about nursing and it's benefits. It should also be more accepted in the public. Thank you for this site and it's information. You saved one baby. I do not plan to wean him until he is ready now.

Davina

i would just like to thank whomever made this site available. I have always been self-conscious of my breasts and when I did a site search on normal looking breats I found this site and realized I am normal. It's the fakeness we see on TV and in magazines that is not. It's helped give me a better outlook and I appreciate the woman who took the time to tell their stories and pictures. Thanks again.

michelle

This is a very good website. It gives the truth about the use of a woman's breast. Few websites like this give positive messages. Keep it up. :)

Jill

I love to see sites like this that support the breastfeeding mother....like you said, nursing your child has become an antiquated ritual. I'm currently successfully breastfeeding my second child, and it is going great. I tried with my first child, but she had a tongue-tie and wouldn't latch properly. Believe me, I did make a go of it, she almost chewed my nipples clear off before I quit and put her on formula. My son is now 6 months and I am so proud to have been able to nurse him this far...and you know what? I probably NEVER would have even considered taking on breastfeeding again if it wasn't for the support of sites like this and other sources like the public health nurse, lactition consultants at the hospital, etc. I read on your site that it may be a good idea to let young children and teenagers see you breastfeed as it raises conciousness about the issue and relays a message that breasts don't have to be "taboo". All I have to say is keep up the good work, I was so pleased to come across this site. I don't care if you post my comments or not, but I just wanted to drop a line and express my appreciation about my discoveries in your site....so thank you very much, 007 breast!!

Marian

I think breastfeeding is a great thing and think all mothers should do and not teach their kids that the breasts are a nono after they are weaned.

bradley willis

excellent article, well written, great emphasis on the logic and integrity in breastfeeding. breastfeeding 5 month old mother, under 30, considering weaning as my mother raises its attention to me.
I breastfeed covered in public malls restaurants, dept stores changerooms, but never ever a washroom, would you eat in there!? thanks for reminding not to wean quite yet.

tasha

Good job, I am one of those such afflicted americans. I will clear my issues. thanks for the good presentation.

I don't think breast obsession in males can be traced back to just individual factors like lack of breast feeding or individual curiosity. It's cultural. And it's very silly. I think it has a lot to do with the much greater taboo on real genitals: breasts are the next best thing, and a little less taboo. I have spoken to lots of people with a positive revulsion of pubic hair and genitals. So, their libido finds another way of projecting itself upon. I count myself lucky that as a liberal continental West European I don't seem to suffer from these aberrations. I also resent the notion that breast obsession would be something "western". Am I an oriental?

Toine W.

...Your site is quite interesting in regards to breast taboo because I can also relate to some of what has been taught about breasts. I know that breast obsession could seem abstractly awkward coming from a female. I, like the males in the "obsessed" category was not breastfed because I had never seen a woman breastfeed until I was 13 years old. I first saw a breastfeeding session when I was sitting near a woman in a room while she was supervising other children. I was sceptical and curious of what she was doing because breastfeeding seemed unususal to me. One-year later, I learned in a grade 9 science class that breastfeeding was as natural as breathing.

I know this seems like a red herring, but when I was born, my mother only had a six-week maternity leave and she was in pain the whole time resulting from a cesarian birth. In Hong Kong, parents had short maternity leaves because they were expected back at work and as a result, bottle-feeding is also their status quo. I have lived in Etobicoke since I was two and I have been dominated by North American culture. Interestingly, my mother was secretive about breasts and as a result, I never saw them bare unless they were my own. She told me that it was natural to develop breasts and soothed the pain associated with breast development but she never educated me of their initial purpose. I was never obsessed with size to extensive degrees. She also forbade me from touching my own breasts because it was deemed as "inappropriate" eventhough it is normal for adolescent girls to explore their sexuality. I have come to realize that girls can also develop a curious obsession with breasts as much as boys.

The funny thing is, I never found myself traumatized because starting at age 14, I was researching the female figure through paid advertisements and at 16, I saw nude bodies via pronographies after hours and I remember taking it well. My grade 11 teacher also showed films where full female nudity was prevalent and he said that the class "took it well." This goes to show that if teens are more exposed to female breasts, the more mundane they will seem to be.

I am twenty now and though I do not choose to breastfeed if I were to ever have children, I concur that older children, adolescents, and teenagers (male and female) should be given the opportunity to witness the initial functions of breasts. They should also not be taught that breasts are neither evil nor "dirty pillows" and parents should not be ashamed to show children bare breasts. In this sense, the sensorship in the media does more harm than good (shading breasts and other private parts if exposed to the minor demographic). ...

No person shall ever have the right to impose guilt upon those to chose to bottle-feed based on personal choice. ... Therefore, we should do things as we see fit and not be held back by the stigma and the negative paradigms associated with any course of action (whether it be breastfeeding or bottlefeeding).

Nin

I'm a gamemaster involved in running various face-to-face roleplaying games. A few years ago, one of my regular players had her first child. She brought him to our regular monthly game and nursed him there for two years, after I verified with my players that having an infant in attendance wouldn't be too disruptive for them (not so much the breastfeeding but the overall distraction). It was never a problem. But I've been amazed since then at the number of other roleplayers how can't imagine that anyone would ever permit such a thing, or expect players to tolerate a fellow player exposing her breast enough to give an infant access to it.

William H. Stoddard

I see allot of insecure young girls posting on this website and let me say (im a 15 year old guy) that not all guys are totaly obessed with breasts, in fact this huge breast craze that is going about atm actually repulsis some men as it looks franckly silly. All I can say is that no matter what you are like be it red hair glasses flat chested fat thin etc there is allways a type of guy out tehre that will find that attractive it doesnt bother me personaly if I girl is flat chested what bothers me is if she has a mind and a opion of her own, quite allot of men out there really like the type of girl msot people would class as "geeks" and it is often not the man you would think. to conclude dont feel bad about yourself and dont wallow insecurity can be found attractive so juse accept yourself and let these guys come floking to you :)

Aaron

I'm a 16 year old girl and I think that it is disgusting how society today is obsessed over effing women's boobs!!! I get so angry. And oh, don't get me started on the porn industry.. but yeah, I'm a 34DD and I used to hate my boobs no end, but after looking at this site I feel a bit better about them. My boyfriend 'loves them' apparently.. although I really can't believe him on that one, but we've been together just over a year and a half now so I guess he wouldn't be lying about it <3 (I love my boyfriend yay) but I still have the image of the 'perfect' figure. I know it's fake but still I want it. It is ridiculous.. I hate feeling like this. But this site has really helped me. Thanks!

<3 No name <3

I am a younger adult male obsessed with breasts. Have been almost as long as I remember having sexual thoughts (not as long as some... I was a late bloomer). I just got to the breaking point about how long I could not try to figure out the why of this obsession and try to stop my bad habits when I searched and found this website. Thank you for presenting all of this information so well--possibly that's the root of my obsession. I think dealing with my own urges might be easier once I become more aware of possible causes and have a better outlook on the entire area. Thanks. :)

Truman

i just wanted to say thank you so much for this page- lots of people tell me that I am a beautiful girl, and I wear a 34 DD, but my self esteem was really low. I thought there was something wrong with my breasts, but I see now that there is not! thank you so much!!!!!

Lauren

We should not criticize any woman who breast feed in the public. If every women breast feed her baby in public, it will become normal and mothers would feel more comfortable too.

rasan

hey i'm 15 and I am self concious bout my breasts I was actually lookin up stuff on the internet for ways I could make my breasts bigger but after readin ur sight I changed my mind and decided that mine are good enough. its stupid coz there is so much pressure for us teenage girls because guys our age hav looked up porn sites and kinda expect most girls to look like that not realisin those pornstars have had boob jobs, touch ups and liposuction.

Kati

Im a medical doctor, pediatrician to be exact, from Guatemala central america. I have found that many new moms have the idea that their breast will be saggier after breast feeding, what are your thougths about this and how can we help yung wemen to breast feed more

marco

Woman's breasts change a lot during pregnancy and grow in size, and it is those changes that can make the breast sag more. In other words, those who are worried about sagging should never get pregnant.

About helping young women to breastfeed: there are many ideas and ways to do this, and it depends on your culture and circumstances. Some things that might help are:

Hospital should not give out free formula

Seeing other women breastfeed while the woman is pregnant (for example some kind of women's meeting or baby care class)

talking with other women about breastfeeding after having the baby - again some kind of groups where women could meet together and they could breastfeed together and talk.

These websites have more resources about how to encourage women to breastfeed:
World Alliance for Breastfeeding Action and La Leche League.

I'm a 30 year old mother with 3 daughters. My youngest daughter is just over a year old and is still being breastfed. I just wanted to make a comment about my current situation and the view on breastfeeding in the courts (I live in Canada) with concerns to custody and access disputes. Despite the issues in the breakup of the relationship with the babies father he was easily able to go into a court and have access determined to be out of town for 3 days every other weekend. While he does work and live in the same town that the child and I reside. Our daughter has always been offered a bottle and does occasionally drink from one but her main preferrence is still the breast especially at night time. As she has always slept in the bed beside me and has always had access to the breast when she wants it. His insistance that she drinks from a bottle and due to her age my decision to breastfeed my daughter has been taken from me. I can only imagine what it is doing emotionally to our daughter to be seperated with no contact and no breast to feed from. As a last note I have found out that they are feeding her whole milk during her visits as opposed to formula yet the courts and the laws make no distinctions when making their dicisions pretaining to access of young breastfed children. I think this is an outright tragity on the part of the legal system. Even after being offered more frequent visits with his daughter in place of the 3 day visits her father simply refused as he had a court order allowing him to remove her from town. I fear that the complications from expressing enough milk while she is away on these visits will cause me to dry up production forcing my child to wean on the courts terms and not her own. I feel the rights of breastfeeding mothers are not respected and I feel outrage over such a decision being made in the life of such a young child without her having the ability to speak or express her wants and needs. I'm not sure how often this occurs or how many children have been forced away from breastfeeding by unjust court systems, bias lawyers and uncaring judges. I can only hope that one day this view will change and the courts will begin to speak up for and protect the special bond that is formed between mother and child through the breastfeeding process.

Nicole

All of our closest relatives, the great apes, breastfeed, but none of them have prominent breasts. Usually, in nature, if a feature is exaggerated or prominent in a non-functional way, it is because it also serves a communication function.... peacock's tails, etc. I submit that the purpose of prominent human breasts is twofold: for feeding babies, and as a signal of sexuality and health.

Baz

Well written and (I feel) necessary reading for most young parents (and most older ones too). My wife breast fed our children as much as she was able, but had physical problems. She had a mother who was influenced by the formula companies to believe that breast feeding was a nasty, dirty thing, and was shocked that her daughter would do such a thing. SAD

Ken

The other day, a co-worker who had a baby about a month ago came by the office to a meeting for about an hour. She had her baby in a car-carrier. The baby started to fuss. She gave him a pacifier. She tried to rock him. The meeting continued, the baby wailed.

What I wanted to say was, "he's hungry, nurse him." Of course I couldn't do that--it's not my business to. Yet I know that's what my wife would have done. She nursed everywhere. If you don't wear that contraption called a bra, it is very easy to nurse. In fact nobody even sees!

So, when I have my own company, I will make a policy:

"In addition to family leave etc, we support breastfeeding. Not only is breastfeeding supported at this Company, but Public Breastfeeding is encouraged. We formally acknowledge top-freedom in this place of business. Do not hesitate from feeding your child while in your office, at a meeting, or in the lunchroom. Those who are uncomfortable with this policy may seek counseling at Company expense."

Well, perhaps the wording is rather cooky, but it is in my opinion so unfortunate that just as breastfeeding starts to make progress, women go into the workforce in droves, essentially nullifying the nursing advances. As we cannot seem to convince anyone on the value of home-making any longer, perhaps we can move our workplaces in the direction of supporting a working mother in her most vital role (we know she only works here for the cash--she has her baby for her very own, so I am not being chauvanistic here. Heck, I see my fatherhood as far more vital than my career).

There really is no reason a woman cannot nurse, and at the same time carry on an intelligent conversation with mixed company. My wife did it all the time, for 2.5 years with each child. (BTW, she is still just as beautiful and I mean it!)

Keep up the good work with this website.

Bill

I have breast fed my 2 children for 4 years. They are both weaned now, but I never hid my feeding in public , and was discrete when they nursed- I have been asked to leave a restaurnt , a grocery store , a carwash and a church service for this reason. I find it ridiculous that a child be taught that a nursing mom is doing something secret or "bad" My kids know that breasts feed babies and that is the way they will teach they're kids someday- THAT is how you change peoples attitudes.

susie

Thank you so much for your wonderful site - it is inspiring !

I am a 38yo guy, I have been involved with a new love now (age 34) for several months, and she is totally precious to me. I adore her, and she can do no wrong in my eyes :) She is a very petite girl, and considers herself flat chested. .. she has never shared that part of herself with me.

We have spoken about her issues of course, and she knows that whatever she has hidden away there is not something that I would not worship as much as the rest of her. I love her personality, I love her values, her intelligence, her neck, her imperfect teeth, her shoulders, her bad spelling, her gorgeous eyes, her lack of maths skills, her beautiful hair, her kids, her irrational temper tantrums .. even her little toe would give me goosebumps. She knows she is complete in my eyes.

I dont make a big drama about 'her little secret assets' - she is sensitive about that, and I respect that.

I have read all the comments in the hope of finding some magic bullet to help her with these issues .. but really the answer has to be in your head. There are no potions or instant fixes to change who we are.

All I can do is to pass a word of encouragement on to all other readers - girls, if you are PERFECT in our eyes, then you are 100% perfect in every way. Your confidence and your trust in those that really do love you is worth much more to US GUYS than any physical asset you can bring to the table. Its really true.

Leave your issues at the door, and come to us with confidence in yourself, affection, and understanding, and we will do the same for you.

Steve

I am fortunate to have stumbled upon your website when I conducted a search for breast size and breastfeeding. I was concerned that after I am done having children and breastfeeding, my breasts would be really saggy. After reading a few of the articles on this site I realize that my concern about the size and shape of my post-nursing breasts is simply silly. I have always felt that I should use my body the way it was naturally intended to be used. I love walking and running, I had a completely natural pregnancy and labor-absolutely no drugs, and I knew I would nurse my children (right now I just have one child). I am very proud to have the strenght to stick to my beliefs despite the norm regarding breastfeeding-I only know one person who breastfed her child out of the many friends who have babies. My son just turned one last week and I felt pressure to completely wean him from my breasts. HOWEVER, after I soon realized that he should nurse as often and as long as he wants to since the sole purpose of my breasts are to nourish him. People continue to ask me how long I plan to nurse and I tell them that I will nurse until my son stops nursing, whenever that is. And I feel absolutely comfortable with that!

Madeline

Breasts are beautiful, feel good, are arousing and sexual. They are also nuturing for our children. Breastfeading in public is a natural act but use some discretion because breasts are sexual too. Why does it have to be an extreme one way or the other?

Virtually all breasts are beautiful and part of that beauty is in the woman they are attached to. Large, small, medium are all good. Yes, there are deformities just like any other body part. Implants look good only in extreme cases. When I see the before and after photos of breast implantation, I nearly always prefer the before, and if I don't, the difference is usually insignificant. I usually think a sweet pair of breasts have been damaged. The appearance of a breast is only part of it's appeal. The feel is very important too as is the sexual stimulation the nipple provides for the woman. This in turn adds to the pleasure for the man. See, it's all about us! It is a mistake to risk the complications and likely loss for a size increase.

Anon.

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