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Great site. Wonderful approach. I am a (soon to be) 72 year young male with two grand daughters. I referred your site to my son in case either of the girls needed any asurance. He said they had raised them with no/minimal body image problems but he bookmarked the site in case the need came up.

Zeb

Hi maria.

First of all - I love your site - and not for the obvious reasons (read further *S*). I'm a 29 year old man, who has been trying to work towards getting the females I know to love their body and stray away from the model image.

I was raised very liberal and come from an area in Denmark where all girls are topless on the beach, and thus saw at firsthand how these same girls throughout my childhood and youth, was much much more accepted of their body.

Moved to another part of Denmark, namely a big city, and suddenly saw that people had a very differend self-image here. Then I met a girl ( whom I'm now married to, and have 2 small kids with) who was raised as an Orthodox Christian, and also had a breast reduction operation. This means that she still doesn't like her body - often complains about it. I try to help her away from the self sexual image she has from her parents, and try to help her like her own breasts - as they are not ugly - but most important - they are hers, and I feel that she should love them!

I always think about how I could help promote a better self-image for girls - now I have 2 small ones I need to make sure that will love themselves and their body as they grow up :)

Best regards
Casper
Denmark

I found myself getting choked up with emotion while viewing your site. I am 35 and am breastfeeding my 4th son. My first 3 sons were breastfed at least 1 year apiece, and I will nurse my 4th son at least one year as well.

I, too, have been critical of my breasts through the years. However, through breastfeeding, I have developed a sense of pride in what my body can do. What my body was designed to do. It makes me cry to see all these women and read their comments. In a sense, I am glad I had all boys. It is too hard to grow up being female and constantly sexualized and critiqued.

Thank you for creating the website. I may submit my own photo at a later time.

I practice as GP and sometimes I bound to examine the breast. In our community number of female doctor is few. Thanks for your informative web page. I recommended many of my young educated patient to visit your site.

Dr. Motiul
MD
Dhaka, Bangladesh

Hi, I'm 24 years old. I grew up being told by my mom that my breasts were grotesquely deformed. She said my breasts were like hers, only mine have never grown as big as hers were. She had to have medically ordered reduction surgery. But, she never let up on telling me mine are gross. In my late teens and very early twenties, I had it in my mind not to let my husband see mine until our wedding night then he'd be contracted to their freakishness for eternity. However, my husband saw them before we were married. And he, who was into porn before me and lusted after "perfect" breasts, has only cherished them since he first saw them. I couldn't get over what my mom had engraved into my brain even though he repeatedly stressed they were perfect to him because they were mine. After I accidently went to a porn site, in my emotional distress God brought me to your web-site. As soon as I saw the photos of normal breasts and read all you had to say, I've only agreed with my man: they are gorgeous and immaculate for me!!! Thank you so extraordinarily much for this place I "accidently" came to!!!

Angelic Ashley J

Thank you for what really is a life-changing website.

I wish I had access to this when I was younger. Like many others I have spent years repelled by my lovely breasts, (I am crying as I write this), feeling like a total freak because we live in a world that destroys women and girls fragile self-esteem by placing massive expectations on breast shape and size, when in reality there is little, asides from surgery, that can be done about what we are born with.

This site has helped me almost instantly to realise what a waste of my time my feelings of low self worth have been. We MUST be proud of every inch of what and who we are. I have spent many years hunched over, in a bid to somehow detract attention away from my top half....NO MORE! from this day on I am going to stand up and walk tall and be PROUD of myself because its what I deserve and it is what every single woman out there deserves, whether she has beautiful small breasts. gorgeous big breasts, perfectly formed aysymmetrical breasts....the list goes on and on and why? because we're all different, varied and FABULOUS.

There is so much more to us than our breasts, and there is so much more to our breasts than what they do or supposedly don't offer in the way of pleasure to men. We have to reclaim their meaning and image back for ourselves. Right Now.

I just have to say! I am in love with your site! It is absolutely incredible how empowering and reassuring the information and pictures that are on this site. This is such a hard topic because it always hush-hush but this site just brought it out in the open, like riping the band-aid off the sore...when in fact there wasn't a sore there! This site is amazing! Thank you so much, thank you women who post their breasts! I admire you.

THANK YOU!
~Jessi

I am a man who loves women. My pals and some women friends constantly poke fun of funny looking or unattractive women and men.

I look at movie stars and celebrities and, while they may look good, most of them are manufactured.

Ladies, be proud of what you have. God perfected man when he created women. I am no Tom Cruise and I don't have arms like Arnold or endowed like John Holmes. I enjoy looking at women and breasts of all sizes are attractive. Any man who would ask his woman to enlarge her boobs is a boob himself.

Breasts help sustain life as God gave them to you. They can foster a relationship and they are just fine the way they are.

Enjoy life. Be proud.

D

Sites like this are so wonderful. Women can come here and feel empowered. They can see that the feelings they are experiencing are quite normal, that the body they have been blessed with is so naturally perfect. That who they really are is so much more than what society tells them they have to be. Power to you girls for you are mothers, sisters, lovers and so beautiful in every form. My love for women only grows as I learn more and more that my role is to cherish you all for who you really are, whatever that is.

Thank you for being you, Ladies.
Scotty Zee

Hi,

I just want to say Thank You so much for creating such a wonderful website. I'm 41 years old and I always hated my breasts. I would dress in the dark. I guess I gave into what the media said breast should be perky and perfect. Since mine weren't I felt hideous and ashamed. Your website opened my mind and eyes...Thank You

Thanks for such a wonderful site where women from all over the globe can share views together specially far away from the much hyped media and pronographic pictures which make breast as mere pieces of flesh to flaunt away. I would rather love to volunteer for this cause in case someone can share with me how to send my pics for this site as it has made me confident of what I am and inform me that I am normal.
Angel
29 yrs India

Just wanted to comment and let you know how helpful this site is. Thanks to the media I've also been self-conscious about my breast size and it's so refreshing to be able to have such an informative pictoral site to remind the world what true, NATURAL beauty is. At 5'10" and 125lbs with a 32B chest I've struggled between feeling like the awkward tall skinny girl or having a height and weight that I've been told could 'be on the runway.' I've realized that a lot of women with my same height/weight have even smaller breasts than I do, and I'm just thankful that I can still 'pull them off' and look proportionate. It's incredible how one breast size can look COMPLETELY different... just depending on your frame or structure, even a 34AA can look very feminine and sexy. I don't know if I've stopped growing now at age 21 or not, as the females in my family have much larger breasts; and I don't care either way. I'm happy with myself and I truly think that this site will help others feel the same about themselves as well.

-Katie

I just want to thank you for this website. It is wonderful. I have been breastfeeding almost non-stop for the past 3 years. My daughter who is 20 months old is still nursing and will be for a while. I am bra-less now and I feel empowered. I love my breasts now and I wish that every woman did. Thank you again for putting this website up.

Jenny

Hi. I'm 17 years old and I have an extremely hard time finding a comfortable, fitting bra because I have a particularly small band size and tiny shoulders but a large cup size. I know many young people today are influenced by TV and advertisements, but in reality, big breasts aren't all that great. They're actually very difficult to deal with most of the time, and if you have a small figure like me, will get you lots of unwanted attention, even if you wear very modest clothes. To secure one's large breasts, one must either resort to painful underwire or deal with drooping sports bras that allow your breasts to fall on your stomach when you sit down - I have these problems and my breasts aren't even nearly as saggy as some of the pictures on your site. In short, the obsession with big breasts needs to stop. They're more a pain than a blessing, and size shouldn't matter in love or in childbearing. As long as it works, who cares?

Thank you for your site. Coming from a family still carrying a heavy Canadian influence (and many relatives still in Canada) what a breast looked like was never a mystery to me. My siblings and I would often go to visit our cousins over the summer, we would spend 3 weeks with them in Canada, and they would return and spend 3 weeks with us in the states. Up north, women are often topless while swimming or sunning. My cousins always wondered when they would come down to us, why all but 5 or 6 women would be covered when we went to the beach. So I haven't had the same lust for breasts that most American men have.
It always bothered me when my girlfriend (now wife of 10 years) would wonder aloud why I would be with someone as unattractive as her. She would say how ugly she was and how ugly her breasts were. I couldn't say they were ugly, I hadn't even seen them yet. While we were dating I attributed some of that to her strict Baptist upbringing, but even after our wedding she was shy about being topless in my presence. Her shyness only got worse after having children, and breastfeeding all three. It wasn't until she came across your site a little over a year ago she finally opened up and became truly comfortable with her body.
I really do want to thank you and all the women who have contributed to this site for helping my wife accept and love the body she has been given.
Darien

Your site inspired me, pleased me, and made me sad. I love breasts - but I love every single one - and even if there were a single one - or none, as a consequence of surgery. I wish the women who are depicted and the women who see these pages could realize that there are millions of men - and women - like I am - who appreciate every size and anomaly.

In my case, perhaps because I am an artist, I especially care for the unusual - too big, too small, asymmetrical, oddly shaped, big dark areolae, little tiny ones, big nipples, inverted nipples, stretch marks.

It would be a simplification and an untruth to say that I have not turned my head when a particular shape has walked by. But there are many lessons in life. My girlfriend is what is referred to as flat. But she is pretty, alert, intelligent, compassionate, witty, considerate - and each one of those trumps a Playmate's empiricism. She asked about implants and I said please no.

We live in the dash: between the year we are born and the year we die. We can live and thrive there and make enormous discoveries about existence and relationships, or we can go to some Beverly Hills surgeon and have him carve us into someone's else idea of what we should look like. ( I acknowledge that there are very real deformities that plastic surgery can undo - but if you think you are going to be a better, smarter, wiser, more interesting, or complex human being because of augmentation, well, not around me. )

With affection - especially for anyone who has struggled with self image because of men.

craigmarshallsmith

Hello Maria,

I love your website! I stumbled upon it today while vainly searching for a website about skin care. In reading the content and reading some comments I have this to say: I've had breasts since I was 8 years old (nope you didn't read that wrong) and I'm 27 now. I don't ever recall having perky breasts. If they every were, I just don't remember because I was too busy being a kid. They have never been more than a C at their largest, they have always just been there.

When I was 18 I had a child, and I thought my breasts were flat before that! My breasts are covered in stretch marks and will never return to where they came from; the lament of many women. I've considered implants over the years, but am morally opposed to them, for myself that is. I don't think I should have to change MY body to be socially palatable. We American's need to change our perspective, perhaps become a bit more European, see the beauty in every body and in everybody.

Thanks, Erica

Bravo! I am a 31 year old mama of two boys. I nursed them both and am happy that I did so. I completely agree with the fact that American or Western men in general are completely fascinated with breasts...and it's not common throughout the world. My 2 year old boy is still fascinated by my breasts because he told me that he remembers "when I was your hungry baby you gave me your boobie so I wouldn't be hungry anymore...yep, you sure did!". LOL! I also nursed in public. I also make a point to praise women I see nursing in public. Bravo again!

Jenna

i love, love, LOVE this site! i cannot say it enough! i wish like anything that i had had access to this information when i had my oldest son, 8 years ago. i was 18, and while i knew the benefits of breastfeeding and did try for awhile, it was physically painful and mentally uncomfortable and i got little encouragement and a nasty infection. i weaned after 2 1/2 months because i was in so much pain that i cried if i THOUGHT the baby was hungry! when my 2nd son was born, i tried again, and while it lasted longer (4 months) and hurt less, i had to go back to work and, well, waitressing on 3rd shift was not exactly conducive to ease of nursing. my 3rd son was a whole different kid, and while i, again, tried nursing, HE didn't take to it. we later found out he is autistic and has MAJOR sensory issues that make it uncomfortable for him to be held in any fashion. i should have tried pumping and bottlefeeding, but i was exhausted and almost grateful for the break. less than 2 years later, he came son #4, and finally, FINALLY, the ease and happiness that i had always thought breastfeeding would bring. he nursed exclusively for 7 months, then started on solids and weaned himself at 1 year, exactly. the last time i nursed him was his birthday. he refused to nurse after that, so i guess it was his own internal clock. the funny thing is, now i miss it! i wish i had been able to get him to nurse a little longer, he's so busy now and has so much running around to do (he's 2), that i miss the quiet times, just cuddling him and nursing. i wish i had known more and tried harder with the older boys, too. (i had some problems with nursing in public too, comments and such, but that is a whole different letter!) anyway, sorry for the long-winded ramble, but it's nice to talk freely about it. none of my friends but 1 breastfed at all, nor any family but my own mom, and i always got a lot of "why are you putting yourself (or us) through this, just give the kid a bottle like other moms" nonsense from people i knew. ok! i'll stop! promise! just... THANK YOU for this site!

damona

I browsed through your website and believe me its superb site. Building confidence in women and also making men realize that watever comes on electronic media is fake. AND NOT REAL!!!

Keep this site up and upgraded on regular basis. I will love to visit it often.

Thanks.

Dear Maria,

Thank you for your site. I love it! I wanted to tell you about a column I'm writing for Literary Mama. It's called Bare-breasted Mama and it's about my brush with breast cancer last winter. The story starts here: More Important Things To Do and continues to Does Biopsy Mean No Puppy? and so on. (You can continue to the next column by following the link at the top of each column.)

Warning: it's raw and intimate and deals with the inner psychological trauma of dealing with a potentially life-threatening diagnosis. Luckily, mine was caught early and my one-year check-up was all clear. But the emotional trauma and the fear of recurrence comes and goes. I hope you like these enough to share them with others you think might be interested in reading them.

Again, thank you for your site.

Warmly,
Gail Konop Baker

I am so thankful for your website. I never really thought about the natural use of breasts. People put such a focus on breasts simply as a thing of beauty. And I suppose that is true to a certain extent. The way a mother can provide for her child really is a beautiful thing. Breasts are beautiful in and of themselves too. I think we take one of two sides--either they are for breastfeeding or they are just sexual. I believe there is a happy balance. I have always been self-conscious of my breasts. I'm 19 and size 32A. I'm getting married in 6 months and I was so afraid of what my fiance would think of them. From the things I read on your website I have become happy with myself and that makes him more happy with me. I have small breasts, but they will still feed my children someday (hopefully). And they are what I would call perfectly normal. Sure, they are small in some people's eyes. But they are symetrical, the areolas are perfect, I have no stretch marks, and they don't sag. They are normal and nothing to be ashamed of. Thank you for what you have done for me through your website.
jimjen27

Thank God for this site. I'm doing a project for my English class (How to find the right sized bra) Yes that's right, I'm talking about bras and breasts in school. Your site has so much information I could just hug you!

I was reading the comments, am I the only one reading this site who's not a D!!! (36C) But, thank God for this site or I'd still think I was a 38B, hurray! And to whoever made that comment about Oprah, I have to agree with you that that show helped so much, I'm actually citing that episode for my project (off her website)!! so thank God for Oprah too!
Thanks again!

<3 Sam

hello there... thanks for educating the public on the importance of breastfeeding and the need to abandon any sexual obsession on women's breasts. True, breasts aren't meant as sexual organs, but are used in feeding newborn infants after millions of years of mammal or human evolution intended them.

The reason for this huge taboo or restrictions in America concerning women's breasts and sexuality as a whole, is our puritanical religious roots when the United States was established by strict societal mores on the human body, including "private parts".

The taboo is slowly but surely gonna vanish in Europe, despite over 1,000 years of this morality directed against anything of an anatomical or sexual nature, mostly against women in the name of maschist sexism brought upon the last days of the Roman Empire.

Indigenous peoples around the world are less ashamed of exhibiting breasts or don't necessarily wear clothing unless when climate and working conditions require them to.

I also blame the media and their hypocrisy in generating a not-so-positive portrayal of women as sex objects.

...We need to raise men to respect a woman's body and cherish her for her mind, heart and soul. I'm aware, but glad women have babies, but men must be there to assist their wifes during pregnancy and never view her as something "ugly" or "non-sexy" woman. I truly think pregnancy and body changes are natural feminine traits. I never knew why god designed men and women the way they are, but it takes two to make a baby and women by nature are made to carry babies (this isn't a sexist statement, but an observed biological fact).

American culture is one of the least open in sexuality, but has generated a manipulative psychopathic attitude on women's body parts that only produce more sexual abuse and misogynistic treatment in a country that should be free, open and equal, with no regard to gender. +

Michael

I feel compelled to write and tell you what a revelation your site has been to me. I am a healthy, intelligent 35 year old Woman who has a wondeful husband and a job I value as a health professional. Despite all this I have just finished a very tearful phone call with my husband because he was upset that I did not wish to attend a formal evening function with him. The reason, I eventually (and tearfully) admitted, was that I couldn't stand trying to buy and wear a dress as I had such a low opinion of my figure. Actually of my breasts. I am small framed with large asymetric breasts. They have been a source of shame, pain, self loathing, discomfort and humiliation for me since they first appeared on my 12 year old sporty tomboyish body. I was actually looking for cosmetic surgery sites when I linked to yours. I thank you so much for the revelation; for the first time in my life I have realised that I have been judjing myself by very cosmetic and sexual standards and responding to facile or misguided comments largely, but not exclusively, from the opposite sex. The only person I didn't take any notice of was my husband. When I commented to him in the phone call that I hated my breasts his reply was quite simple; "but I love them".

Between that wonderful man and your wonderful website I believe that a truth has been revealed to me: Us women have breasts, time to love them and use them for milk, comfort and delight. Time to stop being ashamed.

Thank you,

T. B.

This is a subject that, quite obviously, is difficult for most to achieve, mentally and emotionally. I have been concerned with appearance of mine since I was 13 and they burst onto the scene of my life without my having any preparation or knowing what to expect. I am 49 years of age and just now I am learning to be happy with my body, in general, but more specifically, happy that I no longer feel the need to meet the "American Standard" of what a breast should be, as perpetuated by the fashion and porn industry.

What an excellent site this is and a good teaching tool for those needing to get balance on this very intimate subject. And, speaking of balance, in this particular, it's okay if were not . . . quite (smile).

Thank you very much. M

I was looking online for bras when I found your site (from Bust magazine.com). Looking through this site brings up a lot of emotions. I'm a 40 y.o. female who is childless, and never been married. I also have a large bust size, ever since I was a teenager. Because I've gained 60 lbs in 20 years (I'm 5'6" and 199 lbs), my bust is now 46D. Currently I'm on a macrobiotic diet and I've lost about 9 pounds.

I'm glad I'm not the only one with bra straps that dig. Back pain. Nasty comments from nasty men (I'm glad the men on this site have some brains). I would like to have breast lift surgery, when I can afford it.

Years ago I read a column Anna Quindlen wrote about various breastfeeding in public controversies: "One baby's food source is a bigger baby's sex object". I cracked up at that one. That quote should've gotten a Pulitzer.

Turning 40 has made me think a lot about life, death, children (biological, adopted, or foster). I remember when my mother would tell me about how, as a suckling baby, I used to bite her breasts. Of course I asked her, "If I bit you, why did you continue to breast feed me? Why didn't you use a bottle?". She wouldn't say anything. The point was to shame me, and that worked. It still does, because I don't like my breast size or the idea of breastfeeding an infant. Logically, I know that human breasts are to feed infants; but I would be ashamed to do it because I don't like the large size of my breasts; they're too big!

Plus breastfeeding is backward and country. All that slave shite. That's what slave women had to do, suckle their own children AND white children (I'm African American, and I can write a thesis on how our bodies have been/are being exploited used, and degraded).

I obviously have a lot of problems. I've discussed this with the women's group I attend. I also need to forgive my mother, forgive my female ancestors for doing what they HAD to do in a country that saw them as breed animals with no souls, and to forgive myself.

Stephanie

i had a breast reduction 3yrs ago in june. ever since the op, i get really bad chest pains before my period that i never got before. every month the pain is worse, also they get bigger and firmer. at the finish of my period my breasts dont go back down fully so every month my breasts will get bigger. I get really emotional at the thought of them getting to the size they were before (34G at the age of 13 - i was size 10 clothes - it upset me too much i wasnt measured again until after the op) i came out the op an E when i was told a C, the surgeon said the swelling would go down but it didnt.
Now it has got to the stage where i have to go bk to hospital... i dont want to go through it all again if there is nothing that can be done for me. do you have any advice for me? my chest is getting in the way of my life.

Teri

I wonder if you are an undiagnosed case of virginal (or juvenile) hypertrophy of the breasts. Have you ever had discussions with a breast specialist who knows about that condition? I am not an expert on this or any other breast conditions -- I'm not a doctor. So maybe you can try search the internet for more information and like I said, try discuss with a doctor first, instead of a surgeon. Though, it is often treated with surgery.

Another thing to study into might be estrogen dominance.

I've read about underdevelopment at various sites, but I couldn't find exactly what cup sizes are considered underdeveloped. Is it AA-A only, or AA-B?
Thanks.
Kat

Some women are small-breasted. That is not considered underdevelopment. True underdevelopment has to do with the amount of GLANDULAR tissue in the breast. That does not correlate with breast size because a breast can have insufficient glandular tissue but enough fat tissue to make the size to be A or B or C. You can search for "insufficient glandular tissue" in Google to find out more.

Read also Breast Size and Breastfeeding and What is flat-chested?.

As a nineteen year-old with 34B very saggy breasts, I have frequented sites about normal breast development since about age 12 when I first suspected mine weren't right. There are many sites out there ostensibly addressing girls' concerns about breasts, but I found that they only talk about breasts too big, breasts too small. These sites further depressed me because my problem didn't even fit into their categories of abnormality! I am slim in my upper body and waist but quite heavily set around my buttocks and thighs; according to all other breast Web sites, I should be having trouble with breasts too large because of my otherwise-curvy body. Instead I have always had small, sort of conical, sagging breasts with large areolas and extremely tiny nipples. This Web site is the first I have found that addresses all types of breasts--truly all types. I am so appreciative and moved to tears by the site, the pictures of natural breasts, and by the comments left by other women who feel bereft of all sexuality and places in society as women because of their breasts. I am very insecure in relationships because of my breasts. This Web site has helped me take the first step in getting over my insecurity and finding someone whom I can believe when he says I am beautiful.
Thank you so much for the information and support.

cally

I noticed that one of the commenters asked about hair between the breasts. I have hair around my areolas and between my breasts that sometimes is very dark and black, sometimes barely noticeable depending on hormonal changes. I don't technically have hirsutism, but my sisters and I do get "moustaches" because we have light skin and dark hair, and we get dark black hairs that are noticeable in random spots. I have had this happen between my breasts before. If someone is uncomfortable and wants to get rid of the hair, I know that waxing is very easy on these areas (in my experience) and works very well. I believe that most of my darker hairs are gone permanently. Also, I think it's important to say that the only person who EVER noticed these hairs was my husband, and he didn't say anything until I brought it up. He never minded them at all.

I've been meaning to thank you for your suggested site on breasts. Really, I agree with all the healthy perspective information provided, but still have a hard time when I look in the mirror, or try to fit clothing. I want a fuller bust, for me, because I like the way it looks, and feel (remembering from nursing all those years). My hubby is so loving, so supportive, so not concerned with my bra size, but I just haven't been able to shake this for nearly 15 years. So, I'm trying to deal with my feelings, and sort through the reasons, make an informed and healthy choice about what to do.

But I really really like your site. I've never seen so much info on breasts all in one place in my entire life! Thank you for sending it my way. It does help to get a look at some healthy women with healthy breasts, not pumped up with silicone!

Allison Tannery
geronimo!

hi, im 16 and i started developing when i was 10 ever sense theyve been really droopy and ive tried everything to try and perk them up but nothings worked, ive never had a real boyfriend incase that he might see my breasts i never show them to anyone, and i wish they were different, i was a premie baby and bacause of that i only have one layer of skin on my breasts and you can see the veins which i really hate is there anyway that you know of that can fix this problem thanks for listening rose.

Hello Rose,
You are not alone in worrying about the sagging issue, and we have a whole page dedicated to that issue.

I went through years of comments about me having small boobs. Always from people who were media-trained. My friend was brought up with rude newspapers around and my brother-in-law would feed his mind on those too and also porn (not much in it...all displaying women as large breasted sex objects!) and most embarrassing comments were made to me on a constant basis. "Never mind, you might grow some one day!" or "What's that one your chest? A couple of fried eggs?" etc etc. ....very painful and I began to resent the media more and more...people's obsession with breasts can only be tolerable to people with large breasts. The rest of us just suffer daily. When even shopping with your family is a nightmare because of the material that offends your eyes all over the back magazine shelf then it is time to stop the madness and make nude breasts inaccessible to the general public!!

..look into fenugreek and saw palmetto. These are great for enhancing and enlarging. You need rather high dosages of both though (and there are one or two others that help) so be prepared to spend money...but at least it is not making your boobs out of plastic and is only causing your body to continue with what it started off when you were a teenager. Mine are a lot nicer now and I have breast fed 4 children...in public too if I wanted to!! (though I was not obscene with it and just acted natural about the whole thing. I had one guy near me in a restaurant who tutted!! Yet he had a newspaper with some cheap tart on it showing her entire bare breasts to him!!) The herbal way of enlarging has many other benefits too including better hair and skin. Also, massage - it doesn't have to be with thouse expensive creams but a nice coconut oil or something works really well and stimulates the growth and tighter skin.

I feel so much better than I used to and no one mentions my size now. But I still don't wish to show them off to just anyone. I love them for being mine. I love my husband and I love his reaction to them. I don't need others to react to them. I am happier that they do not react at all in any way. That way I feel as if they really are just part of my body to others. They look at my face when I am speaking and are not comparing nipples. It is perfect!!

Mandy

Note: Not everyone has success with herbal breast enlargement. See also Breast Questions and Answers.

Big breasts aren't necessarily better:
I was reading the Q&A, and I was noticing how all these girls seemed to want bigger breasts. Well, bigger isn't better. I'm 18, and I started getting breasts in about 4th-5th grade. I was a C-cup by 7th grade, and DD freshman year. Now, I'm between a DDD and a DDDD, and I've been getting backaches, sometimes severe ones, for the past year. My shoulders hurt from my bra straps, and it's extremely difficult to find clothing, and I have to shop in specialty bra stores. I will probably end up with a breast reduction for medical reasons. Guys stare at my breasts, and don't look at my face. To all those girls out there, I'd LOVE to be smaller. Don't beg for huge breasts- it REALLY isn't worth it.

Elaine

Hi I'm 15 years old and I feel insucure about my breast size. I would really like to have cleavage without pushing my breasts together. I am a size 34 B, but I don't want to have to big of breasts. I weigh 110 lbs and I'm 5 foot 5. Would you have any advice on how I can have cleavage without taking breast enhancing pills or having plastic sergery done? Or maybe I could change or add something to my diet?

Thank You

Cleavage isn't something women have naturally. Breasts don't naturally have any cleavage, period. It is an artificial fashion idea. The only way you get 'cleavage' is with bras - or maybe with implants. Look at Breast gallery pictures.

hello my name is ohceanna and i am 14 will be 15 next year i got my period when i was 11 and my breast are a 36a cup why are they not growing still i have a boyfriend and he says all the time you need to grow some chest but he tells me he love me all the time but he still says that is there a certain thing i need to do to grow them or something i really hate not having them i cry day and night cause all my family has them and except for me i feel so left out and different that's why i cry. but people tell me i am beautiful all the time but i still feel so left out and mad i don't even fee like a girl cause i don't have them please tell me something i can do or you can say to make this situation better thanks

The 1 and only

Your boyfriend just doesn't understand how female bodies are. Breasts come in all different sizes. You cannot possibly do anything to change your breast size now - it is determined in your genes.

Hey, even though i think the idea of your site is a good one, i'm not sure where this puts me. I know there's a lot of fixation on breasts pretty much everywhere, but if you ask me, women are more obsessed by them then men.
Which is also i believe the motivation for starting such a website, because girls, or actually if we're really honest, women of all ages get inconfident about their breast size. I'd like to make clear that i think the idea of breast enlargement is completely ridiculous. But the truth is that i generally i would be more attracted to women with a larger breast size (i'd say about 1/3 of the men i know disagree with that and are more interested in smaller breasts). I think that's quite natural though and almost feel like i have to defend my "preferences" reading through the site. I did read the entire front page though and i am very pleased with the following line "We're saying let breasts be like legs and hips and neck and face etc. and all the other body parts" and honestly, if you ask me, that's exactly how i'd put it

Some guy from the netherlands. (please excuse me for any incorrect or plain bad english)

I have read through your website, and thought I would offer an opinion. Small breasted women are beautiful. Large breasts are not sexier. In fact, I say the smaller the better. Please don't change a thing. Small is sexy, small is beautiful. Vince

I love this site I posted a link to it on several mom forums and I am a pro breastfeeding mom. Well my babies are still latched on at night and they are 4 and 5. We are in the weaning process but they are not ready to give up mommy's milk. I always find it ironic everyone encourges puppies and cats to feed their babies and when the animal does not take to it well they keep encouaraging, How often do you see someone run to the pet store and say we just had babies can we get some puppy formula? Too bad this is not true with humans after all lets not forget we are mammals and how do you think we became so smart in the first place I don't hear of any archiological finds where they have bottles. Humm Great Site thats what Breasts are for. Another pet peeve why do they sell every baby doll with its own bottle. Toss it Ladies your little one can lift their shirt and pretend nurse. My DD told me when she has a real baby she is going to have to give it lots of milk from her boob everyday.

Hi,
I was just looking through your website because the subject of body image has always interested me. Reading through some of the comments and thoughts, I started to think about why it is that there seems to be such a difference in the opinion of those who see breasts (or any nudity) as sexual, and those who don't.

My take on the issue is that the answer is both. For example, a woman wearing no top, whilst doing the shopping or walking the dog on a hot day, to me, is not sexual, men do it, so there's no reason in my mind why women should not do likewise.

But, there are circumstances in which breasts become sexual. During sex, some women actively enjoy, and become aroused by, nipple or breast stimulation. In that light, I see no problem with saying that breasts are sexual, in the same way that ANY part of the body can be sexual given the right context.

Part of the problem as far as I can see, is down to fashion and the over sexualisation of all aspects of life. When I see a female childrens TV presenter wearing a very low cut top and a skirt so short you can see up it, well, to me, that isn't an expression of bodily freedom, its a deliberate attempt to use the body as a tool for sexual arousal. Namely, it bumps up the viewing figures...

It is impossible to say, with the one hand, that breasts or nudity or bodily exposure is not sexual, and then to use those same things as a means of sexual arousal.

We have become conditioned, especially in temperate climates, to see exposure as sexual, mainly because for 75% of the year here in the UK, people have to cover up because its cold and wet. So, over time, nudity became something that was only seen behind closed doors, thus, it became somewhat of a forbidden fruit, the naked body only being seen during sex (given that until recently, most homes had no heating).

In other countries, where it is practical to wear very little, the body is not seen in the same light as it is here, simply because it is the norm to see exposed body parts. I know that the issue of genital exposure could rear its head here, but I am guessing that the reason for genital coverage is principally practical, those parts being sensitive and vulnerable, so they need protecting.

Essentially then, the whole issue of whether a body is sexual or not, comes down to the context in which you look at it.

A doctor would see a patient as a non-sexual entity during an examination, but if when that doctor looks at his/her girlfriend/boyfriend, then the body can be, and should be, a part of the overall sex appeal of that person.

What we need is to learn this context. If we're going to allow women to walk topless with the same freedom as men, then it is important that we don't make a massive deal about it, it has to become the norm. As long as something is exceptional, it will be viewed similarly. We would probably stare at a person wearing a stuffed sheep on their head, but if we grew up in a society where it was common, we wouldn't bat an eyelid.

I would love it if women could feel they could wear as much or as little as they like, but until society stops using the body as a sexual tool, that won't happen.

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Matt

Hi!

I just discovered your wonderful website and will definitely share it with my 13 year old daughter :-) .
Growing up I was very skinny and had small breasts. My mother was for ever showing off her voluptuous breasts and kept after me constantly for not showing off my breasts, the little I had. In my mother's mind, her breasts were her pride and for her own daughter not to make the most of her own was incomprehensible! As my mother gained weight and her breasts became bigger my mother started to pass down her old bras to me, telling me that hopefully I would eventually grow into them one day...this happened when I was in my early teens and already had very low self-esteem. I never grew into my mother's hand me down bras and my mother kept comparing me with my two years younger sister's breasts that quickly overtook my own breast size, asking me why I could not be more feminine like her. I did not buy my first bra until I was almost 21 and when I finally went to the stores to find one I had a very hard time finding a size thas was small enough!

Since the "bad old days" I have dated guys who seemed to have nothing against my breast size. In 1991 I got married and a year later I had my first child, a daughter, who I breast fed for 18 months without any problems. My breast size increased from AA-30 to a B-34. Due to the rapid growth I developed stretch marks on both breasts, which has since turned a faded silver in color. In 1994 I gave birth to a son whom I breastfed for 16 months, again without any problems. My sister is now 35 years old, has never had a relationship with a man and is very self-conscious about her large breasts. She is also very worried about developing breast cancer, something our mother developed in her early 50's. Last year my mother was diagnosed with lung cancer that had metastasized to four tumors in her brain; she was given one month to live. My mother's breast cancer was first treated by a partial mastectomy and after the cancer returned after two years she had radiation treatment. At the time of her new diagnosis of lung cancer her breast cancer had been gone for 5 years. During my mother's last month of life she lost a lot of weight and so her breasts became smaller. My mother was wery concerned with her breast size which was now the same size I had been most of my life, and she started stuffing her bra with pads. My mother was not in any pain during her last month of life, thankfully and she died suddenly and quickly, but she was constantly obsessing about her "lost" breasts...

All through my puberty I heard how unfeminine I was and how silly I was not to make the most of my small breasts (i.e. wearing tight fitting tops that would enhance the small bulge on my chest), wear make up and be more "provocative" in order to finding a boy friend. I grew up thinking that I was ugly and that no one would want me because I did not "show my assets". I love to run and I prefer to wear sports bras even when I am not running. Women still comment about running bras saying that not only do they flatten your breasts but they give the apperance of a "uni-breast" - I do not care. It is sadly not until now that I feel at peace with whom I am and the size and shape of my breasts. There is still hope for my sister to realize that she is ok too but I feel sorry for my mother, that she never could get past her obsession with hert breasts. "Breasts" is not who we are but we all have them in one shape and size or an other.

Maria from Virginia

I have had to have six surgeries to remove benign lumps from my breasts. This has left my breasts extremely scarred and has interfered with my breastfeeding my two children, even though I was able to breastfeed each child with the help of formula supplements.

After the birth of my son, I found out that my husband had paid for his ex-fiance' to have implants. I cannot explain the damage this knowledge did to my self esteem, even though he swears he tried to talk her out of it and that she was obsessed with getting the implants.

Anyway, I just wanted to let you know how much your site helped me at the time. I was even able to write the following piece of satire, which was published by Dave Egger's press, McSweeney's.

Here's the URL: www.mcsweeneys.net/links/openletters/13fakeboobs.html.

Enjoy! And thank you very much for your website.

I'm 21 years old and since I've been old enough to notice breasts I've hated mine since they are 32 A's. I blame this hatred for my own body completely on the media but thanks to your wonderful web site I feel so much better about my breasts. I wish that the whole world would see it and realize that huge (fake ones) breasts are not the definition of beautiful breasts. I know that I will be sending your site out to all my girlfriends (and guy friends too) so that they can pass on the best breast site! Thank you so much for what you've done!!!!

Erin, Minnesota

I would like to comment on your web site. It is wonderful. It is so refreshing to see a site celebrating women who are "normal". Not some fantasy version of our mixed up world. I have been small busted all of my life and so self conscious of it to the point of looking into implant surgery so that I could feel like a sexy woman. I have breastfed 4 children with difficulty and very low milk supply. I have struggled with this issue and professionals telling me I have hypoplastic breasts, none of which have ever looked at my breasts! I now know I do not have hypoplastic breasts! I am pretty sure the majority of my breastmilk issue lies with improper latch and large consumption of parsley in a tabouli salad immediately after delivery. Parsley dries up breast milk. But I didn't get that off a professional! I found it our myself. I am now pregnant with no. 5 and anxious to get this little one on the breast. I am now proud of what God gave to me. I may be a 38A (and depressed because I have little change in breast size during pregnancy) but I have had engorgement with my prior pregnancies. Thanks for the site. I'd gladly pose for it proudly.
Sincerely,
Suzanne Saikaly

When I was about 12 or 13, I had an incident by where my cousin grabbed both of my breasts from behind me. She grabbed me so hard that it took my breath away. Today, I am an adult woman and I have inverted nipples. In my search to understand why this occurred, I have always wondered if this incident could of caused this. I have heard that damage to the nipple bud can cause it to be inverted. I would appreciate knowing. My email is . Thanks!

Polly, Are we thinking the same or what? I was a large b cup before i had my daughter, she's 3 years old now and i'm a d cup. i'm not overweight, i just got larger after pregnancy, i didnt breastfeed. But now the pain i feel everyday and not being able to run or play sports like i want to is really bothering me. My doctor has suggested a breast reduction and im scheduled in 3 weeks for the surgery. I can't wait. I still don't understnad why someone pays $1,000's of dollars to have breast like this, and i'm paying $,000's of dollars to get rid of them

What a brilliant site! I, like many women, have in the past often been made to feel 'inadequate' because I have average breasts, (I am a B cup). Though I would never dream of putting myself through cosmetic surgery, I can understand and sympathise how so many women become victims of this misguided notion that they 'need' it. After reading the information on this site, thanks to you, I feel confident and proud of my breasts, as ALL women should! Keep up the good work!

Stella Blackwell

I breastfed my daughter until she was 16 months old. My own Mother kept telling me I was breastfeeding her too long and I needed to wean her. She would scold me everytime she'd see me breastfeed my daughter. I am 26 years old and my Mom is 55. Was breastfeeding discouraged in her day as a young Mother?

I think breastfeeding is the best thing ever! My baby is extremely healthy- and has never had an ear infection. She is already super smart at 17 months. She talks in three word sentences. Also, I lost 100 pounds while breastfeeding her (gotta love that).

At the hospital, my daughter was vacuumed out causing her head to have a large abrasion on her scalp. The nurse told me to rub a little of my breastmilk on her cut several times a day. It worked and the cut healed in no time, without a scar. I call breaskmilk Mommy's Magic Solution.

I am thankful that I was able to produce milk and I really enjoyed breastfeeding my daughter and giving her the best chance at a healthy life.

Thanks for listening!

Malia Moss

Thank you,thank you!! I have been involved in life-skills education for a number of years and was given you web address regarding body image,changes,and parenting, absolutly wonderful!!!I have given your website to my students with the hope they will have a better understanding and acceptance of their bodies.

mike ed

Hi, im onl 15 and my breasts are really different. On of my nipples is huge and the other is normal and they are very different in size. the larger one seems to be 'folding'/'curving' onder the rest of the boob! its really weird to explain an many people say of everyone has odd boobs but no one has as odd boobs as i do. I'm wondering if i should have surgery when im onlder! Please help!

Chris

First, your breast development may not yet be fully finished - in some women it continues till the early 20s.  I understand that if your breasts look different from others, that it worries you.  Surgery could possibly fix how your breasts look like, but it can BRING problems, too.
Any kind of breast surgery can affect your future ability to produce a full milk supply, which is needed for successful breastfeeding.  Surgeons may tell you that you would be able to breastfeed, but they won't mention that often women with breast surgery won't produce a full supply for the baby.  (See for example Should You Have Breast Reduction Surgery?).  That would mean you would be forced to use infant formula - which is associated with many health risks for the baby.  If your nipple is normal but is just 'in a different place', it might only mean you will need to use some interesting breastfeeding positions.  Maybe you could contact a lactation consultant and ask for her opinion in the matter.  They are the experts when it comes to breastfeeding problems and so might know some more.
And I realize that breastfeeding and babies might be far from your mind right now, but in order to make wise decisions, one has to consider all future consequences.

I'm 30 years old and have never had sex. Needless to say, no guy has ever seen my breasts. Ever since I developed into my mature size, I've always thought my full C breasts were too saggy and off balance (an average C cup and a full C cup. I was convinced that guys would be completely turned off the moment I took off my bra. After seeing your site, I realize that, though my breasts may not look like hollywood perfection, they are actually pretty nice and if a guy isn't happy with what he sees, then the problem is definitely his. I like what I see in the mirror now. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart.
Lori

I have just recently become a vegetarian and become interested in healthy, natural living! What your articles have to say makes sense and I want to say at 22, breastfeeding and with a family background of breast cancer- thank you for your research- and I heartily agree on the silliness of sexualizing the breasts. To be honest, my husband didn't care too much about the changes in my now less perky breasts- he's just glad I have them! Thank you again- I'm going to start telling every woman I know about your articles!

sunnjoy

Thanks for making this site it has been reasuring and has reminded me of the true purpose of the "boob". I myself have very large breasts which sit naturally at the same level as my belly button. Being 22 i have felt a lot of social out casting due to my large breast size as well as discomfort in sleeping, exercise etc. and have been offered a breast reduction on the nhs. This was the answer to my dreams, but my partner thinks it not worth the risk... if only the world realized that it's the person inside that counts rather than the letters at the back of your bra.

polly

What a silly law in Wisconsin! "Harmful to children??" I challenge whoever made that law to look at 20 children, 5 of whom see breasts regularly (through breastfeeding, seeing their siblings breast feed, or even from a nude household), and pick out which ones have seen them and which ones haven't.

PW

I am a woman's rights advocate as it concerns womens' breasts. I believe fully that woman indeed should and have the absolute right to not wear a stupid bra, and be topfree just like men at the same places men are allowed to be. Total EQUAL rights ! Yes? Let's all jump on this bandwagon today, and DO something about it. Here is what I have done:
http://pffb.1afm.com/pffb.htm
That is a website I created, back in 2000, when I learned about bras being a trigger to the cause of breast cancer. Since that time, my wife and I have done what we can to promote bra and top freedom for women. It's time women were equal. True equality, not partial equality. Breasts were made for breast feeding, so what on earth have we done? Made it embarrasing to do it !!! man! And as far as that goes, I firmly believe in it, and believe a child who nurses decides when they are done nursing, not the other way around. If they want to nurse up until they are five, so what? What's wrong with that?

Chuck

I'm 13 and in my school girls have big breasts and it seemes that im the only one flat chested. People say that i still hae time to grow. And this site has helped me see that I do have time to grow.

Lisa

My co-worker at Cedars-Sinai Medical Center in Los Angeles got linked to your site while doing research on insufficient glandular tissue. I'm immpressed with what you are doing! Keep it up. We still have a long way to go. I've been helping helping mothers for 23 years and it seems to be just the same as it was back then, but we in Lactation know so much more as to why there are problems.

Patti Herrmann

I have read your web site and want to tell you how good it is. I have cerebral palsy and never was breast fed. I often wondered if I missed something. At one time I was a child abuse investigator, and never did I have to remove a child from the home because of the good bonding. I hope that you have a good day.

Michel

THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU!!!!!! It is so wonderful to finally find a site devoted to breastfeeding mothers, and educating the public who don't understand it. I have four children and have breastfed them all. They are all healthy and highly intelligent, which of course, I accredit to the breastfeeding. There are so many young mothers who just don't realize how important it is to breastfeed their babies, even if it is for only a short time. Keep up the great work. I truly appreciate all of your hard work, and just wanted to give you a pat on the back for it.

Gratefully and appreciatively,
Keisha E. Moore
past and current breastfeeding mother of four

What a great site! As a member of La Leche League for over 5 years and one who has experienced nursing a child past toddlerhood, I found your site wonderful! Keep up the good work.

I was embarrassed at times to nurse in public, especially after my child turned 2 years old, and then 3 years old... But each time I just held my head up high, knowing that what I was doing was good not only for my child, but for public opinion as well. I found enormous support at La Leche League meetings where I felt at home and so normal. I relished the time to be with a group of women all nursing their babies without the slightest embarrassment. However, I also wished for a society where I could openly nurse without seeing the squeamishness on other's faces. It never stopped me from nursing wherever I needed to. I've nursed sitting on a stack of chairs in Home Depot! I turned down every polite offer to nurse privately in a remote room by myself! Yes, America needs every nursing woman to come out from under the blanket, screen or door!

The picture area is a wonderful area to educate people about normal bodies. As they say, a picture is worth a thousand words! Thanks so much for your site!

Marla Nargundkar

Thank you for promoting breasts as organs for nourishment, I was trying to wean my 4 month baby, but she won't give up easily, so after reading about breasts, I'm going to continue breastfeeding her, until she weans herself. I feel bad about not breastfeeding my 4 yr old daughter longer than 3 months. I was misinformed about formula and breastfeeding.I come from Africa, and there's no issue about mothers breastfeeding their babies in public or anywhere they want. When it's a baby breastfeeding, people don't look at the breast as a sexual thing, if one makes a comment about it, they will definitely get into a verbal fight with the mother, besides only the rich can afford formula, that's why women in developing countries breastfeed for 1+ years. PLEASE KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK OF INFORMING THE PUBLIC ABOUT BREASTFEEDING AND IT'S BENEFITS.

Lilian

I have been fascinated/'obsessed' with breasts all of my life. I have been wondering why? The discussions posted on your website have helped me to understand the reasons behind my obsession with breasts. As from now on, I will start thinking about breasts in terms of their bodily function - milk producers and baby feeders. With time, I hope that I'll perceive women's breasts as no longer being primarily a source of sexual fantasy/arousal; but, as important glands responsible to produce life sustaining subtance (milk) to feed babies. In future, I sincerely hope to see the 'taboo' associated with breastfeeding disappear in the western culture and more sanctions placed on the multi-million dollar business of soft-porn, which explicitly exploits the primary use of women's breasts from sustaining life to sexual perversion.

Anon

Thank you very much for this website. I too am one of these unfortunate women who have low self images because of my breast size. And because of difficulties in finding a proper fitting bras I was beginning to view myself as a freak, Now I see that I am no different than any other woman. Thank you very much for changing my mind.

Carol

Thank YOU. All should see this! I wish I knew 20 years ago what I know now.
Beautiful. Absolutely beautiful.
It made me cry, but I'm doing a lot of that now, because I have so many things wrong with me. I'm hoping to have these 20 year old implants out and not replaced. Please wish me luck.

Molly Bloom

Thank you! This site is part of my personal journey to heal from all of the pain I've endured because of our society's obsession with objectifying the female body. I SO needed to stumble upon this site. I believe in working to educate young people about how much the media distorts reality and tears down womens' self esteem! Change is needed! Thanks for caring enough about this issue to put up this site. I wear a 32 A bra size and I'm beautiful.

pianogirl

I'm so glad I stumbled onto your site. I'm a Christian Naturist, and I see what our society has done to so many women, destroying their self-image and shaming them about their bodies. Now I have an informative site I can send someone to, so they can see for themselves the truth. Thank you.

PapaBear

I appreciate a site like yours. I'm a labor and delivery nurse and a pastor. For years I have despised the media's pornographic use of women, turning the God-designed female anatomy into a lust-inspiring commercial entity. It is a blatant statement of the sexual dysfunction of our society and of the twistedness of how our society values women. Some years ago I wrote this poem which I thought your staff might appreciate, especially the last few lines (which shows how open, public breastfeeding ought to be viewed). Your group, 007 Breasts, is doing a service to the value of women's breasts as tools of nurture, which is their true beauty in nature!

Sincerely,
David Hatton, RN

PORNOGRAPHY

Thank you so much for putting this site together. It is helping me mentally heal through the shame of having saggy breast!

Blue

I was married to a woman who already had two children, and we had no children of our own. (We have since divorced, but that's another story.) She said her first husband was jealous of her breastfeeding her children. I told her I wish I could have seen her breastfeeding them!

If I do marry again, I will definitely encourage my new spouse to breastfeed if we have children. This is somewhat unlikely given my age, but it's possible. And if the public gives her difficulties, I'll fight for her right to nurse that baby anywhere and everywhere!

John

This is a great site! I am writing a paper for my english class about this. I live in WI and there is a law against exposing the female breast because it is "harmful to children". I could not believe this! Seeing your site only re-states what I am arguing, and it is nice to know that you all are out there doing something about it!

Melissa

I don't have children (YET!!!), but when I do, I am definately going to breastfeed. I grew up on a farm, in a very open family, and breastfeeding is the most natural thing in the world to me. That's what they are there for, after all! Kudos to your excellent website!
Ellie

I have had a complex for quite some time about my imperfect breasts. It always upsets me to see these supermodels with big and perky breasts. Seeing it so much makes you believe that's the standard you have to live up to. Although it's difficult to convince myself otherwise, this site has helped me to move in that direction. Thank you.

newlywed

this is such a good site. it has made me feel so much better. i used to think i was abnormal. now i know... i'm normal :)

a teenager

I'm always struck by the concept some have that breastfeeding a baby should be done in private. Since when has eating been an "act to be done in private"?

Until every table at the public restaurant is curtained off, or every seat in the airplane is so curtained--for eating privacy!--then the very idea of a blanket needing to be draped over a breastfeeding mom and baby should be seen as similarly ridiculous.

Meiri

Love your site. It's well put together, includes references, and doesn't tiptoe around the facts. Bravo!

Nicole Anagnostopoulos

i think that women should be allowed to go places in public topless if they choose. there is no shame doing that. why can we (men) do but the females can't. that is discrimation against women and their rights.

que

Thanks alot for the information as it makes me feel alot better. I have always had this inferiority complex about my breast size even though they are not that oversized but to an extent they have grown in the last 2 years or so. I hated it when men look at my breasts in certain way, there were even some men who pass disgusting remarks by looking at my breast (very maniac). And I always used to compare with the others who have smaller breast n wished for one thinking that mine is abnormal but now after seeing this site i realised the fact that it's normal and there's nothing to be ashamed about. Thanks

Tina

I wish breast could been seen by all for what they are intended for- breastfeeding! I feel enraged that models and movie stars can expose their breast as sexual objects for $$$ and I have to try to hide mine while I try to feed my baby. My baby is 8 months and I have heard many comment that they think it is not "proper" to breastfeed a baby over one - or they think it is freaky to breastfeed an older baby! I am to be made to feel like a freak should I decide to continue to feed my baby passed age 1? While many know breast is best - most moms I know stop before 6 months- a well educated mom recently told me that passed 9 months your breastmilk is just water (she quit at 4 months). We need more education! Your website is great but I fear it is not being read by those that need to know this information. But I am encouraged by your website and it does give me more incentive to keep breastfeeding and challenge all who challenge me for doing it.
Thank you

Pamela

Congratulations on this excellent site. So many young women seem to be unaware that REAL breasts and nipples come in all shapes, sizes and colours, and that it is perfectly normal for the breasts to droop in later life. For years I hated using communal showers and changing rooms because my right breast and nipple are noticably larger than my left - I didn't realise until quite recently that this is very common! I'm now 43, and although my breasts are starting to droop a little I'm quite happy with their size and shape. It's an awful shame that so many women feel compelled to have breast implants, which in my opinion look grotesque.

Julia D Atkinson

I am in favor of encouraging public breast feeding. I am glad to see your website promoting this. I didn't realize that public breastfeeding was legal throughout the U.S., and that there is no requirement to cover the breast while breastfeeding. I enjoyed seeing all the pictures of normal breasts. At 43, I do wonder if my breasts are still "attractive", even though my partner keeps saying they are. It is nice to be reminded that they are normal.

Terry Farrah

I've been checking your site out since you posted on bfmoms.com and asked for input. I love it! I am a bfing mama and I nip (nurse in public) every day. I do all that I can to advocate bfing, especially womens rights to do it in public. I never cover up. I do what I need to to feed my baby comfortably. You rock for making this site!!! :)
Emily
Portland, Oregon

Can't thank you enough for this site!! I have nursed two children and was a bit distressed at how my breasts seem to have assumed their new lower position! I went onto the web to see if I could find some information on what happens to breasts during pregnancy/lactation and weaning so I will know what to expect. I was so dismayed that most of the links I could find were to plastic surgeon's sites which offer services to 'repair the damage' done by pregnancy and breastfeeding. What depressed me futher was that the women's breasts in the 'before' photos tended to look better than I thought my own did!! Anyway, then I came across THIS site and what a relief to see actual normal (beautiful) breasts on real women (i.e. not 'Hollywood' breasts). I found your links very informative also and ripped off my annoying and painful 'nursing' bra while reading one of them and I don't plan to put it back on!

Keep up the good work and I sure wish North Americans would move away from this obsession and delusion about womens breasts having to be round hard balls with nipples pointing up to the sky!

Marlene

I love this site. Men and society in general jsut need to get over it. God created me with breasts to feed, comfort, and nourish my children. I refuse to see them any other way.

Jenny

You are definitely doing a good job.
I am psychiatrist from india and see that the rural mother is more comfortable feeding her baby than the `educated` urban one. The bottle is common a viev nowadays that one has to remind oneself that a mother can indeed feed her baby even in public. Fortunately in India a brestfeeding mother has always been looked upon with care and respect. I agree that breast has been erotisised to the extent that its only function seems to attract men. I have also noticed something like performance anxity in a mother, she thinks her milk might not be enough for the baby, while the doctors always say that this is unlikely. These mothers then anxiously turn to stop feedings. Antenatal counselling should definitely help.
Regards

dr bhadlikar

I think you have a great site here. I was at centre island on the weekend, and I saw a women breastfeeding her 20 month old son. We talked a little, I told her that more women should do the same thing. My two little girls were breastfed until they were 2 years old.

Robert Rayner

Your site is very informative in a very interesting yet proper way. This is the kind of education that our children should get in school. My hat's off to you!

Eli

This is an awesome site!!! Everybody seems to think that women deserve to be treated like sex objects. If it weren't for the female-promoting sites on the internet, I would probably turn into one of those self-damaging girls with no self esteem. THANK YOU!
To whoever that has read Amanda's comment: it is so true, developing girls need encouragement in order to accept their own breasts.

jane feminist

I am so shocked that the cause of my breast pan was from bras. i have bought so many bras over the years and am getting sick of it. I will be attempting the no bra for the second time. i believe that this time it will be successful. I love the idea of the gallery. I feel better about my breasts. They are normal and natural the way they should be. Keep it up spread the word.

Gemma Santiago

I am "so" impressed with your web site. Oh boy! You have really encouraged me. I am a breastfeeding peer councelor, but more importantly, I am a young woman of God who has a mission to minister(serve) especially the family of God with education, promotion and assistance in (Nutritional Health & Beauty Support)the area of breastfeeding, which I believe is God's best! I am saying, "Amen,amen to your comments, your concerns and your wisdom in the area of breastfeeding. I have been persecuted by many in church and out and have grown to know that God is not ashamed of me. He made the breasts. He gave them the ability to produce milk. It's His wisdom(way) so why am I going to allow someone to make me feel guilty, embarrased or ashamed about how the Lord obviously wants me to feed our children. So thank you, thank you! And keep it up! Oh, I am using a pic of you in the sun nursing for a newsletter (Chicago Breastfeeds)article called Getting Solar Vitamin D. It's great!

Latasha

Your site can do so much to help many people change the way they think about breastfeeding. Thank you so much.

Cecilia

I have very large breasts and am tired of people assuming that I am the "perfect candidate" for breastfeeding. I was not able to do so with my first child due to medical problems and am now pregnant with my second child and am much more relaxed about it and will just have to see how it goes!

As for bras...I hate them!!! It's very difficult to find a bra that is the correct size for me, and I find them very uncomfortable. I wear a plain cotton sports bra while I'm out and about for some support, but always go brafree at home, while gardening, etc.

Elizabeth

Women seem to make much more fuss about breast size than the men I know do. If you like a woman, you like her breasts, as you like her hands or anything...Take any woman with "perfect" breasts and a horrible character at 20... At 40 or 50 the perfect body will be history, but her character will be as bad as if she were still 20...I'd rather have a flatchested woman with a nice character...

Jacques

Very nice site, I could not have said it all better myself. I will pass it along to everyone on my email list!

Kendra

AWESOME SITE! I feel better after having read this. This is a good site for teens with developing bodies, to show how everyone matures differently, and that each one is normal. Breasts are not something to be ashamed of!

Amanda

Amen. I love your site. It's about time someone said what every woman is thinking!

i love you

I can't tell you how much this site has meant to me. Thank you so much! I've always felt my breasts were ugly because I have large areola and all the breasts I've ever seen were in movies or in magazines and they all have small to medium sized areola. I was beginning to think I was a freak, and it was very emotionally and psychologically distressing. But, then I thought about it and I reasoned that someone on the planet had to look like me. So, I went online to find something to convince me that I'm not a freak, I'm beautiful. I can't tell you how much junk I had to sift through before I found this site, but I am so happy I did! You need to publicise this site more for girls like me who may be beginning to think they're ugly freaks. Thank you again. Great Website!

Stefanie

Not only do I think we should go braless but I think we should have the right to go topless, and men should respect us for that.

sam sowell

Hey- I'm so glad to know I'm not the only one out there who has assymetrical breasts! I am also lactating, and I think breats are BEAUTIFUL!!!

Leah

I have nursed two babies and before I got pregnant with my first child my breast were always an issue for me. I felt they were too small and the were not the perky round breasts I had been used to seeing in magazines and movies. Mine had a very large areola and not much else. Just and areola enlarged with a small amount of breast flesh raised up. I always felt they were not attractive. When I got pregnant The climate I live in was hot and a bra was uncomfortabe due to the heat. So I did not wear one. Once my breasts began to enlarge and milk began to produce in the breasts mine took on a naturally sagging apperance with an elongated areola. After nursing my child and realizing from the experience that in fact they are not sexual organs at all I began to accept them more. During my second pregnancy I did wear a bra. I guess deep down I had wondered if breastfeeding and the lack of wearing a bra had made my breasts sag so much. After nursing my second child for over a year I have not sagged any further but not due to wearing a bra. It is because my breasts assumed their natural lower position. It is as if breastfeeding breast gravitate to a new position lower and closer to your babies mouth making it easy to rest your baby in you arms and be comfortable as opposed to having perky breasts which you would have to raise your baby up very high and hold them there for as long as they nursed. How uncomfortabel! to summarize, my breasts are for my baby and she does not care that they are not perky and round. She loves them so much because they give her warm sweet milk and she loves me.......

Renae

This is great seeing normal breasts as opposed to (hollywood) Breasts is great. It makes women with breasts like mine that are not the same size and which do not stand as perky as tv and other advertising propaganda potray them to be like. I am happy with my breasts because they do the job they were given to me to do: feed my babies. And for the past three years they have done just that. I have nursed two boys one 3 and the other 16 months and I continue to nurse them both.. Until they are ready to give it up.. It is theirs in fact so who am I to set a limit and time restraints.

Lisa

This is by far the best site I have seen promoting breastfeeding as a source of feeding, love and comfort for the child and educating the public about how twisted our society has become regarding breastfeeding. Like so many others, I was made to feel "dirty" for "still" nursing my 18-month-old son and weaned him because of it. Since the birth of our daughter, I have visited many websites for education and support about extended breastfeeding. She has just turned a year, and we will go on nursing happily as long as she wants to, and I refuse to give it up because society says I should!
-Laura
Mom to 3 beautiful breastfed babies

American men ARE babies when it comes to breasts...and pigs. It's way past time to accept breasts as what they are...an organ to feed babies...they are nice to see but the obsession with them is sickening. Let women be top free or make us men wear tops..that'd cause a lot of men to change their views on the subject

Elery

I see your points but no one has mentioned any benefits from wearing a bra at all? My chest size is 30 E (a little over that depending on my menstrual cycle) and my dress size is UK 8. I can honestly say having tried and tested the theory that my back pain increases significantly when I do not wear a bra. Sagging, morality, and sex are nothing to do with it - it is simply a way of aiding me with the extra chest weight that I have. I don't think there is an acknowledgment of the benefits of bras for people who have very large breasts and need help with the excess weight.

I also find that wearing a good bra that is supportive and that has been fitted properly stops unwanted men from staring at my breasts quite so much - more importantly it stops me from slouching.

Elise

Wow I feel normal now! Thanks! Since I had my daughter four months ago I noticed they're not as perky, and felt sort of upset about it but now seeing what normal breast look like I feel better. So the perky super models, and them famous woman aren't normal then that have perky ones (they are fake mostly!). I wear a nursing bra and underwear to bed. I'll have to try sleeping without a bra tonight to see how that goes.

Martica

I haven't worn a bra for years and I truly love it! Wearing a bra was torture! the wires, the elastics...if men want to see women wearing bras, they should try wearing them before they say anything!

charlotte

I really love your site and all the content it is very informative and helpful, the wearing a bra and how it connected with breast cancer really hit home thank you and keep up the good work.

A nursing mother of two boys

What a wonderful site! At last I dont feel like a freak cause I feel that breasts are for babies, full stop! I'm so proud of my body, although its not 'perfect' in the eyes of society....it has grown and fed my babies very nicely, thank you!!!........

purplegirl

It is a really great site!

Your site was a real encouragement to me. keep up the good work!

Heather

VERY interesting site...thanks so much for sharing it with us! 
I do believe in the vicious cycle idea...our culture moved from breastfeeding to bottlefeeding and this led to breasts being objectified because they were "forbidden" from their original purpose, thereby increasing their sexualization, which negatively impacted breastfeeding rates because husbands were jealous/others were disgusted...

Selina
AP, WOHM to 2 happy breastfed kids
Michael 2/6/97 and Andrea 2/4/02!!!

I just wanted to say thank you for your wonderful site. I have 3 girls ages 4, 2 and 6 months. All of whom have been breastfed (the youngest is still being breastfed). It has irritated me from day one how people think of the breast as sexual instead of what they were actually intended for.

I was once at a craft show. I at the time was a breastfeeding mom to my second child. I saw a lady breastfeeding her daughter standing up. I made my way to her and told her that I wish my daughter wasn't so heavy so that I could stand up and feed like she was. Then at about that time another woman passed us and I heard her say that she could not believe the she was "doing that" it really upset me!!

My other breastfeeding story goes like this :) I was at my brother in law's house the other night and somehow we got on the subject of breastfeeding. Well, he's not to "hip" on it (probably because his wife nor his mother breastfed). My brother in law mentioned that when he and his wife was at the infertility clinic when trying to conceive their now 8 year old, one of the nurses said that she was still breastfeeding her 5 year old. He said he though that was disgusting and that at 5 years old it was perverted.

Marrisa Brown

Maria, thanks for your posting and link to a great web site. I though it was very informative and it also made me mad to think how much I as a male have been duped into believing that the breast is a sexual body part instead of a wonderful baby feeding machine. I feel I have a greater appreciation of the female breasts and will never look at them in the same as before visiting the site. This is just another way our world is so screwed up about its views on God's beautiful creation, THE HUMAN BODY. When will we wake up to the truth!

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